Ukuzimela, okanye ukwesaba ukuba yedwa, kukubamba-lonke ixesha kwixesha elithile lokwesaba okukhulu. Abanye abantu bayesaba ukungabikho komntu othile. Abanye banokwesaba ukuhlala bodwa okanye behlala bodwa. Sekunjalo, abanye bayesaba ukuba bodwa ekhaya. Ukukhathazeka ngelixa yedwa yinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa i-phobia egcweleyo ayinqabile.
Ukoyika Ukuba Ngaphandle Kwomnye
Uninzi lwabantu luyakwazi ukubona umntu okanye abantu abambalwa abasebenza njengenkqubo yokuxhasa. Abantu zizidalwa zentlalo, kwaye siziziva sikhululekile xa singabelana ngempumelelo yethu nemingeni nomntu esithembe ngakumbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi baziva bengakhululeki xa iqabane lihamba ngorhwebo okanye mhlawumbi kude nekhaya, abantwana banokuba nobunzima bokuhlala kunye nosapho olude, kwaye intsha ingethusa xa umhlobo omhle ehamba.
Uninzi lwexesha, ezi zinyameko kwaye zifutshane. Ukuthetha ngefowuni okanye kwi-intanethi kubakho ngokwaneleyo ukukhupha intlungu. Ezinye iintsapho zenza imicimbi, efana nokuba neyodwa into yokutya okanye ukuthumela ii-imeyile ezizodwa ngexesha elifanayo ubusuku bonke, ukuhlonipha ubudlelwane. Ezi zithethe zithatha ukubaluleka ngokukhethekileyo xa ilungu lentsapho lihambile ngaphezu kweentsuku ezimbalwa.
Kwabanye abantu, nangona kunjalo, uloyiko luseta xa kunomntu othandekayo oshiya indlu.
Ukuba unaloyiko, unokuba nexhala xa umthandi wakho ehamba emsebenzini, uhambela nabahlobo okanye uthatha inxaxheba kwixesha lokuzonwabisa. Kwiimeko ezinzima, abanye abantu bayesaba umthandayo ukuba abe kwigumbi elithile lendlu.
Olu loyiko luqhelekileyo kubantwana abancinci . Ngokuqhelekileyo kuqwalaselwa njengenxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso kwaye ayifumananga ukuba unesimo - ngokuqhelekileyo ukuxhalabisa ukukhathazeka kwengxaki - ngaphandle kokuba kuthatha iinyanga ezintandathu okanye kukhulu kakhulu.
Khangela kunye nezingane zakho ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ekhuselekileyo.
Uloyiko lokuba Wodwa kuLuntu
Ukwesaba ukuba yedwa kuluntu kunokudibaniswa kwiimeko ezifana ne- social phobia okanye i-agoraphobia. Ukuba awuhlali ukhululekile ukuba ube semzini, umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho liyathuthuzela. Iqabane lakho ngumntu onokugxila kulo, kunye nomntu ofuna ukuguqula ingqalelo abantu abangabazi. Abantu abaninzi abanalo loyiko baziva bengenasiphelo kwaye bengakhululeki njengokuba babonakala ekudleni okanye kuthengisa bodwa.
Ukoyika Ukuba Yedwa Ekhaya
Ukwesaba ukuhlala kwindlu rhoqo, nangona kunjalo kungekho njalo, kuxhomekeke kwimoyiko yeemeko ezingxamisekileyo ezivela. Ukugqithiswa kwemibhobho, iingxaki zokulungisa ikhaya, kunye nokulimala ngokuqhelekileyo zixela ukutya. Ezi nkxalabo zinokuphakanyiswa kubantu abangazithembeli ngokupheleleyo ngokwabo nangokwamasiko abo. Unokuba ukhathazeke kukuba uya kuthatha isigqibo ngokungafanelekanga xa kuvela imeko engxamisekileyo.
Abanye abantu besaba ukuba bodwa kunye neengcamango zabo. Ukuba unengxaki yokuxinezeleka okanye uxhalabisayo, unokuzama ukulwa nemvakalelo yakho ngokuhlala uxakekile. Unokwentsaba ukuba xa ungenalo mntu uthetha naye, awuyi kukwazi ukujamelana neengcamango zakho. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba le yindlela yokwedwa .
Ukuziva ngokwenene "yedwa" kunokubonakalisa ukuphazamiseka komntu , nangona umahluko ufihlekile. Funa iingcebiso ezivela kwizakhono eziqeqeshiwe ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uziva njani.
Kakade ke, kwezinye iimeko, ukwesaba kunokuqiqa. I-Phobias ayifumananga ukuba uloyiko lunengqiqo kwaye ngokumalunga nale meko. Ukuba unobandezelekayo okanye uhlala kwindawo eyingozi, ukukhathazeka kwakho kunokuba kunengqiqo. Abantu abaninzi kule meko bafumana iindlela zokunciphisa ingozi, njengokufumana inja okanye inkqubo yokulumka kwezokwelapha.
Ukwesaba Ukuphila Kuphela
Ukwesaba ukuhlala yedwa kudla ukwanda kokwesaba ukuba yedwa ekhaya.
Abanye abantu bahlala bekhululekile ukuhlala ekhaya ngemini okanye emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa kodwa abanakuxhatshazwa ngcamango yokuchitha ixesha elide elihlala bodwa. Njengoko ukwesaba ukuba yedwa ekhaya, loloyiko luvame ukuxhomekeka ekungabi nantembelo. Unokhathazeka ukuba awukwazi ukunyamekela indlu, uphendule kwiimeko ezikhawulezayo, okanye uzinakekele iimfuno zakho ezisisiseko.
Ukujamelana Neloyiko
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yeyiphi iifom ezithathayo, ungathuthuzelwa kwiindlela ezimbalwa zobuchule. Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba isandi senzondo sinceda. Ekhaya, vula ithelevishini okanye umsakazo. Landa ama-movie okanye umculo omfisha. Xa uluntu, cinga ukuphatha i-MP3 player.
Ukubandakanyeka kumsebenzi othabathayo kunceda ukudlula ixesha. Funda incwadi, ugqonge iwebhu, okanye ulahleke kwi-movie. Ukuphatha i-smartphone, ithebhulethi okanye ikhompyutheni yeencwadana ikunika into ekugxilwe kuyo ngelixa libala.
Abantu abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba ukuphumla kunamazinga aphantsi okuxhalabisa kwaye kunokuthintela ukuhlaselwa kwesifo . Ukuphefumla okunenjongo , ukucamngca kunye ne-aromatherapy kulula ukufunda kwaye ingasetyenziswa naphi na.
Ukufumana Uncedo
Ukuba uloyiko lokuba yedwa lukhulu, okanye ukuba luchaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, isisombululo esihle kakhulu kukufuna unyango lwezonyango. Njengazo zonke i-phobias, ukwesaba ukuba yedwa kuyasabela kakuhle kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango . Ngenxa yokuba ukuxhaphaza ngamanye amaxesha kunxulumene nolunye uloyiko, ugqirha wakho uza kudala isicwangciso sonyango esisodwa esijongene nazo zonke iinkxalabo zakho.
Umthombo:
Umbutho wezeMpilo waseMerika. (1994). Incwadana yokuxilonga kunye neenkcukacha zeengxaki zengqondo (4 Ed.). Washington, DC: Umbhali.