Jonga indlela ukuguquka komntu ongapheliyo kunokuchaphazela imfundo yesibini
Ukuphila nomngcipheko wobuntu obumdeni (BPD) kuthinta phantse yonke indawo yobomi bakho, ngakumbi apho kukho abantu ababandakanyekayo. Siyazi nokuba ukuba ne-BPD inokuchaphazela impumelelo yekholejini . Makhe sijonge umzekelo womntu oya kwiikholeji nge-BPD, kunye nemibandela ethile enokuvela.
Umzekelo Wokuphila kunye neNgcaciso yoMntu woLuntu (BPD) kwiKholeji
Ibali linokulingana namawaka ngamazwi xa kuziwa ekuchazeni indlela ukukhubazeka komntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) kunokuchaphazela iikholeji okanye isipiliyoni seyunivesithi.
Ukuze uchaze bhetele kunye namava kunye nomba umntu ophethe i-BPD unokujongana, siya kusebenzisa ingxelo yecala lomfazi ogama lakhe litshintshile kuMariya ukukhusela ubumfihlo bakhe.
Njengoko ufunda kulo mzekelo, cinga ngobomi bakho. Ngaba uye wajamelana neemeko ezinjengezo zijamelene noMarta? Ngaba unakho ukuphendula okufanayo? Emva koko funda ukufunda malunga nokuba ezinye zeemeko eziqhelekileyo ezijongene nabantu abaneBPD zingadlala indima.
Imvelaphi kuMarta kunye neNgxaki Yomntu Wemida Yomda
Masiqale ekuqaleni. Emva kokuba uthathe unyaka odlulileyo, uMarta uceba ukubuyela kwikholejini ekuwa. Ukuphuka kwakhe kwavela ngenxa yokungathathi inxaxheba kwiklasi yangaphambili. UMarta wayebonakala eshiya phakathi kwe-semester yakhe yokugqibela; wayeke ukuya eklasini, wajika kuphela ezinye izabelo zakhe waza waqala ukuhamba. Eyesongelo ngophando lwezemfundo, wanquma ukuhlala ngaphandle konyaka aze ahlangane.
Oku kwakungesihlandlo sokuqala sokuba uMarta abe neengxaki kwiikholeji. Esikolweni esiphakeme, wayesoloko engumfundi onamandla kwaye egxile. Xa waqala ikholeji, ikusasa lakhe lalibonakala lihleli kwaye licacile. Ngesinye isizathu, uMarta wayecwangcise ukuqala nokuqhuba isiseko esingenasisiseko kumantombazana aselula. Emva kokuba eqale isikolo, ke, izicwangciso zakhe zaqala ukuhamba.
Ubuntu boMda oMgca buchazwe nguTshintsho
Xa uMarta ethatha ikhefu lakhe ekholejini, wayesitshintshile ngokuphindaphindiweyo kathathu kwiminyaka emibini kwaye wayecinga ukuguqula kwakhona. Wayeqalile ukuphuma waya kwimivalo kuze kube yileyure yentsasa, esoloko ephuza egumbini lakhe lokulala ngaphambi kokuphuma (mhlawumbi indlela yokuzilayeza .) Kwakungavamile ukuba avuke engazi apho yena okanye bekunayo.
Kulo lonke le nto, wayenokwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba kwiiklasi ngokwaneleyo ukugcina intloko yakhe ngaphezu kwamanzi. Kodwa kwi-semester yakhe yokugqibela, wayeka ukuhamba okanye wenza into eninzi.
Ukuphela kunye nemiphumo yeBPD Symptoms
I-semester kaMarta yokugqibela sele iqalile ngenqanaba lomdla eliye laphazamisa i-semester yokuqala kwikholeji. Ekugqibeleni wakwazi ukubhalisa kwiklasi efundiswa nguprofesa owaziwayo eyunivesithi. Wayeza kuthulula yonke imizamo yakhe kwizabelo zeklasini aze ayeke nokuphuma. Wayevakalelwa kukuba wayexhomekeke kunye nabafundi beklasi naye.
UMarta waxakeka xa amaphepha akhe engabonakali njengento ekhethekileyo. Uprofesa akazange abonakale embona njengomfundi ophakamileyo. KuMarta, kwakubonakala ngathi unjingalwazi akazange amthande.
(Cinga ngezinto uMarta azenzayo apha. Ngaba unake wenze into efana nale ndawo?
Xa uMarta ebhekisela kwabanye abafundi bakhe, babeya kumqinisekisa ukuba uprofesa wayephatha bonke abafundi ngokufanayo. Ukungabi naso kokuqinisekiswa kwakuchukumisa kakhulu kwaye kwavakalelwa kukuba kunqatshelwe. UMarta wayenomdla kwaye ecaphukile xa ecinga ngeklasi.
( Ukungabikho kokuqinisekiswa ebuntwaneni kuthathwa njengenye yeemeko zobungozi bokukhathazeka komntu ongenamkhawulo, kunye neengcamango ezichazwayo okanye ibakala kule ngxaki zikhubaza, zingakhumbuza iingcinga ezininzi ezilimazayo ukucinga.)
UMarta wayeka ukuya kule klasi. Mhlawumbi wayecinga ukuba ukungabikho kwegalelo lakhe elixabisekileyo liza kubakho. Okanye, mhlawumbi wayethukuthele kwaye akafuni ukuhlala apho kwakungenjalo, okanye wayefuna ukuba wonke umntu azi ukuba wayebuhlungu kangakanani. Kungekudala wayeka ukuya kwezinye iiklasi ngokunjalo.
(Kuba ngumntu ongaphandle, lo mkhuba ungabonakala ngokucacileyo ukuzithiba, kodwa kumntu ohlala kunye nomngcipheko wobuntu, ukuhlambalaza kunzulu.)
Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zeBPD
Kulo mzekelo, uMarta ubonisa oku kulandelayo:
- Ubudlelwane obunzulu / obuzinzileyo : Ubungqina bokuqala bukaMarta malunga noprofesa wakhe kunye nabafundi afunda nabo banomdla kwaye banengqondo . Uvakalelwa kukuba udibanisa kunye nabafundi afunda nabo kwaye wachaza ngokucacileyo uprofesa wakhe. Ezi mpazamo zikhawuleza zitshintshe ngokukhawuleza, ziguqula ngokusisigxina uMartha ukuba azibonele ngamava akhe. Uqala ukubona abafundi bakhe beklasini bengabonakali kwaye unjingalwazi wakhe ngokumkhetha ngoba engamqapheli.
- Ukuqhekeza : Xa uMarta ejonga ngayo utshintshile kwenye yexabiso, ukuguqulwa kwezinto ezilungileyo kukubi. Akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba waziva ehlukileyo.
- Ubunene Ukwenqatshwa : U- Martha wayenomdla wokwenqaba ukucinga ukukhanyela iingcamango ezazithandwa ngumfundisi kunye nabafundi afunda nabo. Ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zabo akunakwazi kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba lube noluntu oluninzi kumava kaMarta kubo.
Ukuziphatha okuzilimazayo: uMarta wayedla ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye wayenobungozi. Wayeza kuvuswa nabantu abangaziwa kunye nakwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga. Ukusetyenziswa kwakhe kotywala kwabangela ukuba akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezikhuselekileyo malunga nalawo achitha ixesha lakhe.
Ubungozi bokuphazamiseka: Ingqondo kaMarta ngokuba ngubani kwaye wayefuna ukwenza ntoni Emva kokungena kwikholeji, waphelelwa yinto yokuzimela kwaye wafumanisa ukugxila ekujoliseni okucacileyo okujoliswe kuyo.
Ukujamelana neNgxaki yokuBantu obuPhezulu (BPD)
Abantu abaninzi abaneBPD baya kuzibona, ubuncinane kwinqanaba elithile, kumzekelo uchazwe ngasentla. Inkqubo yokufunda ngale mzekelo inokukwenza uzive ufuna ukuhamba ukuxabela uMartha, njengoko uqonda intlungu entliziyweni yakhe eyakhokelela ekukhethweni kwakhe.
Oko kubalulekile ukuyiqonda kukuba indlela yokusebenzisana eqhubekayo ingatshintshwa. Kwaye ukutshintsha akudingeki ukuba kuvela kumntu oguqula utshintsho zabo iindlela, kodwa kunokuba utshintshe indlela ochaza ngayo iziganeko, kwaye ukwenza njalo, utshintshe indlela ophendula ngayo kwinto eyenzekayo.
Ukujonga imizekelo ebomini bakho kunokunceda xa bephukile njengoko ibali likaMariya lilapha. Ukuba uhlala ne-BPD, fumana i-goodrapist engakwazi ukukunceda ukuba usebenze ngemiba echaphazelekayo yi-BPD.
> Imithombo:
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