Ukuba uke wazama ukufumana umcali, uyazi ukuba akuyona into elula. Ngeentlobo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zabanikezeli abanokuzikhetha kuzo, kunokudideka, ukuchitha ixesha kunye nokuphazamiseka. Kodwa, enezixhobo ezinolwazi oluncinane, ungaqala ingqondo yengqondo kunye nomntu olungele wena.
Yazi Oko Ufunayo
Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukufumana ugqirha, isinyathelo sokuqala ukwazi kakuhle oko ufunayo.
Zichitha ixesha elithile uphando kunye nokucinga malunga nento nganye echazwe ngezantsi. Qinisekisa ukuhlawula amanqaku ukuze ukwazi ukunxibelelana ngeemfuno zakho ngokufanelekileyo xa uqala ukukhangela. Nazi ezinye izinto okumele uziqwalasele:
Zakho iimfuno
Okokuqala, cinga apho ukhona kwinkqubo yakho yokufuna unyango kunye nento oyifunayo kwangoku. Ukuba ufuna uncedo kuba unengxaki (unengcamango yokuzilimaza okanye umnye umntu, umzekelo), ungayinaki yonke le uluhlu, kwaye ungabiza nge-911, uye kwigumbi eliphuthumayo elisondeleyo, okanye ubiza iNational I-Hotline yokuzibulala ngo-1-800-273-UKUQALA (ukuba u-United States.)
Ukuba awukho entlekweni kodwa ungakaze ubone umboneleli wempilo yengqondo ngaphambili, kuya kufuneka uqale ubone umntu ovavanyo olupheleleyo ukuze aqonde ukuxilongwa kwakho kwaye uphuhlise isicwangciso sococo olucacileyo. Ukuba sele sele ufumene ukuxilongwa, mhlawumbi ukhangele umntu onokwenza i-psychotherapy yexesha elide.
Okanye, mhlawumbi sele unomguqirha wexesha elide kwaye ufuna nje ukufumana uphando ngomsebenzi othile wexesha elifutshane kwimiba ethile; ukuba okokugqibela, kufuneka uxoxe nomphathi wakho wangoku malunga naloo nto.
Indawo kunye Nokufumaneka
Qinisekisa ukuba ugqirha unokufumana ukufana neshedyuli yakho.
Kwakhona, cinga indawo yakhe. Uhlala uzimisele kangakanani ukuhamba? Ngaba udinga ugqirha ofikeleleka ngothutho loluntu? Ngaba uzimisele ukuhamba phambili kumgqirha onobuchule obukhethekileyo okanye obalaseleyo umdlalo wobulumko? Okanye, ngaba lula ukuba kubaluleke kakhulu? Khumbula, unyango lusebenza kuphela ukuba unako ukwenza ukuba kuqeshwe ngokuqhubekayo, ngoko ukucwangciswa kunye nendawo ingabaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga.
Ukuhlawula Iingcali
Iingcali ze-Psychotherapists ziyakwamukela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuhlawula, ngoko kubalulekile ukwazi indlela kwaye ungathanda ukuhlawula phi. Ukuba unomshuwalense wezempilo, qalisa ngokubiza inkampani yakho yenkampani yinshuwalense kwaye ubuza malunga neenzuzo zempilo yakho yengqondo. Ngaba bayakujonga unyango lwangaphandle ? Ngaba kukho intlawulo-ntlawulo ebandakanyekayo? Zingaphi iiseshoni ezifihliweyo? Ukuba i-inshorensi yakho ihlanganisa kuphela iiprospathi ezithile, inkampani yinshurensi iya kuba nakho ukunika uluhlu lwababoneleli abavunyiweyo.
Abanye abagqirha bayamkela kuphela izigulane ezihlawula ngaphandle. Kule meko, uninzi luya kunika irisidi ukuze ungenise kwiinkampani zakho ze-inshorensi ukubuyisela, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Unokubuza malunga nokuba ngaba baya kucinga ngemali ephantsi ukuba iindleko zingaphezu kweendlela zakho.
Uluhlu kunye neNqanaba loLwazi
Enye into ekufuneka uyiqwalasele ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ukuze ufumane umgqirha yintoni uhlobo kunye nenqanaba lobuchule obufunayo. Cinga ngeengxaki ofuna uncedo ngazo. Kukho iiprogram ezizodwa ezixhomekeke kule nkxalabo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ufuna ukusebenzela ntoni (kwaye le nto ingumgqirha unokukunceda uqonde), zama ukufumana ingcamango jikelele malunga neenjongo zakho zonyango. Ufanele ukwazi, nangona kunjalo, ubu bungcali buyakwazi ukudibana neendleko eziphezulu zeenkonzo. Nangona oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ufanele ulindele ukuhlawula ngaphezulu xa uzimisele nje ukusebenza kunye nomgqirha wobungcali obuphezulu kakhulu.
Xa ucinga ngezinga lobuchule, khumbula ukuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeenkonzo zempilo yengqondo ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zoqeqesho. Uqeqesho olungakumbi aluthethi ukuba umgqirha unamandla ngakumbi, kodwa qwalasela ukuba unokhetho, kwaye ufunde kabanzi malunga neentlobo zempilo yabanikezeli bezempilo .
ZoLwazi ngezoBomi
Iingcali ezihlukeneyo zivela kwizikolo ezahlukahlukeneyo zokucinga malunga nendlela unyango olusebenza ngayo kwaye zeziphi iindlela ezivelisa iziphumo ezilungileyo. Ezi zikolo zengcamango zibizwa ngokuba "zikhokelo." Umzekelo, umntu oqhelanisiweyo nokuziphatha ngokukholelwayo uyazikholelwa ukuba iingcamango neziphathamandla zibophelelwe iimpawu, kwaye ziza kuqhuba unyango olujoliswe ekutshintsheni iimpawu ezinengxaki kunye neendlela zokucinga ngokuthe ngqo (ngokuqhelekileyo ngomsebenzi wesikolo nasemisebenzini yeseshoni). Ngokwahlukileyo, umntu onokwakheka kwengqondo kwengqondo uyazikholelwa ukuba iimpawu zihambelana neenkqubo ezingaphandle kwesaziso somguli oza kukhanya ngokusebenzisana nomgqirha.
Zininzi ezinye iinkalo, kwaye abanye abagqirha bababhalisela ngaphezulu kweyodwa. Cinga okufutshane malunga nokuba yiyiphi enye into ekhululekile okanye umdlalo obalaseleyo, kwaye qi niqiniseke ukuba ubuze nayiphi na ingcali yeengcali malunga nokuqhelaniswa kwabo kunye nendlela abaya kuchaza ngayo indlela yabo kwonyango.
Qala Ukukhangela Kwakho
Emva kokuba unengcamango elungileyo malunga noko ukhangeleyo, sekuyisikhathi sokufumana ugqirha. Ukongeza kwinkampani yakho yomshuwalense, unokucela ukuba uhanjiswe kubahlobo, intsapho, ugqirha wakho wokunakekela, okanye abanye ababoneleli bonyango. Kukho izixhobo ezintle kwi-intanethi ukukunceda ufumane uphando, kuquka u-UCompare Health Care Psychiatry Search, uMbutho weZenzo zokuziphatha noCognitive, kunye noMbutho we-American Psychological Association.
Xa ubiza abaphiki beengcali, yenza uluhlu lwakho lwemibuzo / amanqaku ngesandla. Zama ukubuza yonke imibuzo, nokuba uvakalelwa. Ungakulibali ukubuza malunga nentlawulo yentlawulo, ukucwangcisa, uqeqesho, ubuchule kunye namava kwindawo ongathanda ukusebenza kuyo, njl.
Therapist "Ukuthenga"
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba kuthatha ixesha lokufumana umcali. Kufuneka uxoxe nabaviwa abaninzi kwi-fowuni kwaye uzive ukuba ngaba bahlangabezana neemfuno zakho. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba udinga ukudibana neengcali ezininzi ngaphambi kokuba ufumane lowo oza kusebenza kakuhle kuwe. Abantu abaninzi abayazi ukuba uphando "uphepha" luyinto efanelekileyo eyamkelekileyo. Kumele ukhethe umgqirha olungele wena.