Umngcipheko woMntu woMda weMida ungenza Ubudlelwane bunzima ngakumbi
Ngaba ukuphazamiseka komntu ongekho emngceleni kuchaphazela ubudlelwane phakathi kwamalungu entsapho, abahlobo okanye abanye abantu kuluntu? I-BPD ingayenza njani ingxaki ngokukodwa, kwaye yintoni enokuyenza ukuxazulula ezi ngxaki?
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu abane-Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) banalo ubudlelwane obukhulu kunye nobunzima nabanye.
Ubuhlobo babo buvame ukutshintsha phakathi kokulungileyo okanye konke okubi kwaye abanako ukufumana iimvakalelo eziphikisanayo xa bebhekiselele kwihlabathi okanye kwabanye. Ukucinga oku, kumnyama okanye kumhlophe, kungabangelwa kuzo zonke ubudlelwane kuquka nabasesikolweni okanye basebenzisana noontanga, ootitshala kunye nabaqeqeshi, abaphathi kunye nabaphathi.
I-Idealizing and Cycle Assessment kuBudlelwane neBPD
Ukuba unayo i-BPD, ungase uqale ugxininise umntu okanye imeko, uziphose ebudlelwaneni ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngaphandle kokugcinwa. Nangona kunjalo, kungekudala into into eyenzekayo ephikisana nale ngcamango enjengeengcamango, njengeengxelo ezinzima ezivela kumphathi, umgangatho osweleyo kwiphepha okanye ukulwa nomlingane wakho. Oku kunokukwenza ukuba utshintshe ukusuka kumbono ocingileyo ukuya kwelinye lexabiso. Unokucinga ukuba kungekudala akukho nto enhle malunga nomntu okanye imeko kwaye akuzange kubekho.
Ukuba nobuzwe obukhulu ukugatywa (ukusilahlela ubuninzi) kunokushukumisa ukuphendula kwakho.
Olu bubele lunokubangela ukuba ungaphatheli ngokugqithiseleyo ekuchaseni ngokwenene okanye okubonakalayo. Uvakalelo lokugatya luyongamela kwaye luyidla kwaye lunokuziva luyinyani, kungakhathaliseki ukuba lithetha ngokwenene okanye lungafuneki.
Ekuphenduleni kokuhlaziywa, ungazikhupha ngomsindo, ushiye umsebenzi odibeneyo, ube ngumsindo okanye ushiye.
Kungenzeka ukuba umntu, ulwalamano okanye umsebenzi uya kuphinda ubonakale efanelekileyo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba ukujonga okungahambiyo kuya kuhlala kuqhubeka okanye ukuba umonakalo owenzekileyo awuyi kukhankanywa. Ubuhlobo buya kutshatyalaliswa, imisebenzi yokuyeka okanye iiklasi zidibene. Ingaba ngamava amanzima kunye nemiphumo ebalulekileyo.
UkuPhatha iNgxaki yoBuntu beBorderline kunye noLawulo loBudlelwane
Umngcipheko wobuntu obunomda obunemida unokuba nefuthe elibi kwezobudlelwane bakho. Ngaphandle kwamalungu entsapho, unokuthi uvelele ukuchaswa, utshintsho kwizicwangciso okanye iimvakalelo zokunciphisa. Ezi mpazamo ekucingeni zingenza uzive ukhululekile, unesizungu kwaye ungancedi.
Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, inkqubela phambili eyenziwe ekuqondeni nasekuphatheni i-BPD , kokubili kwimbono ye- psychotherapy kunye nokusetyenziswa kwamachiza.
Unyango - Zininzi iindlela zokonyango eziye zabonakaliswa ukuba ziphumelele. Iinkqubo ezithile eziye zabonisa isithembiso ekuncedeni kwiinkalo zobudlelwane zeBPD ziquka:
- I-Dialectal therapy (DBT) - i-DBT, ngamanye amaxesha ebizwa ngokuba "ukuthetha unyango" yindlela yokwenza unyango lokuziphatha . Ibukela ukuqonda, okanye ucinga, kwaye ixela oku kuziphatha, okanye izenzo. Kukho iindidi zonyango ezifumanekayo apho ulwalamano lwentsebenziswano olujongene neBPD, kodwa i-DBT yenye yezinto ezithe zafunyanwa kuqala kwi-BPD. Kukho izakhono ezine eziphambili ezifundiswa kwi-DBT, kunye neyakhono ebonakalayo yokusebenza ngokubambisana eyenzelwe ukunceda abantu baphumelele ukuchaza iimfuno zabo ebuhlotsheni kunye nokulawula ingxabano.
- Ukugqitywa kweengcebiso (MBT) - i-MBT yonyango ejolise ekujongeni iimvakalelo zakho, iingcamango, nethemba, ukuze ubone ukuba zinokudibanisa njani nokuziphatha kwakho. I-MBT yindlela yokwenza unyango lwe-psychodynamic ejolise kwiimeko ezikhoyo kunokuba iziganeko zangaphambili zisebenzise kunye nolwalamano lwakho kunye nomgqirha ukuba usebenze ngemiba. Ukusebenzisa imizekelo ethile okanye izicwangciso, i-MBT ikunceda ukuba uhlaziye zombini iimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo kunye nemibono yabanye kwindawo ethile. Umzekelo, ukuba umhlobo wakho uyacaphuka kwaye ushiya ikhaya lakho, uya kulungisa iimvakalelo ayenakho ezibangele ukuziphatha kwakhe kokushiya kunokugxila kwihambo yokuhamba.
Kwezinye iimeko, unyango lwezonyango lunokuba luyimfuneko.
Iimvavanyo - ngelixa okwangoku akukho mayeza avunywe ukuphatha i-BPD , amayeza ngamanye amaxesha anikwe oogqirha ukuba bancede ukulawula iimpawu ze-BPD kunye nokuphucula ubuhlobo bakho. Olunye uphando lubonise ukuba amanye amayeza avunyelwe ezinye izifo zengqondo asebenzayo ekulawuleni iimpawu ezinjengomsindo, ukunyaniseka , ukudandatheka kunye neemvakalelo zokuzihlukanisa. Iziphumo zinokuhluka kakhulu kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba amayeza aya kuphelisa ngokupheleleyo loo mvakalelo; Unokuthi ulindele ukuba iziphumo ezithobekileyo.
Nangona iyeza lingaba luncedo ekulawuleni iimpawu zakho ngelixa uphantsi kweyeza, amaninzi amayeza asetyenziswayo aneempembelelo ezibalulekileyo. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe nawaphi na amapilisi, xela ugqirha wakho kunye nodokotela wakho malunga nemiphumo emibi kunye nokuba izibonelelo zamachiza zigqithise ngaphezu kokungaphumeleli. Kwabanye abantu, umngcipheko awufanelekanga ukuphucuka okuthobekileyo kwiimpawu.
Ngaphantsi kwendlela yokuLawula ubudlelwane kunye neNgcaciso yoMntu woLuntu
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha amayeza okanye awukho, unyango lubalulekile ekuphuculeni ubudlelwane bakho nabanye kunye nokulawula ezinye iimpawu. Thetha ugqirha wakho malunga neemfuno zakho kunye nokukhathazeka ukuza nesicwangciso sokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ezizodwa.
Thatha ixesha lokufunda ngezinye zezinto eziqhelekileyo ezijongene nabantu abaneBPD ebuhlotsheni babo . Ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye ne-BPD ngokukhethekileyo, ludinga ukuxhatshazwa kwaye luleke kwaye kubalulekile ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho niqonde ezinye zezinto kunye nendlela yokuzilungisa phambi kokuba zibonwe.
Ukuba uhlala nomntu onobungozi bomntu ongenamkhawulo, kunokukunceda ukufunda ezinye iindlela zokuxilongwa kwe- BPD kuthinta lonke intsapho .
Ngoxa ufunda ngeBPD okanye wena okanye othandekayo unokushiya ucinezelekile, ukufunda ukuqonda izinto eziqhelekileyo kunye nokufuna unyango kunokwenza umgama omkhulu. Ulwaphulo lweentsapho , ngokukodwa, lunokwenza umehluko omkhulu kumntu ohlala neBPD, kodwa kwintsapho yonke.
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