Ngaba uhlala ufumana ukubuza: Ndingubani na? Yintoni endiyikholelwayo? Iyintoni indawo yam kule hlabathi? Ukuba wenza, awuyedwa. Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongena emngceleni (BPD) balwa nemibandela yesazisi-enye yeempawu eziphambili zeBPD .
Uninzi lwabantu abangenayo i- BPD yokulwa nemibandela yesazisi, nabo. Kodwa abantu abane-BPD badla ngokusweleka okukhulu kunengqiqo.
Ukuba ulwa nomvakalelo wokuthi awukwazi ukuba ungubani okanye ukholelwa kuyo, oku kungayimpawu onokuyiqonda.
Ukuqonda ulwazi
Uninzi lweengcali zijonga ubungqina njengengqondo yakho yokujonga kunye nokujonga kwakho. Ingqiqo ecacileyo yesazisi kuthetha ukuba uyakwazi ukuzibona njengomntu ofanayo nakwixesha elidlulileyo, elikhoyo kunye nekamva. Ukongezelela, umqondo ozinzile wokuzimela ufuna ukuba ukwazi ukuzijonga ngenye indlela nangona kunjalo ngezinye iimeko ungaziphatha ngendlela ephikisanayo.
Ubume bubanzi kwaye buquka iinkalo ezininzi. Ingqiqo yakho okanye ubungqina bakho mhlawumbi yenziwe ngeenkolelo zakho, izimo zengqondo, ubuchule, imbali, iindlela zokuziphatha, ubuntu, umoya, ulwazi, izimvo kunye neendima. Ubume bungacingwa nje ngeyokuzichaza kwakho; yinqumla ebamba yonke le miba ehlukeneyo.
Kutheni Ubungqina Bokuba Kubalulekile
Ukuba nombono wesazisi usebenza imisebenzi ehlukahlukeneyo.
Okokuqala, ukuba unobumba obuqinileyo, kukuvumela ukuba uhlakulele ukuzithemba . Ngaphandle kokungazi ukuba ungubani, unokuzihlakulela njani ukuba unelungelo kwaye ufanelwe inhlonipho?
Ukongeza, ubungqina obunamandla bunokukunceda ukuba ulungelelanise utshintsho. Nangona ihlabathi elikujikelezayo lihlala liguquka, ukuba unengqiqo ebonakalayo, uqobo unalo i-anchor ukukubamba xa ulungelelanisa.
Ngaphandle kwe-anchor, utshintsho lunokuziva luxakekile kwaye luloyiko.
Umbuzo othi "Ndingubani na?" kunye neBPD
Enye yeempawu ze-BPD ezidweliswe kwi-"Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disabilities Disorders" (DSM), umgangatho wokuhlola imeko yeengqondo, ukuphazamiseka kwesazisi , okanye ukuzithiba okungaqinisekiyo kunye nokuzimelela.
Abantu abano-BPD bavame ukubika ukuba ababaziyo ukuba bangobani okanye ba kholelwa ntoni. Ngamanye amaxesha baxela ukuba bazive bengekho. Abanye baze bathi bafana ne-chameleon ngokwezozisi; batshintsha abo baxhomekeke kwiimeko zabo kunye noko bacinga ukuba abanye bafuna kubo.
Ngokomzekelo, unokufumana uhlala ebomini kwimicimbi yezenhlalakahle, kodwa ube nesimo esibi kunye nesenzo esiqinileyo kwimisebenzi yomsebenzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu utshintshe indlela yokuziphatha kwinqanaba elithile kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, kodwa kwi-BPD olu tshintsho lukhulu kakhulu. Abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bathi ukuba ngaphezu kokuziphatha, iingcamango zabo neemvakalelo zabo zitshintsha ukufanisa imeko yangoku.
Iingxaki zesazisi kwiBPD ngamanye amaxesha zibizwa ngokuba yi- dissemination . Oku kubhekisela kubunzima obona ukuba ngubani ohlobene nabanye abantu.
Abanye abantu abaneBPD bangachaza oku njengengxaki yokuqonda apho uphela kwaye omnye umntu uqala. Ngenxa yoko, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD balwela ukuseta nokugcina imida yomntu onempilo kwaye banenkinga ebubudlelwaneni babo.
Kutheni abantu abane-BPD baneengxaki zobunjani
Ngelishwa, kukho uphando oluncinane kwiingxaki zobunxulumene ne-BPD, kodwa kukho iingcamango ezininzi zokuba kutheni abantu abane-BPD bahlala bekulwela ubunzima. Ngokomzekelo, uMarsha Linehan, Ph.D., umphandi okhokelayo we-BPD kunye nomsunguli we- dialectical treatment therapy (DBT), ukholelwa ukuba uhlakulela ubunikazi ngokuzijonga zakho iimvakalelo, iingcamango kunye neemvakalelo, ngaphezu kwindlela abanye abaphendula ngayo .
Ukuba unayo i-BPD kunye nokungazinzi kweemvakalelo , ukuziphatha okungachukumisi, nokucinga okuchukumisayo , unokuba nobunzima ukwenza into ehambelanayo ngenxa yokuba amava akho angaphakathi kunye nezenzo zangaphandle azihambisani.
Ukongezelela, abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bavela kwiindawo ezixhatshazayo okanye ezixhaphazayo, ezinokuthi zibe negalelo lokuzimela. Ukuba unquma ukuba ngubani osekelwe kwiimpendulo zabanye kuwe, kwaye ezo mpendulo azizange ziqikelele kwaye / okanye ziyatshwenyeka, awunaso isakhelo sokuphuhlisa ingqiqo enobungqina besazisi.
Enye into ebangela ukuba ukwazi ukucinga ngeengqondo zakho kunye nabanye ngokuphathelele amaphupha, iingcamango, iimvakalelo kunye neenjongo, ezibizwa ngokuba yingqondo, enzima kubabenayo i-BPD. Olunye uphando lubonise ukuba le ngxaki ngokubaluleka ingadlala indima ebalulekileyo ekubangela ukuba abantu abane-BPD bebalabala ngokubanzi kunye nolwalamano lwabantu.
Indlela Yokuzifumana
Ngoko uhamba njani ngokuphendula umbuzo othi, "Ndingubani na?" Kakade, akukho nisombululo semilingo kwiingxaki zesazisi-le micimbi inzima. Nangona kunjalo, ezininzi unyango lwe-BPD ziquka izixhobo ezinokukunceda ukuba uqale ukufumanisa ukuba ungubani kwaye uyintoni na. Isinyathelo sokuqala ekufunyaneni ufumana unobulunga olungileyo onokukunceda usebenze kwiingxaki zobungqina.
Ukongezelela, kukho iindlela ongasebenzela ngayo imiba yedwa. Unokuqala ukufumanisa oko ubheka njengentsingiselo ebomini bakho. Isenzo sokuhlukanisa nokucacisa le mimandla kunokukunceda ukuba uqale endleleni yokufumanisa oko kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, okuyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobuni bakho.
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