Ukungavumelekanga ngokomzwelo kubonakala kuxhamene nxamnye nale disorder
Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) baye bafumana ukungavumeleki ngokomzwelo. Enyanisweni, ezinye iingcali zikholelwa ukuba ukungaqiniseki ngokomzimba kungenye into ebangela ingozi yomntwana yokuphuhlisa i-BPD ebuntwaneni okanye ebuntwini.
Yintoni engavumelekanga ngokomoya?
Ukungavumelekanga ngokomzwelo xa umntu ethetha kuwe ukuba iimvakalelo zakho azivumelekanga, ziqiqo okanye zingenangqiqo, okanye zimele zifihliwe okanye zifihliwe.
Ngokomzekelo, xa umntwana eyoyika, umzali wabo unokuthi, "Yeka ukuba ngumntwana onjalo, akukho nto yokwesaba." Le mpendulo ingavumelekanga; akugcini nje ukuthetha kumntwana ukuba iimvakalelo zabo azivumelekanga kodwa nokuba zibuthathaka ngenxa yokuvakalelwa.
Ngaphandle koko, umzali unokuphendula kunye naye, "Ndiyayiqonda ukuba uyaziva. Ndixelele ukuba kwenzekani ukuze ukwenze ukwesaba. "Lo ngumpendulo oqinisekileyo; uxelela umntwana ukuba iimvakalelo zabo ziyahlonishwa (nangona umzali angavumi ukuba kukho isizathu esinjongo sokuba soyika).
Ukungavumelekanga Ngokomzwelo kunye neNgcaciso yoMntu weMida
Iingcali ezininzi zikholelwa ukuba ukungakhuselekanga kwemvakalelo, ngokukodwa ebuntwaneni kunye nobutsha, kunokuthi kube yinto ebangela ukuphuhliswa kwe-BPD.
UMarsha Linehan, i-Ph.D., i-psychologist yeklinikhi eyazisa i-Dialectical Behavior Treatment (DBT) icebise ukuba "indawo engabonakaliyo ngokomzwelo ," okanye imeko apho iimpendulo zomntu zihlala zingasebenzi okanye zihlawulwe, zingabelana nezinye izinto BPD.
Kwimodeli kaDkt. Linehan, abantwana abasengozini yokuphuhlisa i-BPD kamva ebomini bazalwa benesimo sezinto eziphilayo kwiimpendulo ezinamandla. Ngelishwa, ezi mpendulo ezinamandla ziyakwazi ukudibana nokungasebenzi (oko kungenjalo, kodwa kungenjalo, kuthatha uhlobo lokusetyenziswa kakubi okanye ukungahoywa ).
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba kulo mzekelo, kukho ukusebenzisana phakathi kwemvakalelo yomntwana kunye nendalo. Ngenxa yokuba umntwana unempendulo enzulu yempembelelo kwiimeko apho abanye abangenakukuphendula ngazo, iimvakalelo zabo zingenakulungiswa. Ukuba umzali okanye umnakekeli uguqulela iimpendulo zomntwana njengento engathandabuzekiyo, banokuphendula ngokuziphatha okuphazamisa impendulo yomzwelo.
Ngelishwa, ukuphazamisa iimpendulo zomntwana, ingakumbi ukuba loo mntwana ulungelelanisa ukuba abe nemvakalelo eqinileyo, mhlawumbi akasebenzi ukuzinzisa umntwana. Endaweni yoko, mhlawumbi unempembelelo eyahlukileyo-impendulo yomntwana iphakanyisiwe, ekhokelela ekuqiniseni umvakalelo. Ukongezelela, loo mntwana angaphoswa ithuba lokuba afunde indlela yokuphatha iimvakalelo zabo ngokufanelekileyo, ezinokubangela ukuba uvakalelo oluninzi lube phantsi kwendlela.
Ngaba ukungavumelekanga ngokomzwelo kubangelwa i-BPD?
Umzekelo kaDkt. Linehan we-BPD uquka ukungasebenzi kwemvakalelo njengomngcipheko owodwa, kwaye kukho ubungqina obuqinileyo bokuxhatshazwa phakathi kokungabikho kakubi kwabantwana kunye ne-BPD (iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuphathwa kakubi, njengokunganakwa kwemvakalelo kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi ngokomzimba, ngokungahambisani nemvakalelo).
Ukongeza, uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba iimpawu zeBPD zidibene neengxelo zobungqina bokungakhuselekanga kwemvakalelo ebuntwaneni.
Kodwa akukho ndlela yokwazi ukuba ngaba ukungavumelekanga ngokomzimba kukuba, ngokwenene, kubangelwa i-BPD. Kungenxa yokuba uninzi lophando kulo mxholo uphindaphinda (oko kuthetha ukuba umphandi ucela umntu ukuba abike malunga namava okwenzeka ngaphambili kwimpilo yabo; ezi ngxelo ziyakwazi ukuxhatshazwa) kunye nokuhambelana (oku kuthetha ukuba kuboniswa ubudlelwane phakathi kokungasebenzi kunye ne-BPD kodwa akakwazi ukugqiba ukuba ukungavumelekanga ngokomzimba kuyimbangela ye-BPD).
Indlela abathandekayo abanokuyenza ngayo ukuqinisekiswa ngokomzwelo
Ukuba uyamthanda umntu ophethe i-BPD kwaye ufunda oku, usenokuba uqaphele ukuba ezinye iimpendulo zakho kwiimvakalelo zomntu ozithandayo ziye zazingasebenzi.
Ngenxa yokuba umntu onomdla we-BPD uneempembelelo ezinzulu kwiimeko ezibonakala ngathi zincinci, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuhlala uqinisekisa. Nangona kunjalo, ukufunda ezinye izakhono ukwandisa iimpendulo zengqondo kunokuncedisa ukunciphisa umhlobo wakho omthandayo.
Ukuze ufunde indlela yokuvakalelwa emoyeni (nangona xa ungavumelani), jonga eli nqaku ekuqinisekiseni iimvakalelo .
Imithombo:
Linehan MM. Ukunyangwa kwengqondo-Ukuziphatha kweNgcaciso yoMntu weMida . ENew York: eGuilford, ngo-1993.
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