Indlela Abaxinezeleka Ngayo Abafazi; Indlela Abafazi Abanokuyicinula Ngayo Ingcinezelo
Kubonakala ngathi yinto eqhelekileyo yokuba abafazi baxhaphaza kwaye banxininiswe ngakumbi kunamadoda, ukuba bagxeke iindima ezingakumbi kwaye bahlala bejikeleza. Kodwa yintoni inyaniso le mbono?
Abaphandi abavela kwiYunivesithi yase-Arizona School School kunye neNkxaso yabathengi banquma ukufumanisa. Bathatha isampula kwiibini ezitshatileyo ezingama-16 kunye nabanye abathathi-nxaxheba bagcina idayari yosuku ngalunye kwixesha leentsuku ezingama-42, apho babhala iingcinezelo zabo zemihla ngemihla.
Ngokuqinisekileyo iziphumo zabonisa ukuba abafazi babika inani elikhulu "lweengxaki eziphezulu" kunye neentsuku ezingaphantsi kweengxaki kunamadoda.
Okuthakazelisayo, ukungafani kumanqanaba okuxinzezeleka kubangelwa ngabafazi abanamava amaninzi "ekubandezelekeni kweengxaki" (kunokuba neempendulo zengcinezelo zenzeke), kunokuba kubekho amathuba okuqhubeka kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ukusuka ngolunye usuku ukuya kwesilandelayo. Ngamanye amazwi, abafazi abazange babambe ingcinezelo yabo; bavele bafumana ezininzi iziqendu zokugxininiswa.
Oku kubangela izinto ezibalulekileyo malunga nabasetyhini kunye noxinzelelo, ukuba abafazi kufuneka baqaphele:
Qonda ukuhlukahluka kobulili kwiinkxalabo
Ukuba uziva unxinezelekile kunabanye abesilisa, musa ukuyithatha njengesigqityi sokuthi ungaphathwa kakuhle noxinzelelo; kusenokwenzeka ukuba unobungqina obukhulu. Zinike i-pat kwi-back ukuze ulandele oko sele ukhona, kwaye uhambe ngokuzithemba kwisinyathelo ezimbini.
Nciphisa Oko Unako
Kubonakala ukuba abantu bahlala becela abafazi (ingakumbi oomama!) Ukuncedisa ngeeprojekthi zeqela njengezoququzelela amaqela e-birthday party okanye ukusebenzisa i-PTA. Nangona ezininzi zezi zinto zizalisekisa, zinokudibanisa kwixabiso elithile loxinzelelo nje ngokugcwalisa i shedyuli yakho.
Nangona kunokuba kunzima ukuthi hayi ngezinye izihlandlo (ikakhulukazi ukuba uthetha ukuba "ngabantu abonwabileyo"), kubalulekile empilweni yakho nangolonwabo ukuba uhlale ukhumbula ukuba u-yego kwiimfuno ezininzi kuthetha ukuba hayi kwizinto ozifunayo : ixesha elilodwa, izinto zokuzilibazisa kunye neminye imisebenzi eyenza umphefumlo. Ukugcina ubunzima beengxaki zemihla ngemihla, abafazi kufuneka baqhelaniswe nembono yokubeka izinto eziphambili kwaye bathi cha .
Yenza i-Perspective yakho
Uninzi lwamava akho uxinzelelo luyakunqandwa kunye noshintsho ngendlela esibheka ngayo izinto. Oku kunokuba kukuvakala kakhulu ukuba kulungile, kodwa akunjalo! Ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo iziganeko ozifumanayo uxinzelelo (ukubheka njengengxaki "kunokuba" ingongoma, "okanye" ithuba "esikhundleni sokuba" ingxaki, "umzekelo) unokwenza ukuba bazive besengozini kwaye baxinzeleleke. Xa ungayiqondi imeko njengengozi, impendulo yakho yomzimba ingasebenzi ngokukhawuleza (okanye ayifumanekanga kwindawo yokuqala), kwaye unako ukukhusela imiphumo yengcinezelo engapheliyo . (Jonga eli nqaku malunga nokuhlengahlengiswa kwengqondo ngokubanzi.)
Abanye Bakhawuleza Ukuxinwa Kweengcinezelo
Ngenxa yokuba awukwazi ukuphelisa konke uxinzelelo ebomini (kwaye ungazifuni ukuba unako!), Kwaye ngenxa yokuba kungenakwenzeka ukuyeka ukuxinwa (nangona nembono entle kakhulu), kubalulekile ukuba ube nokukhawuleza uxinzelelo luyanciphisa ukuze uphendule ngokukhawuleza ukuphendula uxinzelelo lwakho kwaye ukhuphe ukungena kwiimeko ezingapheliyo.
Gcina ukunyamezela rhoqo-Ukunciphisa izenzo
Unokuzikhusela ukuba ungene kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo (apho upheleleke ngakumbi ekugxininiseni uxinzelelo) ngokugcina ezinye iinkqubo zokuphucula uxinzelelo njengengxenye yeshedyuli yakho. Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abo bacamngca rhoqo abaphelelanga kangako kwiinkxalabo ezenzekayo ebomini babo. Ukuzivocavoca kwakhona kuyindlela ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula; iyakwazi ukugcina impilo yakho kunye nempilo enempilo. Uhambo lubuye lube neenzuzo ezininzi kubasebenzisi balo. Ukongeza enye yeendlela ezikhethiweyo kusasa okanye ubusuku obunokubangela ukuba luncedo ngakumbi.
Iinkonzo ezongezelelweyo
- Ukulungiswa kwakhona kweengcamango: Utshintsho kwiNgcamango
- Ukuxininiswa koxinzelelo kubantu abaxhamlayo
Imithombo:
U-Almeida DM, uKessler RC. Inkxalabo yemihla ngemihla kunye nokwahlukana kwesini kwimeko yokukhathazeka imihla ngemihla Umbhalo woBuntu kunye neNzululwazi yeNtlalo . Septemba, 1998.
MacLean CR, Walton KG, Wenneberg SR, Levitsky DK, Mandarino JP, Waziri R, Hillis SL, Schneider RH. Iimiphumo zeProgram yokuCamngca ngeTranscendental kwiindlela zokulungisa: iinguqu kumanqanaba e-hormone kunye neempendulo zokuxinezeleka emva kweenyanga ezine zokusebenza. Psychoneuroendocrinology. Meyi, 1997.