Hlola izizathu kunye neempembelelo zobushushu noxinzelelo
Ulawulo lokufutheka kunye nokulawula uxinzelelo ngeendlela ezifanayo. Oku kuyingxenye kuba umsindo kunye noxinzelelo luba nenxalenye yengqondo ukuze bakwazi ukulawulwa kwengqondo. Zingasichaphazela ngeendlela ezimbi kakhulu, ingakumbi ukuba zishiywe zilawulwe, kwaye yimi kutheni kubalulekile ukuqonda ubudlelwane babo.
Ukutyhila ixesha elide kwingqumbo noxinzelelo kunokuthatha umonakalo kwimpilo yethu yomzimba.
Bangakwazi ukuphakamisa uxinzelelo lwegazi kunye nokwenza i-cascade yezinye iimeko ezinokusichaphazela ngokwenyama nangokomzwelo kwaye zinokuchaphazela ubudlelwane bethu ngokunjalo. Ngaphandle koko, sinokuhlakulela imikhwa emibi njengempendulo kumanqanaba atyhawulekileyo nengcinezelo enokuba nzima kakhulu ukulawula ixesha. Eminye yale miphumo ingabangela uxinzelelo olungakumbi kunye nobuninzi bomsindo.
Ukuze siqalise ukulawula iimiphumo ezibi zoxinzelelo kunye nomsindo, kufuneka sijonge indlela ezichaphazela ngayo ubomi bethu. Ukuxinezeleka kunokukhokelela kwingqumbo kwaye, ngokufanayo, umsindo ungabangela uxinzelelo. Ayikho impilo, kodwa asifanele sizame ukuyiqeda, kunokuzama ukuyilawula ngokufunda izicwangciso ezintle.
Iingcinga zichaphazela ukuvutha komsindo nokuxinezeleka
Iziganeko ezithile zingabangela ingqumbo okanye uxinzelelo kubantu abaninzi. Umlinganiselo wengqumbo okanye uxinzelelo oluneziphumo unxulumene nendlela umntu aqonda ngayo kwaye aguquke oko kwenzekayo kubo.
Umzekelo, abantu ababini banokunqunyulwa kwisithuthi. Umntu omnye unokuyichaza isenzo njengento yokungabi nhlonipho, isongelo kwisiphephelo sabo somzimba okanye njengesenzo esinobutshaba. Oku kubangela ukuba bacaphuke. Omnye umntu unokucinga ukuba umqhubi okhubekanga akazange abone okanye angeniswe kwiingcamango zabo, kwaye vumela ukuba isiganeko siphume umva.
Kwiimeko zombini, kukho ukuvuselelwa, inkolelo kunye nempendulo. Inkolelo, okanye ukutolika, yokhuthazo yikhokelela ekuphenduleni ezahlukeneyo.
Ukuba oku kukuvakalayo, ukuqulunqwa kwengcamango kungakunceda.
Abanye abantu banokuthethelela ngakumbi ukuthukuthela nokuxinezeleka
Abanye abantu baneempawu zobuntu ezibangelwa yiyo ebangela ukuba banokuphelelwa ngumsindo kunye noxinzelelo. Ezinye zeentlobo zengqondo zingabonwa kwasekuseni ebomini, kodwa ezi zinto zithinteka.
- Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo baqaphelisisa ngaphezu kwabanye. Oku kunokubenza bakwazi ukubona izinto ezinokubangela ukuba babe nomsindo-izinto ezingabonakali ngabanye.
- Abanye abantu ngokuqhelekileyo banelungelo lokutshintsha ngokutshintshile, ezinokubangela uxinzelelo kunye nomsindo kwiimeko ezithile.
- Abanye abantu banokubekezelelana okuphantsi kokudandatheka kwaye bafumane ingqumbo ngokulula ngaphezu kwabanye.
Funda kabanzi malunga neempawu zobuntu ezixhomekeke ekunyanzeleni.
Iinjongo zokubangela uburhala noxinzelelo
Iindlela zethu zokucinga, ezinokuthi zitshintshwe ngokukodwa, zenze igalelo lethu kumsindo okanye uxinzelelo.
Abanye abantu bathambekele ekutoliseni izinto ngokungathandekiyo njengengxaki yomkhwa. Basenokuthi iphutha lomnye umntu kwiinjongo ezimbi okanye ezingenabubele, umzekelo.
Baya kuthatha isiganeko esisodwa esibi njengophawu lokuba kuza kwenzeka imicimbi engafanelekanga, enokubangela ingqumbo nengcinezelo.
Funda kabanzi malunga nesigxina kunye nesigxina ngokubhekiselele kokungathembeki .
Yiyo Indlela Olawula ngayo Ingqumbo Nokuxinezeleka Kwimiba
Intukuthelo nokuxinezeleka ngamava emvelo. Indlela esijamelana ngayo nomsindo noxinzelelo ingenza umehluko phakathi kwamanqanaba anempilo kunye namagciwane.
Ngoxinzelelo, umzekelo, asinakuhlala sithintela iziganeko ezixinzelelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukulawula uxinzelelo ngokuphefumula , ukuloba okanye ezinye iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo esinokufunda ukuzinciphisa iziphumo zoxinzelelo.
Ngokufanayo, asinakuhlala sithintela umsindo ongenakwenzeka, kodwa singakwazi ukusebenza ngomsindo wethu ngendlela efanelekileyo ukuze kungabi yingxaki. Ngokomzekelo, ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zethu ngendlela ezihloniphekileyo xa zisoloko zilawulwa zingabanqanda kwi-snowballing ukuba babe nomsindo okanye baxakeke. Enye indlela ukuzama "ukunyusa" umsindo okanye ukuyiveza ngendlela engalunganga neyingozi . Ngaloo nto xa umsindo uba yingxaki.
Funda ngolawulo lomsindo kunye neendlela eziphilileyo zokusingatha umsindo.
Umthombo:
I-Miers AC, uRiffeffe C, Meerum Terwogt M, uCowan R, Linden W. Ulwalamano oluphakathi kwamanqwanqwa okubambisana, i-Anger Mood kunye nezikhalazo zeSomatic kwi-Children and Adolescents. I-Journal ye-Child Child Psychology , ngo-Agasti 2007.