Le ndlela ephikisanayo ibonisa ukuyeka ukucinga okubi
Xa ukuhlaselwa (ukuxhalabisa) kwenzeka, iimpawu zomzimba zivame ukwethusa kwaye zidideke. Oku, kukhokelela ekukhombiseni, ukuphindaphinda iingcamango ezigxile kwixhala kunye nokungathandabuzeki. Ezi ngcamango zinokubangela ukuba ube neengcinga zokungenakunceda, ukukhathazeka okanye ukungabi nantembelo. Iimpawu zakho zokuziphatha ziyakwazi ukuqala ukubonisa imizwa yakho. Ngokomzekelo, unokuphepha ukuzama izinto ezintsha okanye ukuphepha ukuthatha inxaxheba kwizinto owake wazibona.
Ucinga ntoni ukuyeka?
Enye indlela abanye abantu basebenzisa ngayo ukunceda ngeengcamango ezingathandekiyo kunye nokuxhalabisa okuqhelekileyo kuhamba nokuphazamiseka kwengxaki kunye nokuxhalawa kuthiwa "ukucima ukucinga." Isiseko sale nkqubo kukuba uyayikhupha umyalelo, "hlala" xa ufumana ukuphazamiseka okuphindaphindiweyo , ezingadingekanga, okanye eziphosakeleyo iingcamango. Emva koko ubeka ingcamango engalunganga ngento enokuthi yenzeke kwaye ibe yinyani .
Iimigaqo eziphambili zokumisa ukucinga
Imigaqo yoko kutheni ukuyeka ukuyeka umsebenzi kulungelelaniso. Ukuphazamisa ukuphazamiseka kunye neengcinga ezingadingekanga nomyalelo "wokuyeka" usebenza njengesikhumbuzo kunye nokuphazamiseka. Iingcamango eziphosakeleyo neziphosakeleyo zivame ukukhanya okanye ukuphinda ngqondweni yakho. Ngakwesokunxele angakhange avunywe, ziya kuba zizenzekelayo kwaye zenzeke rhoqo. Ukuba usebenzisa ingcamango yokuyeka, uyazi iingcinga ezinobungozi kwaye uguqula ingqwalasela yakho kwimimiselo yokucinga ephindaphinda.
Ukongezelela, ukusebenzisa isicatshulwa sokumisa inganokukunika umlinganiselo wokulawula. Xa ulandelwa ngeengxelo ezikhuthazayo neziqinisekisayo, uphula umkhwa wokucinga ongathandabuzekiyo kwaye uqinise umqondo wokuqinisekisa. Ukuba iipatheni ezingenakulungileyo ziye zathonya indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kunye nendlela oziphatha ngayo, ngokunjalo, ziya kuba nempilo nengqiqo-kodwa ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Ukumisa ukucinga akuvumelekanga
Ukumisa ukucinga kunokuba isicwangciso esizimeleyo sokuncedisa ukunceda abanye abantu ukuba banqobe ukucinga okubi kwaye bafumane imbono entsha ebomini. Nangona kunjalo, le nqubo ayinakufanelwa wonke umntu kwaye ikwazi ukubuyela kumanye amaxesha. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba ukuzama ukutshutshisa iingcamango ezixhalabileyo, kubangelwa ukuba baqine baze baqhube bonke okanye bafike ngokukhawuleza.
Uninzi lwezengqondo azicebisi ukugxila kwiigulane kuba zikholelwa ukuba ukuhlawulela ingcamango enokuthi yenzeke kunobungozi obukhulu bokusingatha iingcamango ezingekho ngqo. Ingabangela umva wokuxanduva okanye uxanduva lomntu onengcamango engafanelekanga ngaphandle kokuqikelela apho ingcamango ivela khona kuqala. Kwaye abo banezifo ezigugu ezingqondweni, akusebenzi ukubalula ukuba bayeke ukucinga iingcinga ezimbi.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ukucinga kwakho kakubi kunye nokuxhalaba kukhulu, kungenokuba ixesha lokubonisana nomboneleli wonyango . Umgqirha unokukunceda ukuba usebenze ngale miba kwaye uphuhlise iindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha zokuncedisa ekujonganeni neengcamango zakho. Ukongezelela, umgqirha wakho angenza ukuhanjiswa xa kuyimfuneko, kukunika ukufikelela kwiinketho zonyango ezongezelelweyo.
ILizwi
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ngelixa iingcali ezininzi zikholelwa ukuba iingcamango zakho zichaphazela indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo nendlela oziphatha ngayo, oku akuthethi ukuba iingcamango zakho ziphela emva kweempawu zakho zokukhathaza. Kukho izidalwa zezinto eziphilayo , ezendalo kunye nezinye izinto ezibangela ukugula kwakho, oko kungaboniswa ngokugqithiseleyo ngunyango lwezempilo.
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