Impendulo. Nantsi indlela yokwenza okulungileyo
Ubudlelwane bunokuba yizinto ezintle zokuxinzelela uxinzelelo, kodwa ubudlelwane obudityanisayo lunokubangela intlungu engqondweni kunye noxinzelelo . Ukwazi indlela yokuxolisa - kwaye nini-unokulungisa umonakalo ebubudlelwaneni, kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukuxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo, unokwenza izinto zibe zibi nakakhulu! Ukucela uxolo kulula xa uyazi ukuba ungathini. Nazi ezinye iindlela ezilula ukukunceda ufunde ukucela uxolo ngokunyanisekileyo nangempumelelo.
Ubunzima: Kulula
Ixesha elifunekayo: Uhluleka
Nantsi indlela:
- Yazi Xa Uxolisa
Ukwazi ixesha lokuxolisa kubalulekile njengoko ukwazi ukucela uxolo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba ucinga ukuba into oyenzayo-ngenjongo okanye ngengozi-yabangela omnye umntu ukuba abe nemizwa ekhuni, kuyilungileyo ukuxolisa nokucima umoya. Ukuba oko wakwenzayo bekukukukhathaza ukuba kwenzeke kuwe, ukuxolisa ku cacile ngokucacileyo. Ukuba awuqinisekanga, ukuxolisa kukunika ithuba lokuba "uphendule" iimpazamo ozenzileyo, kodwa uvuselele oko ucinga ukuba kulungile. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba omnye umntu ungenangqiqo, ingxoxo ingaba yindlela. Unokugqiba isigqibo sokuba uya kuphi uxolo emva koko. - Thatha uxanduva
Ukuthatha uxanduva kuthetha ukuvuma iimpazamo ozenzileyo ezenzakalisa omnye umntu, kwaye enye yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu - kunye neendlela ezingenakuzixoxela zixolisa kakhulu, ingakumbi ezikumaphephandaba. Ukuthetha into engacacanga ngathi, "Ndiyaxolisa xa uphukisiwe into endiyithethileyo," kuthetha ukuba ukuvakalelwa kwemvakalelo kwakuyindlela engabonakaliyo kwimeko yomnye umntu. Ukuthi, "Xa ndathi [into enenzakalisayo], andingacingi. Ndiyaqonda ukuba ndibuhlungu iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye ndiyaxolisa, "uyavuma ukuba uyazi ukuba uthini ukuba uhlunguza omnye umntu, kwaye uyayithatha uxanduva.
- Mva kalisa
Xa ufuna ukuqonda indlela yokuxolisa ngokufanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuxabisa. Ukuthatha uxanduva kubalulekile, kodwa kunceda omnye umntu ukuba azive kakubi ngokubaphatha kakubi, kwaye unqwenela ukuba awunayo. Yiyo leyo. Baziva bebuhlungu, kwaye bafuna ukwazi ukuba uziva kakubi ngabo baziva bebi. "Ndiyathanda ukuba ndicinga ngakumbi." "Ndiyathanda ukuba ndicinga ngeemvakalelo zakho." "Ndiyathanda ukuba ndiyifumane kwakhona." Yonke into yokuzisola eyenza ukunyaniseka kokuxolisa kwakho, kwaye vumela omnye umntu ukuba uyazikhathalela.
- Yenza izilungiso
Ukuba kukho nantoni na ongayenza ukulungisa imeko, yenza njalo. Kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokuxolisa ngokunyaniseka, kwaye inxalenye yokunyaniseka kokuxolisa kukuzimisela ukubeka okuthile. Ukuba uchithe into ethile yomntu, khangela ukuba unokuyifaka indawo. Ukuba uthethile into embi, zithetha izinto ezintle ezinokukunceda ukuvelisa iimvakalelo ezintle. Ukuba uthe waqhekeza ukuthembela, khangela into ongayenza ukuyivuselela kwakhona. Nantoni na onokuyenza ukuze wenze izinto zibe ngcono, zenze. (Kwaye ukuba awuqinisekanga oko kuya kukunceda, cela omnye umntu into onokuyenza ukuze bancede bazive bebhetele.) - Ukuqinisekisa iiMida
Enye yezona zinto zibaluleke kakhulu zokuxolisa - esinye sezizathu ezilungileyo zokucela uxolo - kukuqinisekisa kwakhona imida. Imida ephilileyo ibalulekile nakuphi na ubudlelwane. Xa uxabana nomntu, ngokuqhelekileyo kukho umda owela - ulawulo lomphakathi luphulwa okanye ukuthembela kuphukile - kwaye kunceda ukuqinisekisa ukuba luhlobo luni lokuziphatha oluzayo lukhethwa. Ukuxoxa malunga naluphi uhlobo lwemiqathango ozobambisana ngayo ngokuzayo uza kuvuselela ukuthembela, imida , kunye nemizwa emihle, kwaye inikezele ingxaki yemvelo ngaphandle kwempikiswano, ibe nekamva elivuyisayo kwintsebenziswano.
Iingcebiso:
- Ukuzikhethela Kwinqanaba Lakho - Akunjalo
Khumbula ukuba xa uxolisa, uthatha uxanduva malunga nenxalenye yempikiswano. Oko akuthethi ukuba uyavuma ukuba yonke imbambano yayiyiphutha lakho. Abantu bahlala besaba ukuxolisa kuqala ngenxa yokuba bacinga ukuba ubani ocela uxolo kuqala "uyaphosisa" okanye "ulahlekile" wongquzulwano. Enyanisweni, ukucela uxolo nokuba ngaba yincinci encinci yenkquzulwano yinto enoxanduva lwakho, kwaye ihlala isempilweni. Ikuvumela ukuba uqinisekise oko uyazisola ngezenzo zakho kodwa uqinisekise imida yakho. - Ukuxolisa Ngezizathu Ezifanelekileyo
Xa ucela uxolo ngenxa yento oyenzayo, unokukwazi ukuhamba phambili kwaye ubeke ingxabano emva kwakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba wenza ntoni na umntu. Xa sixolisa, sikwazi ukugcina ingqibelelo lula kwaye sizixolele. Omnye umntu unokunyanzeliswa ukuba axolise ngenxa yezenzo zabo-njalo kulungile xa benjenjalo! - kodwa oku akusoloko kwenzeka. Ukuzama ukuxolisa ukuxolisa komnye umntu ngumkhwa wokuqhawula ngamanye amaxesha owehlayo. Ukuxolisa ngenxa yoxolo lwakho kwengqondo, kwaye omnye umntu unokuphefumlelwa ukuba enze okufanayo. Kodwa kulungile ukuba azinjalo.
- Makuye kwiZiphumo-ukuya kwiNqanaba
Nangona ukuxolisa kungaba yindlela yokugcina ingqibelelo kunye nokunyuka kwizenzo asiziqhayisi, ininzi yethu ifuna ukulungisa ubuhlobo kunye nokuxolelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha oko akukwenzeka. Ukuba ukuxolisa kwakunyanisekileyo kwaye kwabandakanya izithako eziyimfuneko, amathuba akho okuxolela ayeninzi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha omnye umntu akakulungele okanye unako ukuxolela nokuqhubeka. Okanye banokukuxolela, kodwa ke, balinde. Okanye azinako ukuqonda indima yabo kwimpikiswano. Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukulawula impendulo yabo, kwaye ukuba wenze konke onokukwenza, vumela ukuba uhambe ngoku.
Ingaba ufuna ntoni:
- Uvelwano
- Intliziyo evulekile
- Nesibindi