Iingxaki kunye neMiphumo yezempilo yokuzizwa yedwa
Ukuzixhalabisa yimizwelo yomntu wonke jikelele kwaye iyingqayizivele kumntu ngamnye. Ngenxa yokuba kungenasizathu esisodwa esisodwa, ukuthintela kunye nokonyango lwaloo nto ingalimaza ingqondo ingahluka ngokuphawulekayo.
Ngokomzekelo, umntwana onesizungu ozabalazela ukwenza izikolo esikolweni unemfuno ezahlukeneyo kunomntu omdala ongeyedwa umfazi wakhe osanda kufa.
Ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda uluntu, kubalulekile ukujonga ngokuthe ngqo ukuba sithetha ntoni ngegama elithi "yedwa," kunye nezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo, iziphumo zempilo, iimpawu kunye nokunyanga okunyanga.
Ukuxhalaba nguMbuso weNgqondo
Nangona iinguqu eziqhelekileyo zolu lonwabo zichaza njengendawo yokuhlala yedwa okanye ukuba yedwa, ukulondeka ngokwenene yimeko yengqondo. Ukuxhalabangela kubangela ukuba abantu bazive bengenanto, bebodwa, bengabikho. Abantu abanesizungu banqwenela ukuqhagamshelana nabantu, kodwa isimo sabo sengqondo sikwenza kube nzima ukwenza udibaniso nabanye abantu.
Ukuxhomekeka, ngokweengcali ezininzi, akuthethi ukuba yedwa. Endaweni yoko, ukuba uziva wedwa kwaye udeleleke, yile ndlela i-loneliness idlala ngayo kwingqondo yakho. Ngokomzekelo, i-freshman yikholeji inokuziva inesizungu nangona ijikelezwe ngabahlali kunye nabanye oontanga. Ijoni eliqala umsebenzi wakhe wemikhosi linokuziva lilolo linye emva kokuba lisetyenziswe kwelinye ilizwe, nangona lihlala lijikelezwe ngamanye amaqela.
Izizathu
Ngokomphando ngoDkt. John Cacioppo, uTiffany noMargaret Blake uProfesa oNgcacisayo weNkonzo kunye nomsunguli kunye nomlawuli weziko leCognitive and Social Neuroscience kwiYunivesithi yaseChicago, umsebenzi-ntsebenziswano kwintsimi ye-social neuroscience, kunye nomnye ophezulu Iingcali ezizimeleyo eU.S., ubungqina buxhomekeke kakhulu kwizityalo.
Ezinye izinto ezichaphazelayo ziquka ukuhluka kweendawo, ezifana nokuzihlukanisa ngokomzimba, ukufudukela kwindawo entsha, kunye nomtshato. Ukufa komntu obalulekileyo ebomini bomntu kunokukhokelela ekubeni uzizwe unesizungu. Ukongezelela, inokuba ngumqondiso wesifo sengqondo ezifana nokudandatheka.
Ukuxhalabakala kunokuba kubangelwe kwizinto zangaphakathi ezifana nokuzithoba . Abantu abangenalo ukuzithemba ngokwabo bahlala becinga ukuba abafanelekanga ukunakwa okanye ukuthatha abanye abantu. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuzimeleleni kunye nesizungu esingapheliyo.
Iingozi Zempilo Ezixhatshazwe Nesizungu
Ukulondeka kunemiphumo eyahlukeneyo kwimpilo yengqondo nangokwengqondo , kuquka:
- Ukuxinezeleka nokuzibulala
- Isifo se-Cardiovascular and stroke
- Ukunyuka koxinzelelo
- Ukukhunjulwa kwenkumbulo nokufunda
- Ukuziphatha okungabalulekanga
- Ukwenza izigqibo ezingalunganga
- Utywala kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi
- Ukunyuka kwesifo se-Alzheimer
- Umsebenzi ogqithisiweyo wengqondo
Le yimiyona yodwa imimandla apho isohlwayo lithatha ixabiso.
Abantu abadala bodwa baxhamla utywala kwaye bancipha kakhulu kunabo abangenasisindo. Ukutya kwabo kunamafutha amaninzi, ubuthongo babo buncipheko, kwaye babika ukhathala komhla. esilungiselela ukuba siza kudala. " -Dr. John Cacioppo
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba amanqanaba aphantsi okulondeka adibene nomtshato, imali ephezulu kunye nemfundo ephakamileyo. Amanqanaba aphakamileyo enesizungu anxulumene neempawu zempilo yempilo, ahlala yedwa, amanxibelelwano amancinci kunye nolwalamano olusenyongweni oluhle.
Abahlobo Abalingani Ukulwa Nesizungu
Abaphandi bacetyisa ukuba ubunyulu buba nzima kwi-United States. Ukususela ngo-1985, inani labantu base-US abangenabo abahlobo abasondeleyo baye bathathu. Ukunyuka kwe-intanethi kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo, imidiya yezokuhlalisana, inokuthi ityala.
Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba akulona ubungakanani bentsebenziswano yentlalo elwa nokulondeka, kodwa ngumgangatho .
Ukuba nabantwana abathathu okanye abane abahlobo abasondeleyo banelungelo lokukhusela uluntu kunye nokunciphisa imiphumo emibi yempilo ehambelana nale meko yengqondo.
Uxhala lunokuthi lube negalelo
Olunye uphando lubonisa ukuba uluntu lunokusasazeka . Kwisifundo seminyaka elishumi, abaphandi bavavanya indlela ukunyaniseka kwandale kwiintanethi. Iziphumo zibonise ukuba abantu abasondelene nomntu onesizungu babengamaphesenti angama-52 amathuba okuba banesizungu.
Iingcebiso Zokuthintela Ubuthathaka
Ukunxiliswa kunokunqoba. Kufuna umzamo oqapheleyo kwinqanaba lakho ukwenza utshintsho. Ukwenza utshintsho, ekuhambeni kwexesha, kunokukunceda ube nolonwabo, uphile, kwaye kukunika ithuba lokuchaphazela abanye ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Nazi ezinye iindlela zokukhusela ulunwabo:
- Qaphela ukuba uluntu luphawu lokuba into kufuneka iguqulwe.
- Qonda imiphumo yokuba unesizungu ebomini bakho, kokubili ngokomzimba nangengqondo.
- Cinga ukwenza inkonzo yomphakathi okanye omnye umsebenzi owufumanayo. Ezi meko zinika ithuba elikhulu lokudibana nabantu kwaye zihlakulele ubuhlobo obutsha kunye nentsebenziswano yoluntu.
- Gxininisa ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane obuhle kunye nabantu ababelana ngesimo sengqondo esifanayo, iimfuno kunye nexabiso kunye nawe.
- Lindela okulungileyo. Abantu abanesizungu bahlala bekulindele ukulahlwa, ngoko kunoko gxininisa kwiingcamango ezintle kunye nezimo zengqondo kwiintlalontle zakho.
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