Thatha isinyathelo ukuphucula ukuthetha kwamagama
Ukunxibelelana okulungileyo kunye nolwalamano nabanye kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini bethu. Ngomnye umntu onengxelo ye-ADHD , nangona kunjalo, kukho imingeni emininzi efumana indlela yokuvuyela ubudlelwane. Ukuphindaphinda ukwehluleka kobuhlobo, ukuthandana kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunokuthatha umonakalo, obangela umntu ukuba ahoxise aze azihlukanise. Omnye ummandla onokuba nzima ngokukodwa ukubusa ngokuphendula.
Ukuba uthetha ukuthetha izinto ngaphandle kokucinga, usenokuthetha into ephosakeleyo. Khawucinge ukuba omnye umntu uya kuziva njani xa ucinga ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ibhokhwe yomlingane okanye iqabane lakho liyenza ibonakale ihamba kakuhle, umzekelo. Nangona unokuba uthembekile, oko uthethayo kuya kubangela ukuba omnye umntu azive buhlungu kwaye athukuthele. Ukuba uthetha kakhulu kwaye ugxininise iingxoxo, thabatha ixesha elide ukuba ufike kwindawo yakho, okanye unqunyulwe kwaye uphazamise abanye, ungasifumana ngokukhawuleza abantu ukuphepha ukusebenzisana nawe. Ukuqonda ngakumbi iimvakalelo neemfuno zabanye kunokuhamba ixesha elide ekuphuculeni uxhulumano lwakho loluntu.
Ukuphucula ukusebenzisana kwamazwi
- Cela uncedo lomhlobo kunye / okanye iqabane lakho ukubonisa amaxesha othetha izinto ngaphandle kokucinga. Abanye abantu bayaziqonda emva koko, kodwa ukuba unokuqala ukuqonda ngokubanzi la ma-slip-ups njengoko zenzekayo, kulula ukwenza utshintsho.
- Wonke umntu uziva ecinezela ukugxeka , ngakumbi ukuba ufumene impendulo engalunganga rhoqo. Thetha nomhlobo wakho ngeendlela angakunika ngayo ingxelo engayi kuba yicala. Ziqaphele ukuba le yindawo ofuna ukuphucula kuyo, ngoko kuya kufuneka ukuba ingxelo ibe yimfuneko. Buza umngane wakho / iqabane ukuba uqiniseke ukuba ubonisana njani ngendlela efanelekileyo, naye.
- Yeka uphinde ucinge, uthathe umoya okhulu kwaye uqokelele iingcamango zakho ukuze wazi oko uza kuthetha ngaphambi kokuthetha. Cinga ngendlela amagama akho aya kubonwa ngayo ngabanye. Qaphela ngokucwangcisa amagama akho ngendlela eya kuba luncedo kunye nolwazi.
- Thetha ngezicwangciso nomhlobo wakho. Isicwangciso esisodwa esilula esinokuba luncedo kukuba kugcinwe iphepha elincinane lephepha kunye nawe ukuba udibanise izinto ofuna ukuyithetha. Ukuba omnye umntu uthetha kwaye uqala ukuziva unqwenela ukuphazamisa, kunokuba udibanise into ocinga ngayo, bhala phantsi ingcamango endaweni yoko. Yenza umhlobo wakho azi ukuba uya kusebenzisa le cwangciso, ngoko akayi kuvakalelwa ngathi uyamnyelisa njengoko ubhala. Yenza iingcamango zakho ngokukhawuleza ukuze uhlawule ukuqwalasela ingqwalasela yakho kunye nokubandakanyeka kwisehlo lomntu othethayo.
- Kulungile ukwazisa abanye ukuba unokuba yinto encinci ngamanye amaxesha kwaye unokuba neengxaki ekufikelele kwingongoma yakho. Buza ukuba bakuncede ngokukunika uphawu okanye ukuphazamisa ngokukhawuleza nokukuqondisa ukuba uzame ukubuyela kwindawo ofuna ukuyenza.
- Ukuqaphela iingongoma zentlalo kunokuba nzima kakhulu kumntu onengxaki ye-ADHD. Yenza umngane wakho / iqabane lakho likwazi ukuba le ngxaki kuwe, kwaye ubuze uncedo lwabo ekutolika amagama. Qaphela ukusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo kwitheyuni yezwi, isibonakaliso sobuso kunye nolwimi lomzimba. Ngolunye lwale luya kunika izikhombisi malunga nendlela umntu ovakalelwa ngayo xa ethetha.
- Nangona kubalulekile ukuthetha ubudlelwane bokuthandana nentliziyo evulekile, zama ukuqonda ukuba ungazivuli ngokukhawuleza. Musa ukutyhila ibali lakho lobomi bomhla wokuqala, umzekelo. Sebenzisa umhlobo othembekileyo njengebhodi lokumemeza ukukunceda ukuqonda kangcono "imigaqo" yokuthandana. Nangona ufuna ukwazi kabanzi malunga nalo mlingane omtsha kwaye wabelane ukuze afunde okunye ngawe, awufuni ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kangangokuba umntu uziva ekhutshwe.
Kunganceda ukulinganisa izinto kubuhlobo xa uzama ukuba ngumphulaphuli. Oku kunceda kakhulu kumanqanaba okuqala olwalamano, kodwa luqhubeka luba buchule obubalulekileyo kuzo zonke izigaba zobudlelwane.
Buza imibuzo yakho yeqabane, mvumele ukuba ahlanganyele, kwaye umamele ngokuqinisekileyo oko okuthethwa ngumntu. Oku kwenza abantu bazi ukuba unomdla kwaye uyabakhathalela.
Funda kabanzi malunga nobudlelwane kunye ne-ADD / ADHD
Funda iingcebiso ezongezelelweyo zokuphucula ubudlelwane ukuba unobunzima:
Iingcebiso zokuLawula ubumnandi
UkuFunda okongeziweyo:
Ubuhlobo kunye ne-ADD
ADD kunye noDating: Ukufumana uMlingani Ofanelekileyo
Ziqhelise Ukucinga Okulungileyo
Iingcebiso zobusuku obuhle bokulala
ADD kunye nokuzinakekela
> Imithombo:
UMichael T. Bell. Wena, Ubuhlobo Bakho kunye ne-ADD yakho. New Harbinger Publications. 2002.
UMichael T. Bell. Ukujongana neMpembelelo ye-AD / HD kuMtshato . Umgca. Epreli 2003.
Nancy A. Ratey. Ingqondo engahlekanga. Umgca we-St Martin. Inew york. 2008.