Ngomncedisi wakho, unokulawula iimvakalelo zakho ezimbi
Abantu abane-ADD bavame ukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo kalula. Bahlala benzima ukulawula iimvakalelo zabo, ingakumbi xa kuziwa kwiimvakalelo ezinzima ezifana nomsindo . Xa umntu enenkathazo yokubeka ingqalelo yakhe imizwa kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, unokukhungatheka ngokukhawuleza, ube nomfutshane, ulungele, kwaye akaqinisekanga.
Imvakalelo elawulwa yinkathazo kunye neengxaki ekulawuleni umonakalo ingabangela ukuqhuma okukhulu.
Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba kudala uxinzelelo oluninzi kunye nentlungu ebudlelwaneni phakathi kokuba iqabane / umlingane we-ADD ngamnye ngumntu obhekene naso. Amaqabane amaninzi acinga ukuba ahamba ngamaqanda e-eggshell ebudlelwaneni kuba awazi ukuba kuza kuqhuma nini.
Iingcebiso zokuLawula ulaka lwakho
- Isinyathelo sokuqala kukuvuma ukuba umsindo uyingxaki kuwe. Thatha uxanduva lokufumana le ngxaki. Ukuba uwile kumzekelo wokugxeka iqabane lakho okanye abanye ngenxa yengqumbo yakho, yenza umgudu wokuzama ukuyeka ukwenza oku. Endaweni yokuhlala kunye kunye neqabane lakho xa unesimo esihle sengqondo kunye nesakhelo esicacileyo sengqondo kwaye uthetha. Jongana nombandela kwindlela engagwebiyo, isisombululo.
Emva kokuba uvuma ukuba wenze iimpazamo, usenokuvakalelwa kukuba uye wabangela ubuhlungu kumlingane wakho. Xoxa iimvakalelo zakho kumlingane wakho. Yithi uxolo kwaye wamkele ukuxolelwa. Hambisa phambili kunye nesicwangciso sokuphucula ubuhlobo.
Yiba nolwazi ngakumbi ngamaxesha othetha ngayo ngokukhawuleza. I-Sarcasm inomsindo kunye nokunyanzela ukusebenzisana nabanye. Qonda ukuba ukuphawula okukrakrayo kunobungozi kwaye wenze umgudu wenzalo ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo. Thetha ngokucacileyo kunye nomlingane wakho ngale nto. Ukuba iqabane lakho liye lafikelela ekupheleni kokufumana ukugculelwa kwakho, mhlawumbi uya kuba nokuthetha okuninzi kulo mbandela. Ukuba ukukhawuleza kungena kwiingxoxo zakho, qabane lakho lize lichaze ngokukhawuleza. Nxusa uxolo kwaye uqhubeke nokusebenza ekupheliseni izimvo ezilahlayo.
Yenza uludwe lwezinto ezibangelwa ukutshintsha iimvakalelo zomsindo. Ukuba nolwazi olu ngakumbi kwezi zinto ziza kukunceda ungenelele kwaye ufake iibhuleki ngaphambili ngaphambi kokuba iimvakalelo zakho ziqine kangangokuba ufikelele kwinqanaba lokuba ungabuyi. Qaphela izinto ezisemgangathweni ezinokukuphazamisa ukuzithiba kwakho, njengokukhathala, ukulamba, ukunyusa umthwalo, kunye nokunye.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ngakumbi iimpawu zomsindo wakho. Ngaba uhlala ucima umhlathi wakho njengoko umsindo uqala ukugquma? Ngaba uziva ukuba intliziyo yakho ibetha ngokukhawuleza? Ngaba ukuphefumula kwakho kungabi nzulu kwaye kukhawuleze? Ngaba ubuso bakho buqala ukutshisa? Ngaba iindlebe zakho zitshisa? Ziziphi iimpawu zomzimba ukuba umsindo ukhula? Xa uziva le mpendulo emzimbeni wakho, ziya kukubonisa ukuba lixesha lokunyuka kwaye udibanise.
Yeka kwaye uthathe umoya ophefumlelweyo ... okanye empeleni uthathe ixesha elide, uphefumle. Ukuphefumula ngokusisiswini esiswini sakho (kungekhona isifuba sakho) kwaye uphefumlele yonke indlela ukuphuma imiphunga yakho ingenanto. Funda kwaye usebenzise iindlela zokuphucula ezongezelelweyo ezifana nokucamngca kunye nokubala okucothayo ukuya kwishumi ekunokukunceda ukuba uphinde ulawule iimvakalelo zakho ngaphambi kokuba zingabonakali.
Funda ukuqonda iimvakalelo ezinokuba ngumsindo wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha xa siphendula ngomsindo, kukho iminye imvakalelo esichengcuthekayo esiyiva ngayo njengentloni, intlungu, ukukhungatheka, ukudideka, okanye ukudana. Ukubonisa ingqumbo kunokuziva kuphephile kunokuba usebenze le mvakalelo enzima, kodwa ukuba asiyikujongana nale miva eqhubekayo ibhotile kwaye ingaguquki.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuvuselela kunokubangela ukuba ucaphuke. Ukuba unenkxalabo le nto ingaba yinkinga kuwe, qhagamshelana nodokotela wakho.
Ekugqibeleni kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo nancinci, qiniseka ukuba bobabini kunye neqabane lakho nxaxheba kubonyango kwi-ADHD yakho. Xa uyazi iindlela ze-ADHD ezinokuchaphazela ulwalamano lwakho, ulungele ukulandelelana nazo zonke iindlela zokunyangwa kwonyango. Ukwaphuhliswa kwakhona kwaye uphumelele izicwangciso eziphumelelayo zokujamelana, ukuthetha kunye nokuhambelana nomnye.
Funda kabanzi malunga:
- Ukuphucula ukusebenzisana kwamazwi
- Ukuphucula izakhono zokuLawula
- Ngaba i-ADD iyakwenza i-Drive Drive?
Umthombo:
> UMichael T. Bell. Wena, Ubuhlobo Bakho kunye ne-ADD yakho. IHarbinger Publications, Inc. 2002.