Ukuxoxa ngeemvakalelo yindlela ephela yokuphuhlisa uxhulumano oluqinileyo
Uthetha malunga nezingane, oko kukutya kunye nezicwangciso kunye nabahlobo okanye intsapho. Imini yemihla yokuphila kwakho kunye, ngokukodwa xa unabantwana, ngokuqhelekileyo yintloko yeengxoxo zakho. Ezi zinto aziphosakeli ukuthetha ngazo, ziyimfuneko. Kodwa, isiqabane esibaluleke kakhulu ukuba awufanele udibanise ngayo indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo malunga nokuqhubekayo ebomini bakho ngemini.
Ngoba?
Ezi ngxoxo ezicacileyo ziyimfuneko ukwenza "iglue" inokubamba ezimbini. Yilokho okudala abantu abasondelene nabo emnqwenweni wabo. Akukho mfuneko yokuyidlula. Oku kungenza kube nzima. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngokuphakama kwakho kwaye uhlabe, uvuyo kunye nentlungu efafazwe kwiveki yakho. Ezi zihloko zingabikho ngaphandle kokusebenzisana nabanye okanye into ethile ngqo phakathi kwakho kunye neqabane lakho.
Bobabini abasetyhini kunye namadoda banokukwazi ukulwa nemvakalelo, kodwa amadoda abonakala enzima kakhulu. Abafazi bahlala bekhalaza ngo "ukungabi nabuhlobo" okanye "ukuxhamla" kunye nabayeni babo. Kwabafazi, ulwalamano kunye noxhumano yiyona nto eyenza umnqweno wakhe wesini. Ngoko ke, kulungele umzamo, bafana!
Yintoni ongayenza ukuze wenze ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye neqabane lakho?
Masiqale ngezinto ezilula ...
Cinga ngeentsuku zakho zokugqibela kwaye uzibuze le mibuzo.
Emva koko, hlala phantsi uze uchaze iimpendulo kumlingane wakho:
Ngubani na okanye kukuthintele ntoni?
Ngubani okanye yintoni eyenza uzive ulungile?
Ngubani na odidekileyo?
Yintoni oyifunde into entsha kwaye yintoni oyithandayo ngayo?
Ngaba udibana nabani na abatsha ... ucinga ntoni ngaye?
Ngaba nantoni na eyenzekayo eyayikwenzelayo ... yakukhathaza ... yenza ukuba ucinge ngendlela eyahlukileyo ...?
Ungagxininisa kuphela kwii nyaniso, kodwa jolise nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngeempendulo zale mibuzo. Yintoni ephuma njengoko uthetha ngayo neqabane lakho? Ngaba unokufumanisa indlela evakalelwa ngayo, injabulo, intlungu, umsindo? Kuthiwani ngabanyamezelayo njengokwenqatshwa, ihlazo okanye intloni?
Ukuba awuqinisekanga, kulungile ukutsho ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uzive njani. Kukulungele ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho, ngubani onokufumana "ulwimi" lweemvakalelo, anokukunceda. Unokuziva udidekile okanye unemizwelo edibeneyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, yenza okusemandleni akho ukuyichaza.
Ngoku, makhe senze oku kunzima kakhulu ...
Abanye abantu banzima ukukhupha izihloko ezichaphazela ubudlelwane babo. Oku kungenxa yokuba igawula kwizinto zethu ezingakumbi ukwesaba okukhulu ngokuchaswa, ukushiywa okanye esinye isenzo esiyikrakra sisebenzisana nathi. Kodwa, njengezihloko zemihla ngemihla, akwanele ukuthetha nje ngeengcamango zakho kunye neengcamango kwiinkalo ezinzima (ukubeletha, isondo, umzala, imali kunye nokunye). Kufuneka uxoxe (uqikelele!) Indlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngalezi zihloko.
Xa elinye iqabane lisebenza okanye liphephe malunga nokuququzelela enye yezi zifundo kudla ngokubonisa into enzulu. Ababini kufuneka baqhekeze ngokukhuseleka, ukuvutha komsindo okanye ukuvala ingxoxo ukuze baxoxe ngeengcamango zabo "eziphambili".
Imvakalelo ejulile, eyona nto ibangela uxhulumaniso olunzulu nolunentsingiselo kunye nesondlo esithandanayo. Kwakhona kuvimbela ukuhamba kweendlela zokunxibelelana ezimbi. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba "andinakuze ndimkholise" okanye "Andibalulekanga kuye," oku kusenokuba yiyiphi enye into ekusetyenzisweni ngayo malunga neendawo ezahlukeneyo zokujonga izinto ezifana nokuchitha imali yakho ngokwesini okanye isixa sichithwa kunye nemithetho kamasipala.
Kunokuvelisa ngakumbi ukuveza iimvakalelo zangempela kunokunyamekela, ukunyamezela, ukunyamezela okanye ukukrakra. Ukongezelela koko, kulula kakhulu ukuba iqabane lakho liphendule kule miqobo yengqondo yethando.
Kukuphumelela kokubili.
Oku kunceda njani?
Olu hlobo lwenhliziyo entliziyweni inxibelelwano iya ...
- baqhubeke bexabana
- ukuthintela "intukuthelo" ukuba izibhedlele zivame ukuva malunga namaofisi abo
- Unceda iqabane lakho live novelwano kwaye "uhambe ezinqabeni zakho"
- ukucima i-hormone ezixhasayo
- ukudibanisa uxhamli olunzulu nolunentsingiselo kunye neqabane lakho
- ukuphuma ngaphandle kokuxoxa kuphela
Ulwalamano olude lwexesha elide lwakhiwe ngokuthatha le mngcipheko kumaqabane ethu!
NGANI UKUBA UKUBA UKUBHALA ISIHLOKO SOMTSHATHO WENTSHATSHANE?