Ukunyanya ukukhula komntwana kungabangela ubuninzi beengxaki zengqondo. Imiba yesisindo ingaba nzima nakakhulu ngexesha leminyaka ephakathi ngenxa yoluntu olukhethekileyo lwentlalo le minyaka. Nazi izinto abazali abafanele bazi ngayo ngemiphumo yengqondo yobunzima bebuntwaneni, ukuze bancede abantwana bajongane nemingeni kunye nezinye iingxaki ezinxulumene nazo.
Imiba Yokuzimelela
Ukunyamezela kwabantwana kungaphezu kweengxaki zomzimba. I-Tween ijwayele ukuba yi-hyper-aware of the how they compare them to others, ebenza ukuba bazimelele kwaye bazive bodwa. Uninzi lwale mimandla luluntu luxhamle kwizinto ezintle, ezifana nokukhethwa kwengubo, ukukhangisa ubuso kunye no-yes-weight. Ngako oko i-middle tete ivakalelwa kukuba ayikho indawo phakathi kwontanga yakhe. Ngenxa yoko, abaphandi baye bafumana amanqanaba aphantsi okuzithemba ngabantwana abancinci kunye nama-tween ngokuthelekiswa neontanga zabo ezilinganayo. Elinye iqela labaphandi lafumanisa ukuba abantu abaneminyaka engama-9 ukuya kwimi-12 ubudala banemibandela yokuzithemba eyayizigqithiseleyo. Ngamanye amazwi, abantu abagqithisileyo bavame ukungonwabi ngeendlela ezahlukahlukeneyo-kubandakanywa noluntu - kungekhona nje ukuvuyela ukubonakala kwabo.
Amanqanaba aPhakamileyo okuPhukisa
Iminyaka yesikolo esiphakathi yiminyaka elukhuni nangaphantsi kweemeko ezilungileyo, kodwa kuninzi kubantwana abanemiba yesisindo.
Ukongezelela ekwenzeni ukuthelekiswa kweentlalo kunye neontanga zabo, i-twee ijwayele ukulungisa indlela abanye abantu abasabela ngayo kubo. Ngelishwa, i-twee ephasayo ifunyenwe ukuba ibe neempembelelo zontanga ezingapheliyo xa kuthelekiswa nesisindo somyinge. Oontanga badlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bobomi, ngokunjalo ukusebenzisana kwentlalo enokubalulekileyo kuyona nto ibalulekileyo kwi-welfare welfare.
Ngenxa yoko, amanqanaba aphezulu okudakumba afunyenwe kubantwana abancinci nakwezinye.
Iingxaki ezininzi zokuziphatha
Phantse zonke ii-tweens ziza kusebenza ngenye indlela okanye enye, kodwa abazali abanamava amaninzi baye babika iingxaki zokuziphatha ezininzi kwiimeko zabo ezigqithisileyo ngokuthelekiswa nabazali be-average weight weight. Ngokukodwa, abazali baqaphele ukuba abantwana babo abagqithiseleyo babeneengxaki "zokungena ngaphakathi" iingxaki - iingxaki apho ingqumbo ejoliswe ngaphakathi, engabonakalisa njengexinzelelo, ukuxhalabisa okanye ukutya . Baye "banciphisa iingxaki" - iingxaki apho umsindo uphelelwe ngaphandle, njengobundlobongela, ukunyaniseka nokuthetha. Abazali baphinde babala ukuba abafundi babo banamathuba amaninzi esikolweni nakwiindawo zentlalo, bebeka impumelelo yabo yokufunda kunye nabangane babo engozini. Umbono womzali ungadlala indima kulezi ziphumo, nangona kunjalo, kuba abo bafuna unyango baxela iingxaki zokuziphatha ezingaphezu kwalabo abangazange bafune unyango. Ngamanye amazwi, mhlawumbi ngaba abazali ababonayo ukunyamezela njengengxaki efuna unyango banokuthi banxulumane nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha njengengxaki; abo bangakhange bafune unyango bebengaboni ukugqithisa okanye ezinye iziphathamandla njengeengxaki.
Kukho konke, ukukhuluphala kungabangela inani leengxaki zengqondo ngexesha leminyaka emibini. Ngoko ke, ukuthatha amanyathelo okulungisa umba ngokusebenzisa utshintsho kwondlo kunye nokusebenza ngokomzimba kunokuba luncedo olusemzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho uyabandezeleka ngenxa yenkinga enxulumene nesisindo, ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana wezilwanyana kwinqanaba lokuqala lokufumana umntwana wakho uncedo.
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