Indlela yokuxelela ukuba umntwana wakho unokuziphatha okuphazamisayo nento enokuyenza
Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana babonise iingxaki zokuziphatha ezifana neengqungquthela, ukungcola, ukuthetha emva, nokungalaleli. Mhlawumbi akekho umzali ngaphandle apho angaqhelani nemimiselo enzima abantwana bangayenza xa bekhula, bafunde indlela yokulawula iimpembelelo zabo, kunye nemida yokuvavanya. Kodwa kwezinye iimeko, abantwana bangabonakalisa ukuziphatha okungawela phantsi kwecandelo "lokuziphatha okuphazamisayo." Njengoko eli gama libonisa, ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo kukukho nje ukuziphatha-ekhaya, esikolweni nakwezinye iindawo eziphazamisa ukuhamba kwezinto eziqhelekileyo.
Iziphazamiso zokuziphatha eziphazamisayo
Abantwana abanenkinga yokuziphatha ephazamisayo baza kubonisa umzekelo wokuphindaphindiwe nomsindo, ukungahloniphi, ukubuyela emva, ukulawula ukukhathazeka nokulawula iimvakalelo zabo, kunye nokuziphatha okubi okanye ukuziphatha kakubi kubantu abadala kunye nabanye abantwana. Kungundoqo oko ungakubona kumntwana oqhelekileyo, kodwa ngaphezulu - ngakumbi, ngakumbi, rhoqo, kwaye kunzima ukulawula. Akumangalisi kukuba, ezi ziphatha ziza kuba nefuthe elibi malunga nendlela aba bantwana benza ngayo esikolweni nakwikhaya kwaye baya kuthintela ubudlelwane babo boluntu nabazali, abantakwabo, ootitshala kunye noontanga. Iintlobo eziqhelekileyo zeziphazamiso zokuziphatha eziphazamisayo ziyi-disorder disorder (oppression disorder) (ODD) kunye nokuziphatha kakubi.
Abantwana abane-ODD bobugcisa abaziphatha kakubi kunokuba baqhube ukuphazamiseka, kodwa kufuneka baqwalaselwe ngokungenelela. Ezinye iimpawu ze-ODD ziquka:
- Ngokukhawuleza ukuthukuthela kwaye ubonise umsindo
- Ngokubanzi ukuphikisana nabantu abadala
- Ukumelana negunya - ngokungafuni ukulandela imithetho okanye ukuthobela izicelo kubantu abadala
- Ukugxeka abanye ngenxa yeempazamo zakhe
- Abanye abacaphukisa ngamabomu
- Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukunyanzelisa nokunyelisa; efuna ukuziphindisela
- Ukucaphukisa ngabanye
Ukuziphatha kakubi, ngokuchaseneyo, kunzulu kakhulu kwaye kunokunxulumana nezenzo zobundlobongela okanye zobundlobongela.
Ukuziphatha kakubi kudla ngokuba yi-ODD kubantwana abancinci. Abantwana abanenkinga yokuziphatha baxhaphaza okanye baxhaphaze abanye abantu ngeemvakalelo zabo kwaye bazinyamekeli ngamalungelo abantu. Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zengxaki yokuziphatha ziquka:
- Ukunyanzela kwabanye abantu (kuquka ukuxhatshazwa okanye ukusongela)
- Ukwenqaba ukulandela imithetho okanye imida ekhaya nasezikolweni (ezifana nokusika isikolo)
- L ying
- Ukuba
- Ukuphazamiseka
- Ukuhlukunyezwa kwesiyobisi
- Ukusika isikolo
- Ukuhlasela abanye emzimbeni
- Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwezilwanyana
Into enokuyenza Ukuba Utshutshisa Umntwana Wakho Unokuba neengxaki zokuziphatha
- Okokuqala, khuluma nomntwana wengane yakho. Kukho ezininzi izibonelelo kunye nabaqeqeshi abanokukwazi ukuxilonga umntwana wakho kwaye banikele ngolwazi kunye noncedo.
- Umthetho ngoku ukujongana neengxaki. Abantwana abaneminyaka esikolweni bahlakulela izakhono ezibalulekileyo kwimfundo nakwintlalo; nantoni na ephazamisa ikhono lomntwana wakho lokufunda, landela izikhombisi-ndlela, kwaye wenze abahlobo banokuba negalelo elikhulu ekuphuhlisweni kwakhe nokuba wenza njani esikolweni.
- Khangela ezinye iimeko ezinxulumene nazo. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba abaninzi abantwana abaye bafumanisa ukuba bane- ADHD banokufumaneka ukuba bane-ODD. Fumana ukuxilongwa ngokufanelekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukufumana inkqubo yesenzo esifanelekileyo ukunceda umntwana wakho.
- Musa ukunciphisa ubunzulu bokukhathazeka kokuziphatha. Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza ngendlela enobudlova okanye enobudlova, thabatha amanyathelo ngokukhawuleza ukukhusela abo malunga nomntwana wakho - kunye nomntanakho kanye. Biza udokotela wezilwanyana uze uthintane neengcali zempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
- Yazi ukuba awuwedwa kwaye zikho izicombululo. Abazali abaninzi ngaphandle apho bajongana neengxaki zokuziphatha kule ngcaciso emfutshane. Kwaye baninzi abaqeqeshi abaqeqeshiweyo abanokukunceda ufumane isisombululo esiya kusebenza kwintsapho yakho. Unyango lunokubandakanya abagqirha abasebenzisana nabazali nezingane ukuba bancede abazali babeke imida, baqinise umanyano wabantwana nabantwana kunye nokunciphisa ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo.
- Zikhathalele. Ingaba nzima ukujongana nomntwana onobudlova, ongenomdla kunye ongathobeliyo. Qiniseka ukufumana iindlela zokulawula uxinzelelo lwakho, nokuba ngaba uhambahamba, uthetha nabahlobo, ukucamngca okanye i-yoga. Kwaye xa ufumanisa ukuba ube nomsindo kwaye udidekile, thabatha ixesha elifutshane kunye neenyawo kude nomntwana wakho ukuzola phambi kokuba uqeqeshe umntwana wakho.