Umthetho woKhenketho-imbono yokuba iingcamango neemvakalelo zethu zenza amava ethu, kwaye ukuba sitsalane oko sikugxila kuyo-inomlando omdala njengengcamango, kodwa yafumana ukuthandwa kakhulu ngenxa ye "Imfihlelo", i-Oprah, kunye nezinye izikhululo zeendaba. Nangona kukho iingcamango ezahlukileyo zezizathu zokuthi kungani zingasebenza, kunye nezicathulo omele uziqaphele ngazo , ungasebenzisa imigaqo yomthetho wokukhangela ukukhupha uxinzelelo nokutsala ubomi obufunayo.
(Ndiyisebenzise ekwenzeni kwam kunye nobomi bam, kwaye kusebenzele kum.) Amanyathelo alandelayo anokukhokelela ekugqithiseni ubomi obuncinci.
Bhala uluhlu lwakho
Yenza uluhlu lwezinto zonke ebomini bakho oziva udidekile, okanye ungathanda ukutshintsha. Oku kunokubandakanya umsebenzi oxinezelekileyo , ukuziphatha kwabafundi bakho , okanye ukuxabana kobudlelwane bakho , umzekelo.
Bhala uluhlu lweZithuba
Emva koko, qalisa iphephancwadi . Kwimeko nganye eluhlu lwakho, fumana yonke into ongayicinga ngayo into efanelekileyo kule meko. Ngokomzekelo, umsebenzi onzima unakho ukuzisa iingeniso zengeniso, umngeni wobuchule okanye ukukhula komntu; umsebenzi unokuba isithuthi sokwandisa umgangatho wakho womonde, umzekelo. (Okona kuncinci, kunokukuzisa ulwazi oluxabisekileyo ukuba oku akusikho into ofuna ukuyenza ngobomi bakho!)
Gcina isimo sengqondo esihle
Oku akuthethi nje ukuthatha uncumo ebusweni bakho; kuthetha ukusebenzisana nokuvakalelwa into onayo, kwaye oko ukholelwa kuza kuza.
Oku kunene: shintshisa ingqwalaselo yakho kwiimvakalelo zakho zokungahambi, kunye nemvakalelo yokubulela kunye nobuninzi. Kholelwa kuwe, kwikamva lakho, nakuThixo okanye kwindalo yonke, kwaye uyazi ukuba unokwenza nayiphi na inguqu ebomini obufunayo.
Ubonise Ubomi obulungileyo
Ukwakha nokugcina umfanekiso obonakalayo wento oyifunayo ebomini bakho (endaweni yokugxila kwizinto ongafuniyo) inokuba yindlela enamandla yokutshintsha utshintsho oluhle kunye nethuba.
Yenza uludwe olunzulu lwezinto ozithandayo ebomini bakho. Hlala phantsi imihla ngemihla uze ukhangele oko ubomi bakho obutsha buya kubonakala kwaye buya kuziva njani ukuba kukho utshintsho.
Cinga, Uziva, Mthetho
Qinisekisa ukuba iingcamango zakho, iimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha konke kugxininisa kwiinjongo zakho, kunokuba uxhaphaze ngayo imeko yakho okanye nayiphi na imvakalelo engafanelekanga. Gcina ukuthetha kwakho okulungileyo kunye nethemba; ukubandakanya kwiziboniso zemihla ngemihla ebonisa ubomi obunayo; sebenze kwisicwangciso sakho senxaxheba. Ukuba wenza oku, kufuneka kukufumene ukuqhuba ngokukhawuleza ebomini ofuna.
Iingcebiso
- Cwangcisa iingcamango zakho ngendlela oza kudala ukuqinisekiswa okuqinisekileyo, ngokugxininisa kwinto oyifunayo kunokuba kukukhathaza. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga neengqinisiso ezintle ngolwazi olongezelelweyo kwesi sixhobo esisebenzayo sokutshintsha okulungileyo.)
- Gcina iphepha lokubonga, apho ubhala phantsi izinto ozibulelayo. Kukho uncedo oluninzi lwezempilo kunye nokuxininisa ukuloba , kwaye lo mkhuba unokukunceda uhlakulele isimo sengqondo sokubonga, okudala isikhala sobuninzi obuninzi.
- Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba iingcamango zakho zichaphazela njani ubomi bakho, unokuvavanya iipatheni zakho zokucinga ngolu hlobo lwemibuzo.
- Yamkela Yintoni. Esikhundleni sokuchitha imihla ngemihla kwizinto ongazithandiyo ngobomi bakho kwaye ufuna ukuba izinto zifani, zama ukuhambelana nembi kunye nokulungileyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba awuyi kutshintsha utshintsho ebomini bakho; kuthetha nje ukuba ungagxininisi kwiintlungu zakho zonke iintsuku. Uyenzela uxolo kunye nantoni xa uqhuba inkqubela kwizinto othanda ukuzenza.