Kutheni abantu abanePTSD banokuzuza kwiNkuthalo
Kungabalulekile ukuba umntu one-PTSD afunde indlela yokwenza uhlalutyo lweetyuli. Abantu abanePTSD banokuphuhlisa inani leengxaki zokuziphatha. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ezi ziphatha iingxaki zikhula ngesizathu. Bakhonza uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi, amaxesha amaninzi ancedisa umntu ukuba agweme okanye aphunyuke .
Uhlalutyo Lwenjani?
Uyaziwa nangokuhlalutya okusebenzayo, uhlalutyo lweketshilo yinkqubo eyenzelwe ukunceda umntu aqonde umsebenzi othile wokuziphatha.
Ngethuba lohlalutyo lwekhenketho lokuziphatha kwimiba ethile (umzekelo, ukuzilimaza ngokuzikhethela ), umntu uzama ukufumanisa zonke izinto ezikhokelela kuloo mpawu.
Ngamanye amagama, umntu uzama ukufumana zonke iinqununu kwikhonkco ekugqibeleni kubangele ukuziphatha kwengxaki. Ngoko ke, uhlalutyo lweetyunithi luyakunceda uqonde zonke izinto ezinokuba negalelo ekuziphatheni ingxaki, kwaye ngokwenza njalo, uhlalutyo lwekontrali lunokukunika ingqiqo indlela yokutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha.
Ngokomzekelo, umntu unokufumanisa imeko awayekho kuyo, iingcamango awayejamelana nazo okanye iimvakalelo awayezenza ngaphambi kokubandakanyeka kuloo mpawu. Ngokwenza njalo, umntu unokunyusa ukuqonda kwayo yonke into engambeka engozini yokuziphatha kwengxaki. Ngale ndlela, umntu unako ukulungelelanisa ukuba angenelele ekuhambeni kwangaphambili ekuthintela ukuziphatha kwixesha elizayo.
Khangela oko ufuna ukutshintsha
Isinyathelo sokuqala kukuchonga ukuziphatha ofuna ukutshintsha.
Ngokomzekelo, ngaba ufuna ukuyeka ukuzibandakanya kwiyeza ? Ukutya ukutya ? Zama ukuqaphela ukuziphatha okubangela iingxaki ebomini bakho.
Emva koko, cinga ngezinto ezenzeka ngaphambi kokuba uthathe ingxaki yokuziphatha. Ubusenza ntoni? Yintoni eyenzeka malunga nawe? Ngaba unengxabano?
Ngaba unakho ukukhumbula umcimbi wakho obuhlungu? Eyona nto, ufuna ukuchonga isiganeko okanye imeko eyenziwa njengendawo yokuqala yokuziphatha kwakho.
Ukunyamekela Ukucinga Ngemizekelo kunye Nemvakalelo
Ngoku, phawula ukuba zeziphi iintlobo zeengcamango eziye zaphakanyiswa yimeko okanye umcimbi owabangela ukuziphatha kwengxaki. Uhlolisise njani imeko okanye wena ngokwimeko? Ngaba wenze inhlekelele okanye konke-okanye-none ?
Cinga ngendlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngenxa yeso simo. Zama okusemandleni akho ukuba uluhlu lweemvakalelo ezininzi ezinokwenzeka, njengokwesaba, ukudabuka, umsindo, ukuhlazeka, ityala, ukuhlazeka okanye ukwesaba.
Thabatha ingqalelo kwizinto ozivelayo emzimbeni wakho. Zama ukuqaphela kwaye ubhale iinto zonke ezivelayo. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba unako ukuphefumla okufutshane? Ukuxhatshazwa kwemizimba? Ukwanda kwenani lentliziyo? Cinga ngendlela umzimba wakho owasabela ngayo kwimeko.
Emva koko, dwelisa ukuba iziphi iingcamango, iimvakalelo kunye nemizwa yomzimba eyenza ukuba uyenze. Okokuthi, ngaba bakwenza ukuba ufuna ukubalekela imeko okanye wenze into eyenza ukuba loo mivo imise? Ngaba uziva unesidingo sokubandakanya ukuziphatha kwakho kweengxaki?
Ekugqibeleni, cinga ngemiphumo yokuthatha ingxaki yokuziphatha kwakho.
Ngaba uzive ungcono emva koko? Ngaba uzive udidekile kuwe? Ihlazo? Zama ukubhala iziphumo ezininzi (zombini ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi) njengoko unako.
Iingcebiso kwiCandelo lokuhlalutya
Kungakunceda ukuba uhlalutye ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba ujoyine ingxaki yokuziphatha. Ngaloo ndlela, amava akho avuselelekile engqondweni yakho kwaye uya kukwazi ukukhumbula ulwazi olongezelelweyo malunga nezinto ezibangele ukuziphatha kwakho kweengxaki.
Kwakhona kunokuba luncedo ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinokukwenza ukuba unokukwazi ukuphendula kwimeko njengoko wenzayo. Ngokomzekelo, xa abantu bengadli kakuhle okanye bengakwazi ukulala ngokwaneleyo, banokuba banokungakwazi ukufumana iimvakalelo ezimbi okanye ukufumana amava amaninzi angamava.
Iimpazamo zingasebenzela imisebenzi emininzi. Ngoko ke, hamba uhlalutyo lwekhenketho malunga neemeko ezahlukeneyo ezikhokelela ekuziphatheni kweengxaki kwaye uzama ukuchonga yonke imisebenzi yokuziphatha kwengxaki ekusebenzelayo.
Emva kokuba uhlalutye uhlalutyo lweethungelwano, qalela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokujamelana nazo ongayisebenzisa kwisigaba ngasinye. Ukongezelela ekuchazeni umsebenzi ukuziphatha kwengxaki kusebenza, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba kubone indlela 'yokuphula ikhonkco' ngokusetyenziswa kwamagqabantshintshi aphilileyo .
Umthombo:
Linehan, MM (1993). Ukunyangwa kwengqondo yokuziphatha komngcipheko wobuntu bomda. ENew York, NY: Guilford Press.