Ngaba ulwalamano olunxulumene nolwazi lungasindisa umtshato wam?
Akunabo bonke abantu abaneengxaki zomntu ongapheliyo (BPD) abafuna uncedo ngamnye. Xa enye ibalulekileyo ibonisa iimpawu zeBPD ezichaphazela ulwalamano lwakho kodwa aziyi kufuna uncedo, wenza ntoni? Abanye banokucingela ukucebisa iingcebiso. Iqabane lakho lingavumelana nalo. Kodwa ngaba iingcebiso zengqangi zingasebenzisa ukunyangwa komngcipheko wobuntu?
Ngaba ingasindisa umtshato wakho?
Ukwenza Isibophelelo Sokufuna Uncedo
Le meko ikubeka njengomlingane kwisimo esinzima; Ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho linokuba ne-BPD, kodwa akayi kufuna uvavanyo olusesikweni okanye unyango ngamnye. Nangona ucebisi olunezibini lunokuba luncedo, oku kuyimfuneko ekufuneka iqwalaselwe kwaye kufuneka uyenze ukucinga. Ngenxa yokuguquka kwemizwelo enzima, iziqulatho ezinobundlobongela, kunye nemiba yokuchitha okanye ukuziphatha kakubi, ukuba neqabane elingenakulawulwa yi-BPD inokuyikrakra. Isifo esibi kakhulu esinokuba nemiphumo ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke intsapho. Nangona ukuphuculwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka, kufuna ukuzibophelela kwangempela kuzo zombini amaqabane.
Ukuba sele sele uzimisele ukuba uzimisele ukuhlala kulo mtshato kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na, ukucebisana ngezibini kungabangela isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo. Ulwaphulo lweqela kunye neengcebiso zomtshato aziqhelwanga ngokubanzi kwi- BPD unyango de kube yimva xa kukho inkqubela phambili, kodwa oku kungaba yinto efanelekileyo yokuqala xa izibini zengcebiso zizo zonke iziqabane zakho ziyavuma.
Imibhangqwana Yokucebisa kunye neNgcaciso yoBuntu beMida
Kukho uphando oluthile olukhoyo kwiimpembelelo zengcebhiso ezicebisa ukuphazamiseka komntu, kodwa iingcali ziba ngakumbi ngakumbi ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani inkxaso yentsapho yokulawula i-BPD. Iingcali ezininzi sele zincoma ukucebisa iingcebiso njengesilumko esiluncedo kwi-regimen ye-BPD yonyango.
Ukucebisa abantu abatshatileyo kunokukwazi ukunceda ukuzinzisa ubudlelwane bakho, kukufundise bobabini indlela yokuthetha ngokuthe ngempumelelo, nendlela yokuphatha kunye kunye nokusebenza. Ngokusebenzisa unyango oluhlanganyelweyo, ithemba lokuba, iqabane lakho liya kubona imfuno yonyango ngalinye.
Ukukhetha i-Right Therapist
Ekubeni ukholelwa ukuba kukho izibonakaliso ukuba lakho iqabane li ne-BPD, kungcono kukukhetha inkcazo yeembambano ezinamava athile kunye neengxaki zobuntu. Kunokuba uqeqeshe umqeqeshi, unokufuna umgqirha ogunyazisiweyo onemvelaphi yonyango ukunika uncedo olufanelekileyo. Abaqabane abanobini kunye ne-BPD iqabane lingabonisa imingeni ekhethekileyo ejongene kakuhle neengcali.
Imithombo:
Izixhumanisi PS, i-Stockwell M. "Ngaba Ulwalamano Lwamaqabane alubonakaliswe ukuxhatshazwa kwabantu?" I- American Journal ye-Psychotherapy , 55: 491-506, 2001.
Iqela loLuntu kwiMida yeBorderline Person Disorder. Sebenzisa iZikhokelo zoLonyango lwabaguli abaneMngcipheko yoBuntu obuMdatha . IWashington, DC: Ukushicilela i-Psychiatric, i-2001.