Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba ukuyeka enye i-steam kunokuba yingozi
Abantu abaninzi abanomdaka wobunzima be-border (BPD) bazama ukufunda indlela yokuvutha umsindo ngendlela ephilileyo kwaye engonakalisi. Ukuba unenkqonkqo neengqumbo zomsindo kwixesha elidlulileyo, usenokuba wakhuthazwa ukuba uvumele konke. Kodwa uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba ukuhamba kungabi nanjengempilo njengoko bekucingwe.
Ngaba ukuphucula impilo xa unayo i-BPD?
Abantu abaninzi abane-BPD bafumana umsindo ovuthiweyo obizwa ngezinye izihlandlo othiwa " ukufutheka komda ." Xa oku kwenzeka kuwe, usenokubethwa yimvakalelo enzulu kufuneka udibanise, mhlawumbi ngokukhawula, ukuzilimaza okanye ezinye izinto eziyingozi .
Lo msindo ogqithiseleyo uvela ekuphenduleni kwiimpawu ezibonakalayo, ezifana nokuziva ngathi uyaphumeleli kwinto okanye ukuvalelwa ngumntu othandekayo.
Ukuba unolu hlobo lomsindo, unokuba nzima ukuyilawula. Abaphengululi bexesha elidlulileyo banokukucebisa ukuba ulawule umsindo wakho ngokuvala okanye "ukuyeka u-steam." Ngamanye amaxesha le nto ithatha uhlobo lweendlela eziphathekayo ezinjengokubetha umlotha okanye ukugcoba kwisitya. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha ukuvama kunokwanda kwinqanaba apho kubangela ukulimala kwabanye, wena okanye ukulimaza kwipropati.
Ingcamango yokuba ukuyeka umcamelo unokukunceda ukulawula umsindo wakho awuntsha; kwiminyaka emininzi abaqeqeshi bempilo yengqondo bacinga ukuba lolu hlobo lokuvakala luyimfuneko ekulawuleni umsindo. Ukukhululwa kwemvakalelo enzulu kuchazwe ngababoneleli bezempilo njengecatharsis.
Ngaba Ukuxhoma Ukunceda Ukulawula Ingqumbo?
Ukuba nesicwangco ngendlela ezinobungozi isicwangciso esibi, esinokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi kuwe nakwabanye abantu.
Kwezinye iimeko, kunokubangela neengxaki zomthetho ezihlala njalo. Kodwa kuthekani ngeendlela ezingenakubungozi zokungena, njengokutshiza umququ?
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukuyeka utyama, nokuba kwindlela ezingenakonakala, akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokulawula umsindo wakho. Enyanisweni, ezi ndlela ezinokuthi zingenakubungozi ziye zaboniswa ukwandisa ukuziphatha kakubi kamva.
Eqinisweni uqeqesha umzimba wakho ukuba usebenzise ubudlova njengendlela yokulawula iimpawu zakho zeBPD . Ngoko, ngelixa uziva ulunge okwexeshana, isenzo sokwenza umkhondo singakhokelela ekubeni ube nobunzima obuninzi ngomsindo wakho.
Kwixesha elidlulileyo, oogqirha bacebise abantu ukuba benze izinto ezifana ne-punch pillow, kodwa ngoku siyazi ukuba oku akusoloko isiluleko esihle kakhulu; isisombululo esingazinzileyo kunye nemiphumo emibi.
Ndifanele Ndibe Nomsindo Kangakanani Kunoko?
Esikhundleni sokungena, thintana nomculi wakho malunga neendlela zokujongana kangcono nempawu zakho. Kukho ubuchule obuya kukuvumela ukuba uphathe umsindo wakho:
- Thatha ikhefu: Zinike ixesha elide kwizinto ezikukhathazayo . Ingaba ungumlingane wangaphambili okanye umntu owayekade engumhlobo, ukuphuma ngaphandle okanye ukushiya iqela elide ukuwaphepha linokukunceda ukukhusela ukuqala ukusuka kwindawo yokuqala.
- Ukuzivocavoca: Thatha uhambo okanye uthinte i-gym . Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uphume ngamandla akho ngaphandle kokubandakanya nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha okulimazayo.
- Bhala phantsi: Hlasela phantsi indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kwiphepha okanye kwiblogi yakho. Ngokuvumela iingcamango zakho nokucamngca ngeemvakalelo zakho, unokufumana ingxaki engcono kwimvakalelo yakho.
Ukuba ufuna ezinye iindlela zokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunye nokugquma, zama ezi ngcebiso kwiindlela ezili-10 eziphilileyo zokulawula ukuvutha kwakho .
Imithombo:
UBushman BJ, uBaumeister RF, Stack AD. "I-Catharsis, Inkohlakalo, kunye Nefuthe Lokunciphisa: Ukuzizalisa Ukuzizalisa okanye Ukuzikhusela?" Umbhalo woBuntu kunye neNzululwazi yeNtlalo 76 (3): 367-376, 1999.