Iintlobo ezininzi ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane obusondeleyo zichaphazeleka ngumngcipheko wobuntu bomda (BPD) , kodwa mhlawumbi akukho ngaphezu kokuba utshatile kumntu onomntu oyi-BPD. Ngokukodwa, imitshato apho omnye okanye bobabini abalingani banayo i-BPD ingaba yinto ephazamisayo, ingquzulwano, kwaye ingasebenzi.
Funda kabanzi malunga nendlela umtshato wakho unokuchaphazeleka ngayo yi-BPD, kwaye wena kunye nomlingane wakho (ngokumangalisa) akunakunokwakhelwa umtshato njengoko mhlawumbi unokucinga.
Umntu woMntu oMdaka oMtshato: Izibalo
Izifundo zesimo somtshato kubantu abane-BPD ziye zafumanisa ukuba malunga nama-60 ekhulwini abatshatileyo (ezi zifundo zenziwa kubantu abaneminyaka engama-40 ubudala ubudala). Oku kuphakamisa ukuba abantu abane-BPD abanako ukutshata kunabo babantu bonke-e-United States, malunga neepesenti ezingama-85 zabantu abatshadile abaneminyaka engama-40.
Ngalindelekanga, abantu abane-BPD abanakho ixabiso lomtshato ophezulu ngaphezu koluntu jikelele. Ngokomyinge ophakathi kweminyaka engama-40, izinga lokuqhawula umtshato kubantu abano-BPD li malunga nama-35 ekhulwini, kwaye oku kufaniswa nomlinganiselo wokuqhawula umtshato ummi waseMelika ophakathi. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abane-BPD banamathuba amaninzi okuphinda baphinde baphinde baqhawule umtshato. Enyanisweni, kuphela iipesenti ezi-10 zabantu abane-BPD bashada kwakhona malunga no-40 ubudala obunesiqingatha sesiqingatha sesizwe sokutshata kwakhona.
Inqaku elincamisayo, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abaneengxaki zomntu ongenamkhawulo obangela ukunciphisa impawu zabo (ezichazwe njengokubuyiselwa kwi-BPD ) baninzi amathuba kunokuba abantu abangabuyiswanga kunye ne-BPD bashade baze babe ngumzali kwaye banako ukuhlukana okanye ukulahlekelwa ngumntwana.
Umntu woMntu oMdeni woMtshato: Imiba yeMpawu
Enye indlela yokugweba ukuba utshatile umntu onomntu ophethe i-BPD unokuphumelela ngowamazinga omtshato. Ukusebenzisa oku njengomlinganiselo we "mpu melelo," kubonakala ukuba imitshato ephethe iqabane kunye ne-BPD ayiphumeli okanye ayiphumelelanga ngaphaya komtshato oqhelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akuqwalaselanga umgangatho womtshato okanye ukwaneliseka kwamaqabane.
Ngelishwa, kuncinci idatha yocwaningo ngobunzima bemitshato apho umntu oyedwa eneBPD. Kuphando olwenziwayo, olunye uphando lufumene ikhonkco elifanelekileyo phakathi kweempawu zeBPD kunye nodlova lomtshato kunye noxinzelelo. Oku kuthetha ukuba iimpawu ze-BPD zibi kakhulu (umzekelo, ukwesaba ukulahlelwa okanye ukutshintsha kwemizimba rhoqo kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo) kunokwenzeka ukuba kukho ubundlobongela, ngaphezu kwenkathazo enkulu emtshatweni.
Olunye uphando lufumene ukuba iimpawu zeBPD zidibaniswe neengxaki zokuxazulula iingxaki kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano emtshatweni.
Kukho iinkcukacha zesayensi malunga nobuhlobo bomtshato kunye ne-BPD enika ingqiqo. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba iimpawu zeBPD zidibene nokuxinezeleka okungapheliyo, iingxabano ezingakumbi, kunye nolwaneliseko olusenyongweni olusenyongweni lobuhlobo.
Ukongezelela, ezinye iingcali zikholelwa ukuba umgangatho uxhomekeka kakhulu kumntu we-BPD. Kuyathakazelisa, kukho uphando olubonisa ukuba abantu abaneempawu ze-BPD bavame ukutshata nabalingani abaye babika iimpawu ze-BPD-into ebizwa ngokuba yi-mating assortative.
Le nto ibangela ukukhathazeka. Kubonakala ngathi kunokuba nzima ngakumbi ukulawula ubudlelwane ngempumelelo kwaye unonwabe xa kungekho nanye, kodwa bobabini abalingani, banokutshintshwa kweemvakalelo ezinzulu, bazibandakanye iimpawu zokuzikhukhumeza , kwaye banomqondo ongeyingozi-kunye neempawu zokuba ne-BPD.
ILizwi
Umyalezo osuka ekhaya uya kuba nangona iinqanaba zomtshato zingaphakanyanga njengowodwa ngaphandle kwemitshato apho umntu oyedwa ene-BPD, ekubeni enobudlelwane nomntu onomntu ongenayo i-BPD unokusondeza ngokukhawuleza kwaye kunzima.
Yingakho ukongeza kwi-BPD iqabane lokufumana unyango, yinto efanelekileyo yokufuna umtshato okanye usapho unyango ukugcina umtshato, ubudlelwane kunye nosapho lusebenza kakuhle.
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