Ukudibana nosapho lomntu ngenxa yoluhlobo olude olude luhlala lulula. Ukhetha iqabane lakho, kungekhona intsapho yakhe, kodwa usalunxubile kwintsapho yakhe emva komtshato nokuba uyayithanda okanye ayithandi.
Umlingane wakho uya kuba nethemba ngokuqhubekayo kwilungu ngalinye lentsapho elinokunyusa uxinzelelo lwakho lwalamano. Loo wedwa unokubangela ukuba umntu abe nemvakalelo engathandekiyo, kodwa ukuba unobungozi bomntu ongenamkhawulo , unokufumana ubunzima obunzima bokuzibandakanya nale abantu abatsha.
Kuyakucasula kuwe xa iqabane lakhe lifuna ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo kunye namalungu entsapho, ngakumbi xa ufumanisa ukuba lakho iqabane liphathwa kakubi ngabo ngaphambili. Unokholo lokuba iqabane lakho lenza izizathu kwaye ungaboni intsapho ekukhanyeni kwangempela.
Unokuvakalelwa xa unomuvo wokuthi intsapho yakho iqabane okanye ikugweba. Ezi mvakalelo zokugatywa zibangelwa naliphi na inani lezinto, kubandakanywa nenkolelo yokuba akuthandi, ungaqiniseki ukuba unakho ubuchule okanye umbuzo malunga nezigqibo zakho zabazali kunye namakhono.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuba unqwenele ngenye indlela, i-mithetho yakho ayikho ndawo. Kubalulekile ngenxa yempilo yakho kunye nempilo yomtshato wakho ukuba ufunde ezinye izakhono zokujamelana nokujongana nokuphatha kakuhle intsapho yakho.
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Xa uvakalelwa kukuba umyeni wakho akakunyanzelanga okanye awukhohlisi, kunokuzama ukuhlala uvakalelwa okanye uzilahla xa utyhafile.
Kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isinyathelo sokubuya ukuba ucinge ngezenzo zomntu kunye nendlela ophendula ngayo ngaphambi kokuba uphendule ukungaqondani kunye neemvakalelo ezingekho ngokungadingekile. Impendulo engathandabuzeki iya kuphuma ngomsindo kwaye imiba yangempela ayiyi kuvakala okanye iqondiswe.
Nangona kunokuba nzima ukuba uzenze ikhefu kwezi meko, zikho izikhokelo ezisixhenxe zokusingatha iimvakalelo zakho nokuhlangabezana:
- Ukuphefumula: Ekuqaleni kweemvakalelo ezibuhlungu, thabatha ukukhawuleza, ukuphefumula. Gxininisa ukuphefumla kwakho kuphela, uzame ngokukhawuleza ukuba uphucule ezinye iimvakalelo zakho zengqondo kwaye ugxininise ekuphefumuleni kwakho.
- Fumana Umgama: Ukuba kunokwenzeka, hamba kumntu okhubekayo. Unokuthi udinga ukuqhuba i-errand, uthathe uhambo okanye ungene ngaphakathi kwindlu yokugcina imizuzu embalwa. Ukusuka kumntu okhubekayo kunokuncedisa ukunyusa imeko kwaye kukuvumela ukuba ufumane ingqiqo ngaphambi kokuba uphume.
- Khumbulani Imithetho Yakho Yowentsapho Yomlingani: Ugxininise ubudlelwane phakathi komlingane wakho kunye nomntu onokulimaza uya kukunceda ukugcina impendulo yakho. Ngelixa umalume womlingane wakho angakucasula, ukhumbule ukuba nguye oye wanceda lakho iqabane lokuhlawula imoto yakhe yokuqala kunokukunceda ubone ngokubhetele.
- Bhala phantsi: Sebenzisa iphepha lokuzimela ukuze ubhale into eyenzekayo kunye noko uvakalelwa khona. Sebenzisa oku njengendlela yokubonisa intlungu yakho ngaphandle kokuba ucinge iingcamango zakho.
- Ukuchonga Imvakalelo Yakho: Ukusebenzisa oko ubhaleyo, qaphela indlela uvakalelwa ngayo ingxelo okanye ucacise oko uhlangabezana nayo kunye nendlela ufanele uyenze ngayo.
- Xoxa Ngeemvakalelo Zakho Ngomlingani Wakho
Umlingane wakho sizathu sokuba unalo ubudlelwane kunye nomkhwenkwe wakho ukuze uthethe kwaye ukwabelana kunye neqabane lakho ibalulekileyo ekujonganeni neemvakalelo zakho.
- Ukuchonga Injongo Yakho: Ngaphambi kokuba nayiphi na imiba iqwalaselwe, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba yintoni injongo yakho ngaphambi kokuba usabele. Ufuna ukuba umphumo wokuphela ube yintoni? Ukumangalela kumkhwenkwe okhuzisayo unokuziva uyanelisayo ngexesha, kodwa kunokuthetha itholide enkulu emva koko. Ngokugxininisa kwizinto ofuna, ezifana nokutya kweeholide enokuthula, unokusingatha kakuhle indlela ophendula ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha awusabele kakuhle yinto enokuyenza ukuze ufikelele umnqweno wakho.
Ukongeza kokuthetha nomlingane wakho, yinto efanelekileyo ukuxoxa ngokunyanisekileyo oko kwenzekayo kunye nendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo kwiiseshoni eziqhelekileyo kunye nomgqirha wakho.
Umgqirha ogqwesileyo kwi-BPD unokukunceda ekuqaliseni iindlela ezifanelekileyo nezifanelekileyo zokunxibelelana nalabo abakwenza ubuhlungu. Ingcali efanelekileyo ingakunceda ngezakhono ukuxhamla nabantu abenza lula ukuba bazive