Ukujongana Nomsindo Ngendlela Ephilileyo Kubalulekile
Sonke sivakalelwa ngumsindo. Ukulawulwa ngendlela ephilileyo, umsindo ungaba yinto enhle-ifulegi ebomvu into engalunganga, i-catalyst for change, i-self-motivator. Ukuphatha kakubi, umsindo ungabangela iingxaki zempilo kunye nolwalamano. (Jonga eli nqaku malunga nemiphumo emibi yengqumbo .) Kwabaninzi, ingakumbi abo bangenalo imodeli emihle yokulawulwa komsindo xa bekhula, ukujongana nomsindo kunokudideka; Kunzima ukwazi into enokuyenza ngayo imvakalelo enamandla kwaye inokuba yingozi.
Ukuhlolisisa umsindo kunye nokusebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokulawula umsindo kungabangela impembelelo yakho impilo, ubudlelwane kunye nolonwabo. Kulula ukwenza. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso zokulawula umsindo.
Qonda ukuvutha kwakho
Ukujongana nomsindo kulula kakhulu xa uyazi ukuba unomsindo gqitha. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu banokuvakalelwa kukuba banokucatshulwa ngenxa yokuxinezeleka , ukungabikho kokulala, kunye nezinye izinto; ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kukho isizathu esithile somsindo. Ngayiphi na indlela, unokwazi ngakumbi oko kukusa komsindo wakho xa ugcina iphepha lomsindo (irekhodi lezinto ezenza ube nomsindo kulo lonke usuku) kwiiveki ezimbalwa, ngoko uthetha ngomhlobo omhle, okanye ufumane umgqirha ukufumanisa imithombo yengqumbo, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uyagxuma. Emva kokuba uqaphela ngakumbi imithombo yakho yomsindo, ungathatha amanyathelo okujongana nayo.
Zivakalise-Ziqulunqa
Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukubhala ngomsindo nokuzibonakalisa ngokukhawuleza kunokuncedisa ukunciphisa imizwa engathandekiyo kunye nentlungu, ngakumbi ukuba ukubhala kubangela 'ukuthatha intsingiselo,' okanye ukucamngca kwiingxaki zomsindo.
Olu phando, kunye nolunye uphando malunga neenzuzo zokupapashwa , lusekela ukuphumelela kokubhala iimvakalelo zakho nokusebenza ngazo ephepheni. Ingxelo ebhaliweyo yomsindo ikuvumela ukuba wenze into enomsindo wakho kunokuba uvumele ukuba uzive uzibi.
Thatha amanyathelo
Ingqumbo yakho ikuxelela into.
Inxalenye yokuqala yokujongana nomsindo, njengoko kuxoxwa ngayo, iyayihlola kwaye iphulaphule into ekuxelela ngayo ngobomi bakho. Inxalenye elandelayo ibandakanya ukuthatha inyathelo. Ukwazi ukuba kutheni udidekile kunokuhamba ixesha elide, kodwa ukuphelisa umsindo wakho kunye nokulungisa iingxaki ezenza ube nomsindo kubalulekile. Akunakukwazi ukuphelisa yonke into ebomini bakho ebangela ukuba ube nomsindo kunye nokukhungatheka, kodwa ukusika oko unokukwazi ukuhamba kwindlela ende.
Musa Ukugubha
Ukukhanyisa ngomsindo wakho akunakunceda. Uphando lubonisa ukuba, phakathi kwezinye izinto, abo banomdla wokuba baxhamle kwiimeko eziye zenza ukuba bachukuke kwixesha elidlulileyo banomdla wokunyuka kwengcinezelo yegazi ngenxa yoko, kubabeka engozini enkulu yomonakalo komzimba kunye neengxaki zempilo ezihambelana. Ukuzama ukucombulula ingxaki yinto efanelekileyo, kodwa ukunyuka komsindo wakho akunjalo. Ukucamngca ngengqiqo isicwangciso esiqinisekisiweyo sokunciphisa ukuhluthwa. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso ezisebenzayo .
Musa ukuliNgqongqo
Ukuxoxa ngomsindo wakho kuyinto ekhohlisayo. Ukuthetha ngomsindo wakho nomhlobo othembekileyo kunokuba isicwangciso esisebenzayo sokujongana nomsindo-kwinqanaba. Inokukunceda ukuba uqonde ngakumbi iimvakalelo zakho, ucingisise izicwangciso zokusombulula iingxaki, kwaye uqinise ubudlelwane bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho ubungqina bokuthi ukuxubusha ngokuphindaphindiweyo izihloko ezikucaphukisa ngabahlobo bakho kunokwenza ukuba bobabini baziva bebi kakhulu, kwaye bandise i- hormone yoxinzelelo kwigazi lakho. Ukuba ujongene nomsindo ngokuthetha nabahlobo malunga nayo, kukulungele ukuthetha malunga neemeko kuphela, ukuhlola izicombululo kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Inkoliso yethu-ingakumbi abasetyhini-baye bathatha inxaxheba kwiingxoxo eziqhelekileyo kwiiseshini zokukhalazela okanye eziphantsi kweemvakalelo ezintle; Kungcono ukutshintsha isihloko kwisifundo esivuyayo ngaphambi kokufika kude. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ufuna ukuthetha okuninzi malunga nento eyenza ubenomsindo, ingaba yinto efanelekileyo yokumisela iiseshoni ezimbalwa kunye nomgqirha, onokuthi abe neengcamango ezintle ekujonganeni nomsindo.
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