Ukusukela kwincwadi ethi 'Ukutshata Ukuphazamiseka'
Umtshato unokuba nzima, ingakumbi kweli hlabathi elixakekileyo, elidlulileyo. Sokuba i-ADHD ikhona kwintsebenziswano ingenza imingeni ibe yongezwa ngakumbi. Kulula ukuphazamiseka, ukuphazamiseka kunye nokugqithiswa ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye ukhohlwe malunga nezinto ezisisiseko-ukubaluleka kokukhulisa ubudlelwane bakho bomtshato. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokukunceda ukuba ubuyele kwizinto ezisiseko.
Ezi ngcebiso ezingama-20 ngomtshato zichithwa kwincwadi, Ukutshatyalaliswa Kokuphazamiseka ngu-Edward M. Hallowell, MD kunye noSue George Hallowell, i-LICSW kunye noMelissa Orlov. (c) ngo-2010 ngu-Edward M. Hallowell, MD Uphinda uqulunqwe ngumbutho kunye neRandom House Publishing Group.
Iingcebiso ezingama-20 zomtshato wakho xa unayo i-ADHD
1. Khumbula into oyithandayo ngomnye umntu. Yigcine emva kwengqondo yakho ngalawo maxesha xa utyhafile.
2. Cinga nje ngento omnye umntu angayenza ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono, kodwa oko ungakwenza ukwenza izinto zibe ngcono.
3. Ababini baxakeke kakhulu kule mihla. Kufuneka wenze ixesha elikhuselekileyo omnye nomnye, ixesha elilodwa kuphela, kwaye kufuneka wenze oku ubuncinane isiqingatha seyure ngeveki, mhlawumbi ngaphezulu. Iibinibini ezininzi zisebenzisa ixesha elide kunokuzibambisana. Enye indlela ejikeleze oko kukusebenzisa kunye!
4. Inhlonipho. Ukuhlonipha. Ukuhlonipha. Zama rhoqo ukuphatha umlingane wakho ngenhlonipho.
Ukuphinda kuhlaziywa kwakhona kunokuba ngumkhwa kwaye kubonakalise ukuqala kokuphela kobudlelwane.
5. Dlala. Zivumele ukuba nibekele bucala izibilini zenu kwaye nibe sisisulu. Yenza izinto zobuwula ndawonye. Yilwe umkhosi. Dlala ithegi. Khanyelana. Xelela amahlaya. Dlala iiplanki kwenye. Ungalokothi uthathe ngokungathandeki.
Xa nje uhleka, kuya kuba kuhle.
6. Bhiyozela. Uphando lubonisa ukuba kubaluleke ukuba ubekho kwiqabane lakho ukugubha amaxesha amahle kunokuba uxhaswe kumaxesha ambi. Kakade, inkxaso kwixesha elibi lichaphazelekayo, kodwa yinto ebalulekileyo yokuphumelela kwintsebenziswano ukuba unokubhiyozela amaxesha amahle kunye.
7. Hlanganisa phambili kubantwana bakho. Ngaphandle koko, uya kutshatyalaliswa. Oku akulungile kuwe kwaye akukuhle kubantwana.
8. Yithetha into enhle, into oyithandayo malunga neqabane lakho ubuncinane kanye ngosuku.
9. Zivumelekile ukuba uzihlekise ngeengcebiso malunga nomtshato onjengezi zinto kodwa ungadabuki ngokuthatha ingqalelo ngokungathandabuzeki imbono yosuku ngalunye ukwenza oko unako ukwenza ulwalamano lwakho lube bhetele.
10. Nika umlingane imvume yokuba nobomi bakhe ngaphandle komtshato, ngaba ngabahlobo, amaqela, umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa okanye ezinye izinto.
11. Xa ubona ingxabano okanye ulwa nokuqalisa, zama ukuzibamba uze uthi kuwe, Makhe ndizame ukwenza oku ngenye indlela ngelo xesha. Ukuba uhlala uhleka, cwaka. Ukuba uhlala uthula, uthetha. Ukuba uhlala ukhala, musa. Ukuba udla ngokukhawuleza , zama ukuxoxisana okanye ukuphulaphula endaweni yoko. Zama nje ukutshintsha indlela oqhelekileyo yokuphendula.
12. Khokhela iincoma. Awukwazi ukuhlawula amaninzi amancomo. Nokuba bahlekwa okanye bahlaselwe, baya kuyanconywa.
13. Thabatha ingqalelo kwintsapho yemvelaphi yeqabane lakho. Xa utshata, awuyi kutshata kuphela nomlingane wakho, utshata nomtshato wakho. Umtsalane omdala we-mithetho eyoyikisayo ngumonakalo. Yenza abahlobo kunye nomkhwenkwe wakho kwaye uzame ukuzonwabisa nabo. Khumbula, kwakhona, ngaba ootatomkhulu bakho abantwana.
14. Zama ukungasebenzisi imali njengesixhobo samandla. Oku kwakha intukuthelo enkulu phezu kwexesha.
15. Zama ukugcina impilo yobunini obusebenzayo. Ukuba isondo siyakhupha, le nto ingabonisa ukungqubuzana.
Zama ukufikelela entliziyweni yongquzulwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umsebenzi wesondo uya kukhangela.
16. Gwema umzekelo we-Big Fight. Ukuhlaselwa nokukhusela, ukukhusela nokuhlaselwa. Oku kunokuba ngumkhwa, owonakalisayo kwaye owonakalisayo.
17. Yazi malunga neqabane lakho lomntwana ngokwaneleyo ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda iipateni zangoku ngokwezinto ezenzeke zikhulayo. Akukho mntu utshintshile ngaphandle kokuba ngumntwana kuqala. Kwaye umntwana ungumzali okanye umama wendoda okanye umfazi.
18. Jabulela kunye. Yenza oko nangona ufuna ukukwenza, kodwa yenza ixesha lokuzonwabisa. Izandi ezicacileyo, kodwa ezininzi izibini azenzi oku.
19. I-TIO Yicime. Xa uhlangene, cima zakho izixhobo zombane, ubuncinane ngexesha elithile.
20. Khumbula, akukho mtshato uhlala ujabule, ufezekile kwaye uyonwabile. Xa amaxesha anzima, xhoma apho. Fumana ixesha elilodwa , kodwa ungafihli. Udinga omnye nomnye. Kulula ukuba khona ngamaxesha amahle, kodwa kwixesha elibuhlungu, le yilapho ufuna ngokwenene. Yiloo nto xa ulula nje ukwenza oko nantoni ngenxa yomntu otshatileyo kwaye ngenxa yakho. Nceda ungayeki. Kukho rhoqo, soloko unethemba.
Umthombo:
Ukugqitywa kwi-MARRIED TO DISTRACTION ngu-Edward M. Hallowell, MD kunye no-George Hallowell, i-LICSW kunye no-Melissa Orlov. (c) ngo-2010 ngu-Edward M. Hallowell, MD Uphinda uqulunqwe ngumbutho kunye neRandom House Publishing Group.