Ukuba Unenkxalabo malunga Nokusetyenziswa Kwakho, Unokuthi Ube Umlutha
Xa abaninzi abantu bebuzwa malunga nendlela yabo yokusela, baxhathisa ingxaki njengengqiqo. Usenokuthi uphuze ngokukhawuleza njengoko wonke umntu akwenzayo, ukuba unqande ukusela xa usufuna kwaye ukusela kwakho akubi.
Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, ungaqala ukungaqiniseki kunye nombuzo ukuba ukusela kwakho kuphelile. Ukuba kukutshitshise ukuba uphuze kakhulu kwaye ukusika okanye ukuyeka akulula kangangoko ucinga ukuba kuya kuba, unokuzibuza ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani utywala.
Abantu abaninzi, kubandakanywa nabaqeqeshi bezokwelapha, bakholelwa ukuba ukuziyeka kukuphela kwendlela. Kodwa uphando lwezogqirha lubonise ukuba indlela yokubandayo ye-turkey ayinakuba yindlela efanelekileyo kuyo wonke umntu.
UkuLawula Utywala
Izindlela ezahlukeneyo zisebenza ngabantu abahlukeneyo kunye neentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokulutha . Abanye abantu basenokukwazi ukuyeka kwaye bangalokothi banalo utswala lotywala kubo bonke ubomi babo. Kungaba luhlobo apho igrlasi yewayini rhoqo rhoqo ibenokubangela ukuba babuyele ekusela kakhulu. Ukuba uzibona njengolu hlobo lophuza, kubalulekile ukwazi wena kunye nobuthathaka bakho.
Kodwa kwabanye, ukusela ngokumodareyitha kunokusebenza kakuhle ekunqandeni ukuziphatha kakubi kotywala. Uphando lusitshela ukuba ukusela okulawulwayo akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa kuyaqhelekileyo kubantu ababesela kakhulu. Abantu abaninzi banqamle ukungena kotywala ngaphandle kokuncedisa unyango okanye unyango, nangona kucebisekile ukuba uxoxe ngokutya kwakho kotywala kunye nodokotela wakho wosapho ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukutshintsha.
Kungaba yingozi ukuyeka ngaphandle kwenkxaso efanelekileyo yonyango, ngenxa yonyango oyeke ukukrazula okanye engqondweni yakho enokuthi uyenze njengoko utshintshile.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba ukupheka utywala ngokupheleleyo akusikho kuwe, unayo enye indlela. Abanye abantu banokulawula ukusela nokusela iziselo ezinxilisayo ngaphandle kokuyeka ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba uceba ukuzama ukulawula ukusela kwakho, kukho amanyathelo amaninzi omele uwathathe ukukunceda kule nkqubo.
- Thetha noogqirha bakho kwintsapho malunga nokuba indlela yokumodareyitha okanye ukuzithengisa isisiseko sakho.
- Gcina umkhondo wendlela osela ngayo inqaku.
- Bonisa umfanekiso wakho wokuxilongwa kwe-alcohol (Daily B).
- Beka imida yakho yemihla ngemihla kunye neveki kwaye uhlale uphendula.
- Tshintsha indlela osela ngayo; unomnye okanye uphuze uluntu, kungekhona amanani amaninzi.
- Ukuphuhlisa iindlela zokusela ukusebenzela loo nto, njengokuzimela ngokufanelekileyo ngokuzivocavoca nokuzilibazisa.
- Ukuphuhlisa indlela yokuphatha ngokufanelekileyo nokunyanzelisa uxinzelelo, njengokucamngca okanye unyango.
Kukho uninzi kuloluhlu, kwaye unokufumana inzuzo kumcebisi ekusebenzeni kuyo. Ezinye iinkqubo zonyango ziya kwamkela abathengi ngeenjongo zokumodareyitha, ngelixa ezinye ziza kunika unyango kubantu abanenjongo yokuzilahla. Ukuba ukholwa ukumodareyitha yinjongo efanelekileyo kuwe, ufanele ukufumana inkqubo eya kukuxhasa ngendlela yakho entsha yokuphila.Tyelela ugqirha wakho ukuze uhanjiswe kwisicwangciso sonyango esiza kusebenza kuwe.
Umthombo
UMiller, W. & Munoz, R. Ukulawula Ukusela Kwakho: Izixhobo zokwenza iModeration Work For You. Guilford, eNew York. 2005.