Abathathi-mngcipheko bajamelana nobungozi xa besela
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba abafundi beekholeji abaphuza utywala banokungena enkingeni kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bangasela kangakanani, kodwa baninzi ngenxa yokujonga ingozi xa batywala, ezinokuguqulwa ukunciphisa imiphumo emibi.
AbaProfesa kwiYunivesithi yaseKansas State baye bafumanisa ukuba abesilisa bathambekele ekubanjeni ubungozi obukhulu xa beza kutywala, ngelixa abafazi bevame ukusebenzisa izicwangciso ezikhuselekileyo.
Ziyacetyiswa ngamanyathelo alandelayo kubo bonke abafundi beekholeji abaselayo njengendlela yokuphepha iipasiti zokusela eziyingozi :
- Nciphisa inani leziselo ezidliwayo
- Sebenzisa izicwangciso zokuzikhusela
- Nciphise imali esetshenziselwa utshwala
- Phuza kunye nabahlobo
- Thela zakho iziphuzo
- Ukuphuhlisa isimo sengqondo esichengileyo
Ukunciphisa iingxaki
UStephen Benton, uprofesa weengcebiso kunye nengqondo yezemfundo, uRonald Downey, uprofesa wengqondo, noSheryl Benton, uprofesa oncedisayo weengcebiso kunye neengqondo zezemfundo kunye nomsizi oncedisayo weeNkonzo zoKhenketho, wafunda umfundi weekholeji ukusela, izimo zengcinezelo kunye nemiphumo yokusela.
"Inkolelo yam kukuba kufuneka sijamelane nokuba ipesenti ezithile zabafundi beekholeji ziya kusela," kusho uSteve Benton. "Ngoko, sinokuyithini ukunciphisa amathuba okuba bangena enkingeni?"
Isimo sengqondo senza umehluko
"Abafundi abavame ukuba nesimo sengqondo esenza ukuba bathathe umngcipheko omkhulu banokungena enkingeni xa bephuza," kusho uBenton.
"Nangona ukulawula utywala, akuyonto enokuyiphuzayo echaphazela ubuninzi beengxaki, kodwa unobungozi kangakanani."
UBenton uthe kwi-news release ethi "ukuba umntu akanandaba noko abanye bacinga kwaye abakhathazeki ngemithetho, banokungena enkingeni." Abantu abanesimo sengqondo esiphantsi baya kuba neengxaki ezincinane. "U
Amadoda atywala ngakumbi
"Siyazi ukuba abesilisa bathambekele ekubeni ngabaphuza kakhulu kunabesifazane," kusho uBenton. "Xa uphuze kakhulu, ufumana ingxaki enkulu. Sifumene ukuba izicwangciso zokukhusela zinceda kakhulu kubafundi besilisa, kuba baphuza ngaphezu kwamabhinqa, kunye nabafundi abanesiphuzo ezintandathu okanye ngaphezulu."
"Abafundi abasela kakhulu kakhulu banako ukufumana ingozi ekuphuzeni kwabo xa benesimo sengqondo esiphezulu." Xa beya kwimibutho, kufuneka baqonde indlela abaziphatha ngayo kunye nokusela kwabo, "watsho. UBenton uncoma ukuba "ukuhamba phambili" ukusela emva kweeyure eziliqela.
Amaqhinga okuzikhusela
"Nangona abafundi abanesiphuzo ezingaphezulu kweesithandathu abavumi ukuba bafumane ingozi xa bezama ukuzikhusela," kusho uBenton.
Iqela le-Kansas State liya kuphanda ngokulandelayo iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokunxibelelana ngemiba yokuphuza kubafundi. "Ukuba uqala ukuthetha nomntu ngokuziphatha okubi, kufuneka uqonde apho bavela khona," kusho u-Downey. "Abanye abantu bathetha ngengozi, kodwa abanye abayithandi."
> Umthombo :
> Iindaba zeKansas State News Release 2006 umhlangano wonyaka we-American Psychological Association