Ngokuqhelekileyo xa abantu bejamelene neemeko ezinzima okanye ezixinzelelekileyo, basala bazibuza indlela yokujongana nabo. Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo ezintle ezi meko zinokuziva zikhulu, kwaye izisombululo zibonakala zingenakwenzeka. Nangona kunjalo, iimeko ezinzima esibhekana nazo ebomini zidla ngokusinika ithuba elikhulu lokukhula komntu. Nangona umbuzo wendlela yokujongana nemingeni esimele sijongane nayo ayinayo impendulo elula okanye elula, ejongene ngokunyanisekileyo kwiimeko zethu, ukufumana iimvakalelo abazikhulayo, nokuziphangela ngaphakathi kwethu iimpendulo kunokubangela ukuba iziphumo.
Iingcebiso ezilandelayo malunga nendlela yokujongana neemeko ezahlukeneyo zinokukunceda ukuba ube ngumkhokelo. Imeko nganye iyahluka kwaye ingafuna impendulo eyahlukileyo, kodwa ezinye zezinto ezisiseko zokujongana noxinzelelo okanye iingxaki zingasebenza kwiimeko ezininzi. Nazi ezinye iimbono malunga nendlela yokujongana nayo xa ujongene nomngeni ebomini.
1 - Hlale Ucocekile
Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo ekujonganeni neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo kubandakanya ukuthoba umzimba wakho ukuphendula . Sebenzisa iindlela zokuncedisa uxinzelelo ekuncedeni ukuguqula indlela yokulwa okanye yendiza eyenziwa ngumzimba wakho xa uxinezelekile. Ukuba unobungozi obungokoqobo, le mpendulo yokuxininisa ingakunceda uhlale uphephile; ukuba isongelo ojamelana nayo sisengqondweni, okanye ayikwazi ukulwa emzimbeni, impendulo yokunyamezela ingapheliyo ingakushiya ivalelwe kwaye yenzeke ngokunyanisekileyo, kungabonakali ngakumbi ukugula .
2 - Ziva iimvakalelo zakho
Imizwa engathandekiyo njengokukhathazeka, ubunyulu , nomsindo akuyiyo into enomdla, kodwa iyanceda xa isinika ulwazi malunga neemeko esikuyo, kwaye isishukumisele ukuba sithathe isenzo ebomini bethu. Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo ezinokuba zinamandla kangangokuba ziziva zikhulu, okanye zingathandekiyo, ezingaqinisekanga ngendlela yokujongana nazo, siphendukela ekuziphatheni okungekho mzimba ukuphepha ukuziva. Kodwa ukuba unako ukuhlala nabo, uzive ngokwenene, kwaye uze uqaphele apho emzimbeni wakho babonisa khona (ukuqina kwisifuba sakho, ukunyamezela entanyeni yakho, intloko), banokuba lula ukuyeka. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuchonga oko uvakalelwayo, kwaye uqaphele ukuba kutheni uvakalelwa ngale ndlela (zeziphi izinto zokukhawulela?). Oku kunokukunceda ukwazi ukuba yiphi indawo ebomini bakho efuna iintshukumo, ngoko unokufumana umfanekiso ocacileyo wezinto ezifuna ukutshintsha.
Njengoko uziva uxinzelelo emzimbeni wakho, funda ukuphumla kunye nokuphumla kwemisipha .
3 - Yenza imivo yakho
Kubantu abaninzi, kunceda kakhulu ukufumana iimvakalelo phantsi kwephepha. Kuba abo bacinga indlela yokujongana neemvakalelo ezixinzelelekileyo, ukuchukumisa iimvakalelo zakho kwiphephancwadi ngokubhala malunga noko uvakalelwa ngayo kwaye kutheni, kwaye emva koko ucinga izixazululo kuye kwaboniswa ukuba zininzi zeempilweni zezempilo ezilungileyo. Oku mhlawumbi kuba inkqubo yokupapashwa ngale ndlela ikunceda ukuvumela ukuhamba kweemvakalelo eziphazamisayo, kunokuziva uxhotyiswe, kwaye kunokusinceda siqonde indlela yokujongana noxinzelelo ngakumbi ngokufanelekileyo. Akukhona ngokugungqa kwiimvakalelo ezimbi; ngoku malunga nokukwazi ukubona ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo zakho kunye nalapho zivela khona, kunye nokujongana nengxaki nezinye izixazululo ezifanelekileyo.
Ekusebenzeni ngendlela yokujongana nemingeni, xa uzinzile umzimba wakho kwaye uhambela iimvakalelo zakho, ukucwangcisa konke ephepheni kunokukunceda. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko uhlaziya iimvakalelo zakho, unokuba ungathembekanga ngezinto; Imbono yakho yobomi ingaba yimbi ngaphezu kokuqhelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele iingcamango ezingenangqondo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kunye nokusebenza ekuboneni izinto ngokukhanya okungakumbi ngaphambi kokuza nezixazululo.
4 - Yenza iinguqu ezintle
Ngoku ngoku uzinzile, uyazi ukuba uziva njani kwaye kutheni, cwangcisa malunga naluphi utshintsho oya kukwenza, kwaye ulandele njengoko amathuba okuba khona. Ekugqibeleni, iimvakalelo ezinamandla ezinokujamelana nezimo ezixinzeleleyo zingashukumisela ukuba sithathe inyathelo kwaye sifunde indlela yokujongana nemingeni esijamelana nayo. Emva kokuba uhlalutye le meko kunye nemvakalelo yakho kuyo, thabatha amanyathelo alumkileyo ekutshintsheni okulungileyo. Nokuba utshintsho oluncinci lunokubangela iziphumo ezibalulekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba ugxininisekile ngokufuna umsebenzi omtsha, ukuchitha imizuzu engama-30 yokunxibelelanisa okanye ukukhangela kunokukunceda uzive unamandla kunokuba uchithe imizuzu engama-30 ukukhubazeka, ukwesaba, okanye iingcamango ezidandathekileyo. Ukuhamba ngendlela elungileyo, nangona ngokukhawuleza, kunokuncedisa ukunciphisa ezinye zezinto ozivakalelwa ngayo kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo.
Emva kokuba uthathe amanyathelo onokuyithatha, okanye ukuba akukho nto ongayenza ngokukhawuleza, yenza umsebenzi oza kuthatha ingqondo yakho kwizinto ezikuhla. Ujongene nale ngxaki kangangoko unakho ngoku, kunye nexesha lokuqhubela phambili ; ungabanjwa kwisicupho sokurhoxiswa . Hamba uhamba nomhlobo, bukela i-movie ehlekisayo, wenze into enhle kumnye umntu, phaka inja yakho; ingacingi ingqondo yakho kwimeko.
5 - Fumana inkxaso xa ufuna
Kukho uncedo oluninzi lwezempilo kunye noxinzelelo lokuba nesondlo sohlobo lwabahlobo , ngoko kusetyenziswa uxhasano loluntu lunokusebenza njengenxalenye yesicwangciso sakho malunga nendlela yokujongana nobomi. Ukuba nobuhlobo obuncedo obubandakanya ukuphulaphula kakuhle kuphela kodwa ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo kunye neengcebiso ezilungileyo kubalulekile. Ufuna ukukhulisa ubudlelwane obubonelela ngenkxaso xa ufuna ukuba uzive 'wodwa,' isiluleko esilumkileyo xa udibanisa kwinto oyenzayo, uluvo oluthembekileyo lokukunceda ubone into enokuba nzima ukuyibona, kwaye umntu ukukunceda uzonwabe kwaye ugcine ingqondo yakho ngaphandle koxinzelelo lwakho xa usebenze ngendlela yokujongana nabo. Kwakhona, ukuba uzame ezi ziphakamiso kwaye uzakufumana ufuna ukuxhaswa, kusenokuba ingcamango enhle ukubona uchwepheshe. (Yiloo nto ayenayo!)