Uninzi lwabazali abanakuze bawutyeshe i-bone ephukile yomntwana okanye iimpawu ezibonakalayo zokulimala emzimbeni. Nangona kunjalo, xa kuziwa kugula kwengqondo yengane, iimpawu zisoloko zingaphathwa kakubi kwiinyanga okanye kwimizuzu.
Abanye abazali abaqapheli iimpawu zokulumkisa zesifo sengqondo. Abanye bakhathazeke ngokuthi umntwana wabo uya kubhala 'njengabafana' xa befuna uncedo.
Kodwa ukungenelela kwangaphambili kwaye unyango olufanelekileyo luyintloko ekuncedeni umntwana wakho ukuba azive engcono.
Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo sengqondo, funa uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Ingozi yokungafumani uncedo
Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali banzima ukukhumbula ukuba umntwana wabo osemtsha unokugula. Kodwa ukuyihoxisa ingxaki akunakwenzeka ukuba ihambe. Enyanisweni, ngaphandle kokonyango, impilo yengqondo yakho yengqondo ingase ibe yingozi.
Ngaphandle kokonyango olufanelekileyo, wakho umntwana uya kuhendeka ukuba azame ukunyanga. Unokufikelela kwiziyobisi, utywala, ukutya, okanye enye imikhwa engafanelekanga okwexeshana intlungu. Ekugqibeleni, ukuzonyango kuphela kwongeza iingxaki ebomini bakho.
Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo zinganakwandisa umngcipheko wakho wokuzibulala. Uninzi ulutsha oluzibulala ngokwawo luyi-disorder disorder, njengengxaki yoxinzelelo okanye i-bipolar mood disorder.
Ukuzibulala yimbangela yesibini yokubangela ukufa kwabantu abaphakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 no-24. Ininzi yabaselula abazibulalayo banikeza uhlobo oluthile lokumkisa ukuba baziva bengenakuxhaswa kwaye bengenathemba kuqala.
Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza intetho malunga nokufuna ukuzilimaza okanye ukuzibulala, yithathe ngokubalulekileyo. Ungacingi ukuba uthetha nje ukuba ezo zinto 'ziqwalasele,' okanye 'ngenxa yokuba uhlanya.' Cinga ngolu hlobo uluvo olusisilumkiso sokuba umntwana wakho unzima.
Izizathu Zentsha Inokuphuhlisa Imiba Yengqondo Yengqondo
Ubuntwaba lixesha eliqhelekileyo lemiba yempilo yengqondo ivela.
Abaphandi bacinga ukuba oku kubangelwe kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Utshintsho lwama-hormonal kunye nophuhliso lwengqondo ngexesha lobudala lunokubeka abantwana abasengozini enkulu yeengxaki zempilo yengqondo.
Abanye abaphandi baye bachaza le ngxaki ngokuthi, "iindawo ezihambayo ziyaqhekeka." Xa zonke iinxalenye zesimo se-neural zingaphuhlisi kwizinga elichanekileyo, umntwana osemva unokufumana utshintsho ekucingeni, ekuziphatheni, nasekuziphatheni.
Kukho udibaniso lwezofuzo kwiinkalo zempilo yengqondo. Ukuba omnye okanye bobabini abazali be-biological abanengxaki yengqondo yengqondo, umntwana osemva uyakuba yingozi enkulu yokwakha enye.
Imiba engqongileyo ingaba yinto ebangela impilo yengqondo yengane. Iziganeko ezibuhlungu, njengamava okufa okanye kufuphi nembali yokusetyenziswa kakubi, inokunyusa ingozi yomntwana wakho.
Ukuxinezeleka kunokuba yinto. Ukuba umntwana wakho okhutshiswayo esikolweni okanye xa ebeka uxinzelelo oluninzi kuye ukuba enze kakuhle kwimfundo, unokuthi abe neengxaki zokugula ngengqondo.
Ukuxhaphaka Kwengqondo Yengqondo Kwabantwana nakwishumi
I-National Institute of Health mentals iqikelela ukuba malunga ne-1 kwabantwana aba-5 banayo okanye baya kuba neengxaki zempilo yengqondo ngexesha elithile ebomini babo.
Iintlupheko zempilo eziqhelekileyo ezifunyenwe kulutsha zi:
- ADHD
- Izifo zoMoya
- Ukuxinezeleka okukhulu
- Ukuziphatha ngxaki
- Dysthymia
- Ukukhathazeka ngokuxhalabisa
- Ukuphazamiseka Kwentlungu
- Iingxaki zokutya
Iintsholongwane nazo zingahlakulela izifo zengqondo, njenge-schizophrenia, okanye izifo zokusebenzisa izidakamizwa, njengokusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala okanye ukuxhomekeka kwe-opioid.
Khangela imiqondiso yeZibheno zokugula ngengqondo
Ukuhlukanisa ukugula kwengqondo ukusuka kutshintsho lwe-hormones, izigaba ezithandayo, kunye neziganeko eziqhelekileyo zokuba nomoya kuba ngumngeni. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqwalasela isimo sengqondo somntwana wakho kunye nokuziphatha kwayo kwaye ukuba uqaphela utshintsho oluphazamisana nobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, mhlawumbi aluqhelekanga.
Ukugula ngengqondo kubonisa ngokuhlukileyo kubantu abahlukeneyo.
Ezinye izibonakaliso zengxaki zempilo yengqondo zibandakanya (kodwa azikhawulelwanga):
- Utshintsho kwimikhwa yokulala - Ingane yakho ingabhala isikhalazo okanye ingase iqale ukuthatha i-naps emva kwesikolo. Ukufuna ukulala embhedeni yonke imini okanye ukuhlala ubusuku bonke kunokuba nemiqondiso yengxaki.
- Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimisebenzi eqhelekileyo - Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhupha imisebenzi yakhe eyintandokazi, okanye ubonisa ukungabi nentswelo yokuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo, unokufumana ingxaki.
- Inguqu enkulu ekusebenzeni kwezemfundo - Iingxaki zempilo yengqondo zisoloko zikhokelela ekutshintshisweni okukhulu kwiinjongo zokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo. Ukuba umntwana wakho uye walahlekelwa ngumdla ekwenzeni umsebenzi wesikolo, okanye ngokukhawuleza ubonakala engathandeki esikolweni, kungabonakalisa ingxaki.
- Ukunyuka kwesisindo okanye isondlo - Ukutya ukutya, ukutya ukutya, kunye nokutshintsha ngokukhawuleza kwisisindo kunokuba ngumqondiso wesifo sokutya. Uxinzelelo luhlala lubonakala ngokuguqulwa kwesisindo.
- Ukunyameka okukhulu - Ukuvutha ngokweqile, ukulila okungalindelekanga, kunye namazinga aphezulu okucaphuka kungabonakalisa ukugula kwengqondo.
- Ukuzihlalisa ngokwengeziwe - Umnqweno onamandla wokuba wedwa okanye ukufihla ngokugqithiseleyo unokuba ngumqondiso weengxaki.
Hlalani Ukhulile Ukuba Ubona Izimpawu Zesixwayiso
Imiba yempilo yengqondo isoloko iyaphiliswa. Kwaye ingxaki ayithethi ukuba umntwana wakho 'uyisidenge.' Kunoko, kuthetha ukuba umntwana wakho ufuna unyango.
Ngokufana nendlela abanye abatsha abanokufumana ngayo iingxaki zempilo, njenge-asthma okanye i-acne, abanye bahlakulela iingxaki zempilo yengqondo, njengengxaki yokunyanzeliswa kwengqondo okanye i-bipolar disorder.
Hlalani nizolile, kodwa nithathe isenzo. Kunokuba uchithe iinyanga uxhalabele ngengxaki enokuyenza, zibophelele ekufumaneni ukuba umntwana wakho unokufumana inzuzo kwonyango.
Xoxa Ngomntwana Wakho Ngeengxaki Zakho
Ukuzisa iingxakini malunga nempilo yengqondo yakho kwentsha kunokuziva ukhululekile ekuqaleni. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuthetha nomntwana wakho ngeeflegi ezibomvu ozibonayo.
Khangela ukujonga kwakho kwaye umeme umnikelo wakho wengane. Qaphela ukuba ungasondeli wakho umntwana ukuba 'uyaphambuka' okanye ukuba uyisiphoso sakhe. Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuthi:
- "Ndiyabona ukuba usichitha ixesha elingakumbi kwigumbi lakho kwaye awuyi kuphuma kunye nabahlobo bakho. Ndixhalabele ngaloo nto. "
- "Ndiqaphele ukuba awukwenzi umsebenzi omkhulu wesikolo emva nje. Ndiyazibuza ukuba awuzange ube nomoya wokujongana nesikolo. "
- "Ulala kakhulu kunokoqobo. Ndiyabuza ukuba kukho nto inokukukhathaza okanye ukuba ungeva ngathi uqobo. "
Ungamangaliswa ukuba umntwana wakho ufune ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo okanye uyacaphuka ngempendulo yakho. Abaninzi abaselula banamahloni, bahlazekile, besaba, okanye badideke ngeempawu abazifumanayo.
Ingenzeka ukuba umntwana wakho azive ekhululekile xa uphakamisa isihloko. Ngamanye amaxesha, abantwana bayayazi ukuba banzima, kodwa abaqinisekanga ukuba nabani na oko bafumanayo.
Nceda Umntwana Wakho Uchonge Abantu Abathembekileyo Ukuthetha
Kubalulekile ukuba intsha ibe nabantu abadala abakhulileyo abanokuthetha nabo malunga nemiba eqhubekayo ebomini bayo-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, abavumelanga ukwabelana ngezinto kunye nabazali babo. Ngoko qiniseka ukuba wakho umntwana usebantwini abanokuthetha naye ebomini bakhe.
Mncede ambone ubuncinane abantu abathathu abathembekileyo abanokukwazi ukuthetha ngazo nayiphi na ingxaki, ukukhathazeka okanye imiba enayo.
Buza, "Ukuba unengxaki kwaye awukwazi ukuthetha nam, ngaba ungathini na?" Nangona abantwana abaninzi bevuyiswa ukuthetha nabahlobo babo, oontanga bakho bangabikho ubulumko bokujongana neengxaki ezinzulu. Ngoko kulunge ukuba umntwana wakho okhulile anabantu abadala kakhulu.
Abahlobo beentsapho, izihlobo, abaqeqeshi, ootitshala, abacebisi abacebisi kunye nabazali bomhlobo bangaba phakathi kwabantu abakwazi ukuthetha nabo. Mqinisekise ukuba kulungile ukuzisa iingxaki ngabo bantu ovumelana nabo.
Kungaba yithuba elaneleyo lokubuza, "Ngaba ucinga ukuba ingaba yinto efanelekileyo ukuba ube neengcali zokuthetha?" Ngamanye amaxesha abantombazana abakhululekile ukucela ukuba babone ugqirha, kodwa abanye babo bayamkela le ngcamango ukuba ubonisa oko kuqala.
Yenza Umntwana Wakho Uhlolwe
Ukuba ukugula kwengqondo yakho kwentsha kukufuphi kwinqanaba leengxaki, yiya kwigumbi lakho lezongxamisekileyo. Izisongelo zokuzibulala, ukuzilimaza ngokukrakra, okanye ukucoca izinto zizathu ezimbalwa zokuba umntwana wakho ahlolwe ngokukhawuleza.
Ukukhathazeka kwempilo yengqondo engekho ingxaki esheshayo, cwangcisa utyunjwa ogqirha wakho kumntwana.
Thetha kwintsapho yakho malunga nokuqeshwa ngendlela efanayo ukuba uxoxe ngokuqeshwa kwindlebe okanye i-check-up rhoqo. Yithi, "Ndiyilungiselele ukuqeshwa kukagqirha kuwe ngoLwesine. Ndiyazi ukuba awukhathazeki malunga nokuba unxinekile kangakanani, kodwa ndifuna ukukhangela ngugqirha ukuze uqiniseke. "
Cacisa ukukhathazeka kwakho ugqirha uze unike umntwana wakho ithuba lokuthetha nodokotela wodwa. Ingane yakho inokuthetha ngakumbi ngokucacileyo xa ungekho.
Ukuphonononga kungenza ingqondo yakho ibe lula kwaye iqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho usempilweni. Okanye, ugqirha unokukucebisa ukuba ufuna unyango olongezelelweyo kwizengcali zempilo yengqondo.
Unqumle iindlela zakho zokonyango
Ukuba ugqirha ugunyazisa ukuhlolwa okuqhubekayo, wakho umntwana uya kubhekiselwa kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo. Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo, njengengcali yeengqondo okanye umntu osebenza kwintlalo yoluntu, unokudliwano-ntanethi wena kunye nentsha yakho ukuqokelela ulwazi oluninzi.
Abanye abaneengcali zempilo yengqondo banikela ngemibuzo ebhaliweyo okanye ezinye izixhobo zokuhlola. Umqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe wezempilo yengqondo uya kuqokelela ulwazi oluvela kumgqirha wakho osetsheni.
Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokukunika isifo esifanelekileyo (ukuba siyasebenza) kwaye siya kukunika iinketho zokonyango, ezifana nokuthetha unyango okanye amayeza.
Funa iNkxaso Yakho
Impilo yengqondo yengane ichaphazela intsapho yonke, ngoko kubalulekile ukufuna inkxaso ngokwakho.
Ukuthetha nabanye abazali kunokubaluleka ukuhlala ngomelele ngengqondo. Abanye abazali bafumana induduzo ekufumaneni inkxaso yemoya evela kubazali abaziqondayo, kwaye abanye bakubona kuncedo ukufunda ngezixhobo zoluntu kunye nemfundo yokukhetha.
Khangela iqela loxhaso lendawo okanye uthethe ugqirha wakho weveki ukuba ufunde ngeenkqubo ezikuloo ndawo. Unokufumana nokuba luncedo ukuphanda ama-forum okanye amaqela angakunikeza uncedo.
Unokuphinda uqwalasele ukudibana nomgudu wedwa. Ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokukwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuba ulawula kakuhle uxinzelelo lwakho ukuze ukwazi ukuxhotyiswa kakuhle kunceda umntwana wakho.
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