Ukuba ngaba unqatshelwe ukunyuswa eofisini okanye awuphumelelanga ukufumana i-marathon, ukusilela kukubi. Abantu abaninzi baya kuhamba ubude obukhulu ukuze baphephe ukungaphumeleli ngoko akudingeki bazive bazive baziva.
Ukwazi indlela yokujamelana nokuhluleka kwindlela enempilo kuthatha uloyiko ngenxa yokungaphumeleli-kwaye kunokunciphisa intlungu ukuze ukwazi ukubuyisela phambili kangcono kunaphambili. Nazi iindlela ezili-10 eziphilileyo zokuhlangabezana nokuhluleka.
I-1 - Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho
Ukungaphumeleli kuhambelana neentlobo zeemvakalelo; Iintloni, uxhalaba, umsindo, ukudabuka, kunye neentloni ukubiza ngambalwa. Le mivakalelo ayinakulinganiswa kwaye abantu abaninzi baya kwenza nantoni na ukuba bakwazi ukubalekela ukuziva bexhalabile.
Ucwaningo olwenziwa ngo-2017 olupapashwe kwiNgxelo yeZenzo zokwenza izigqibo uthi akufanele uzame ukuyeka ukuva kakubi emva kokungaphumeleli. Abaphengululi bafumanisa ukuba ukucinga ngeemvakalelo zakho-kunokusilela ngokwalo-kunceda kakhulu.
Ukuvumela ukuba uzive kakubi kukukhuthaza. Ingakunceda usebenze nzima ukufumana izicombululo ezingcono ukuze uphucule ixesha elizayo.
Ngoko qhubeka uwamkela iimvakalelo zakho. Yazisa indlela ovakalelwa ngayo kwaye uzivumele uzive ungendawo . Bhala iimvakalelo zakho uze uzivumele ukuba uzivelele.
2 - Yazi iinzame ezimbi zokunciphisa ubuhlungu
Ungalingeka ukuba uthi, "Andizange ndifune loo msebenzi nangoko," kodwa ukunciphisa intlungu yakho akuyi kuyenza. Ukuphazamisa okanye ukuzalisa ukungabikho kokutya okanye utywala akuyi kuphulukisa intlungu yakho. Ezi zinto ziza kukunika kuphela uncedo lwesikhashana.
Qaphela iindlela ezingenampilo uzama ukuphepha okanye ukunciphisa intlungu ebomini bakho. Ukuguqula izakhono zokujamelana nokuzilimaza ngaphezu kokulungileyo kuya kwenza imeko yakho ibe nzima.
3 - Jonga iZakhono zoLwaphulo oluPheleleyo
Ukubizela umhlobo, ukuqhuba ukuphefumla, ukuthabatha ibhola, ukuhamba, okanye ukudlala kunye nesilwanyana sakho nje imimiselo embalwa yokwenza izinto eziphilileyo. Akukho buchule bokusebenzisana obusebenzayo wonke umntu, nangona kunjalo kubalulekile ukufumana izakhono zokujamelana nazo eziza kukusebenzela.
Ukuba unzima nemikhwa emibi xa uxinzelelekileyo-njengokutya ukutshaya okanye ukutya ukutya okungenamsoco-yenza uluhlu lwezakhono zokuphilisana kakuhle kwaye ulixhome kwindawo evelele. Emva koko, sebenzisa uluhlu lwakho ukukhumbuza izicwangciso ezinempilo onokuziphendulela xa uziva ungalunganga.
4 - Yazi iinkolelo ezingenangqiqo malunga nokusilela
Usenokuba neenkolelo ezingenangqiqo malunga nokuhluleka kwimeko ethile ebomini bakho. Mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba ukungaphumeleli kuthetha ukuba ungendawo okanye awuyi kuphinda uphumelele. Okanye mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba akukho mntu unokuthanda ukuba uyaphula.
Ezi ntlobo zeenkolelo azichanekanga. Kwaye banokukunqanda ukwenza izinto apho unokuthi ungaphumeleli.
5 - Phuhliso lweengcamango ezibonakalayo malunga nokungafezeki
Uphando lwe-2010 olupapashwe kwi- Appetite lufumene ukuba abantu banokukwazi ukuzihlambalaza xa beqinisekile ukuba impazamo yenza ukuba bahluleke ngokupheleleyo.
Kwesinye isilingo, i-dieters eyayidla i-pizza yaxelelwa ukuba yayidla ngokutya. Abo babecinga ukuba bafezekanga ngokukhawuleza badla iikhoksi ezingaphezulu kwama-50 ngaphezu kwabantu ababengadliyo.
Xa ufumana ucinga ukuba awukho ithemba okanye ukuba akukho nto yokuzama ukuzama kwakhona, hlaziya kwakhona iingcamango zakho. Khumbuza ngokwakho iingcamango eziphathekayo malunga nokuhluleka okunjengoku:
- Ndiyakwazi ukusingatha ukuhluleka.
- Ndiyakwazi ukufunda kwiimpazamo zam.
- Ukungaphumeleli kukubonakalisa ukuba ndinzima ukuba ndiyenze into enzima
Ungadinga ukuphinda ibinzana okanye ukuqinisekiswa kuwe ukugwema iingcamango ezingalunganga okanye ukuzinzela ukuba unokubuyisela emuva.
6 - Yamkela iNqanaba elifanelekileyo loxanduva
Kubalulekile ukwamkela izinga elichanekileyo lokuxanduva lakho lokungaphumeleli. Ukuthatha uxanduva oluninzi kunokubangela ukuba ungazigwebi ngokungafanelekile. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukugxeka abanye abantu okanye iimeko ezibi ngenxa yokungaphumeleli kwakho kukukhusela ukuba ufunde kuyo.
Xa ucinga malunga nokwehluleka kwakho, khangela iinkcazo, kungekhona izizathu. Ukuchonga izizathu ezingaphumelekanga kwaye uvume ukuba ungenza ntoni ngokuthe ngqo ngexesha elizayo.
7 - Uphando oluPhezulu oluPhezulu
Ukusuka kuTomas Edison ukuya kuWalt Disney, akukho nqongophala yeempazamo ezidumile. Zichitha ixesha elithile uphando ngabantu abadumileyo abahlulekile. Uyakufumanisa ukuba behlulekile amaxesha amaninzi endleleni.
Abantu abaninzi abaphumelelayo bayaqhubeka behluleka rhoqo. Abaqhubi bafunyanwa ngenxaxheba kwiindima, abagijimi banqunyulwa kwiqela, kwaye abanikazi bamashishini baphambuke kwiingxoxo.
Fundisisa oko bakwenzayo ukubuyisela emva kokungaphumeleli. Ungafunda izakhono ezinokukunceda ebomini bakho.
8 - Zibuze Yintoni Ongayifunda
Ukungaphumeleli kungaba ngumfundisi omkhulu ukuba uvulekile ukufunda. Ngaba wenze iphutha? Ngaba wenze ukhetho olupheleleyo lweephutha?
Cinga ngezinto onokuzenza ngokukodwa ngexesha elizayo. Emva koko, uya kuqinisekisa ukuba ukuhluleka kwakho kuba yisifundo somntu esikuncede ukuba ufunde into ethile.
9 - Yenza isiCwangciso sokuHamba phambili
Ukubuyisela ukusilela kwakho engqondweni yakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo akuyi kukukwenza. Ungazivumeli ukuba ukhanyise kuzo zonke izinto ezingahambi kakuhle. Ukuhlala kwiingxaki zakho okanye ukuvuselela iimpazamo zakho kuya kukugcina unamathela.
Endaweni yoko, cinga ngezinto oza kwenza ngazo ngokuthe ngqo ngexesha elizayo. Yenza isicwangciso esiza kukunceda ubeke ulwazi olufumene ngokungafezeki.
10 - Jongani Ukwesaba Ukwenqaba
Ukuba uye wachitha ubuninzi bomi bomi ukuphepha ukungaphumeleli, kunokuvakalelwa kunene xa kwenzeka. Ukujongana noyiko lwakho , nangona kunjalo, lunokuba ngumphambili wokunciphisa ukungahambi.
Ziqhelise ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Yenza izinto ezinokuthi uzilahle okanye uzame izinto ezintsha apho ungaphumeleli khona. Ngexesha elide, uya kufunda ukuba ukuhluleka akubi kangangoko ungacinga.
ILizwi
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukungaphumeleli kuya kunciphisa. Ukuba unzima ukusebenza emva kokuba uhlulekile kwinto ethile, cinga ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe.
Enoba ufumene umtshato ongaphumelekanga okanye usuke uhlulekile kwishishini, ukuthetha nomqeqeshi wezempilo yengqondo kunokukunceda ekuhlaseleni.
> Imithombo
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