1 - Iingcamango zingamazwi nje nje
Akukho ukulungiswa, akukho zizathu ezilula
Nangona kungekho sigwebo sokukopela, xa iqabane lakho elingathembeki likunika isisulu sokukopela, yindlela nje yokuzikhethela ukuziphatha kwaye uzive ukhululekile ngesigqibo sokukhohlisa.
Kutheni umlingani wakho ekhohlisa kuwe into ongeke ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo. Akukho zimpendulo ezilula okanye izizathu. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezinikwa ngabaculi.
Awuyi kuBala
Ukuba lakho iqabane likhohlisa kuwe, qaphela ukuba awunaso ityala, awuyiyo umfundi engqondweni, kwaye nangona bobabili babenomtshato ofanayo, iqabane lakho lenze isigqibo sokukhohlisa.
Abantu abangathembekanga bazingca. Kulula kubo ukukopela nokushiya kunokusebenza kumtshato wabo.
Musa ukugubha ngaphezu kwezizathu
Musa ukuxhalaba ngenxa yezizathu ongazivelayo kwiqabane lakho elingathembekanga. Ngamazwi nje kunye nezizathu ezifanelekileyo zokuziphatha kwakho okwenzakalisayo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba izizathu ezinikiweyo zokungathembekanga, umgca wukuthi iqabane lakho lenze ukhetho olungalunganga kwaye lukhohlisiwe.
I-Affair Ayithethi Ukuphela Komtshato
Ukungathembeki akuthethi ukuba umtshato wakho uya kulahlwa. Kuthetha ukuba umtshato wakho ufuna uncedo. Ingaba umtshato wakho ungasinda ekungathembeki kuxhomekeke ekubeni okanye ngaba nababini nikulungele ukufuna iingcebiso kunye nokuqhubela phambili.
2 - "Umtshato Wethu wawuseNtshonalanga" Uhlobo lokuKhohlisa
Nazi ezinye "umtshato wethu sele usuphelile" uhlobo lwesibambiso.
- Umtshato wethu wawudlulile ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ndikohlise.
- Asinjengathi sasifanele sibe.
- Andikuthandi kwakhona.
- Andizange ndikuthande.
- Asizange sikulungele omnye nomnye.
- Ndiziva ndibanjwe.
- Andizange ndifune ukutshata.
- Andifuni ukuhlala njengaye.
- Ndiyakuthanda udade / umzalwana.
- Ndandifuna ukugubha umtshato wethu kwaye ndenze ngcono.
- Ufanelwe ngcono.
- Ndicinga ukuba andithandanga.
- Undishiyile ngaphambi kokuba ndishiye.
- Umtshato wethu wawuthathaka.
3 - "Yona Yonke Inombolo Yokwehluleka" yokukhohlisa
Nazi ezinye ze "zonke iziphoso zakho" uhlobo lokukhohlisa uxolo:
- Ndikuxelele iminyaka ukuba kutheni ndingonwabanga, kodwa awuzange wenze nantoni na.
- Usebenza kakhulu.
- Ndicinga ukuba uya kutshintsha.
- Awundiphulaphuli.
- Awunelungelo lokulala.
- Awunamkeli.
- Ndikhathele ukuba ndiyenze yonke into apha.
- Awudingi mna.
- Unxibe kakhulu ubunzima.
- Undinyanzela kakhulu ngesondo ngoko bekungekho mnandi nawe.
- Awuzange ube khona mna xa ndifuna.
4 - "Yona Yonke Inkohlakalo Yami" Uhlobo lokukhohlisa
Nazi ezinye ze "zonke iziphoso zam" zokohliso.
- Akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo.
- Akunjalo wena, mna.
- Ndiyonwabile.
- Ndifuna indawo ethile.
- Andizi ngokwenene into endiyifuna ukuyenza ngobomi bam.
- Andizange ndikhohlise ngaphambili kodwa into evele ivele.
- Ndifuna ukuma ezinyaweni zam.
- Abanye abafana bandibambelela kwaye andifuni ukubonakala ngathi i-sissy.
- Ndinemiba.
- Andiyintoni isizathu sokuba ndiyenze. Kwakungekho kucetywayo.
- Andizange ndilindele ukubanjwa.
- Ndineengxaki zobomi bemizuzu.
- Andiyonwabile. Andizange ndivuyiswe iminyaka.
- Andizange ndifune ukukulimaza.
- Kwimeko yam ukukopela.
- Yinto nje into engumfana.
5 - "I-Grass i-Greener" Uhlobo lokukhohlisa
Nazi ezinye "utshani obuninzi" uhlobo lokukhohlisa.
- Ndifuna ukulala ngesondo nabanye. Andikwazi ukuhamba nobomi bendilala kunye nawe nje.
- Isondo siyamangalisa. Akuzange kube kuhle kuwe.
- Ndifuna ukuqala iqela lamatye kwaye ndiza kuhamba kakhulu. Oko kwakungeke kube kuhle kuwe.
- Kuyinto engumlutha.
- Andikwazi ukunceda.
- Akuthethi nto.
- Kwenzeka nje.
- Yena / Unomtshato ongonwabileyo, kwaye ndizalisekile umvakalelo ebomini bakhe.
- Sasingumhlobo nje.
- Ndandifuna ukwazi ukuba ubulili nomnye umntu uya kuba njani.
6 - Yintoni Okufuneka Uyazi
Nantsi into ekufuneka uyazi ukuze ugcine umtshato wakho emva komcimbi.
- Kuye kube nini ixesha lokuhlala ngaphandle?
- Ingaba lakho iqabane linemicimbi engaphezu kweyodwa? Ukuba kunjalo, zingaphi izinto? Ngaba lo mzekelo okanye umcimbi omnye?
- Ingaba kukho intsebenziswano enamandla kulo mcimbi?
- Ingaba umcimbi?
- Ingaba iqabane lomntu liya kubandakanyeka kubomi bakho (umzekelo kumsebenzi)?
- Ngaba nonke nifuna ukugcina umtshato wenu?
- Ngaba nonke nikulungele ukufuna uncedo lobuchwepheshe? Uyakufuna isikhokelo kukunceda kule nkqubo enzima kumtshato wakho.
* I-Article ihlaziywe nguMarni Feuerman