Iikhowudi ezili-12 ze-AA ne-Al-Anon
Ngokungabonakali izimvo "kwimibandela engaphandle," amaqela angama-12 athemba ukuphepha ukungquzulana, kokubini nakwiintlanganiso. Lo mgaqo unceda amalungu ukuba agxininise injongo yazo.
Ikholo 10 : Utywala obengaziwa (kunye no-Al-Anon) akanalo uluvo kwizinto zangaphandle; ngenxa yoko igama le-AA akufanele lithathwe kwingxabano yoluntu.
Njengoko u-Al-Anon uhamba phambili kumanyathelo alishumi elinambini kunye nezithethe uthi, " Al-Anon akahambelani nanoma yiphina inkolo, inkolo, inhlangano yezopolitiko, intlangano okanye isikhungo. Akubandakanyi nayiphi na ingxabano, ayiyikuphikisa nayiphi na isizathu.
Ngokufanayo, iziTywala ezingabonakaliyo aziyiboleki ngegama kwimibutho engaphandle, njengezibonelelo zonyango. Unokubona izipapasho zeenkqubo zonyango ezibiza ukuba "zi-12-step-based based", kodwa awuyi kubona nayiphi na into ekuthi inxulumene neAA
Ukusebenzisa iSimiselo kwiBomi bomntu
Ukuba le nkcubeko ilandelwa, isebenza ukugcina ubudlelwane ngokubanzi ukubandakanyeka kwingxabano yoluntu, kodwa inqununu ingasetyenziswa "kuyo yonke imicimbi" yamalungu ngamnye.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba amalungu ase-Anon abasebenzisa le migaqo ebomini babo ke ukubuyiswa komnye umntu - okanye okubaluleke ngakumbi, ukungabi nako ukubuyisela - kuba ngumbango ongaphandle, ukubenza "bathabathe" kwiingxaki zabanye baze bajonge inkqubo yokubuyisela.
Abaveleli beli sayithi baye bathabatha ithuba lokuxelela amava abo, amandla abo kunye nethemba kwiNkcubeko 10. Nazi iziganeko zabo:
Ukunamathela kwiNcwadi
Incwadi Enkulu Yobunxilongo Ayingaziwa ifana neBhayibhile xa silandela umyalezo njengoko kubhalwe ngokucacileyo akukho mfuneko yokuzisa ingxabano, okanye abangaphandle bazama ukutshintsha oko (kunye nabangaphakathi).
Kule minyaka iicawa ezininzi ziye zavela ngeengcamango ezahlukeneyo malunga noko kubhaliweyo, ukushiya uluntu kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeendlela ezintsha zokuphucula iZwi likaThixo elalicinga ukuba ziyaziqonda - kwaye kwezo zinguqu siye sabona inkitha ehlukeneyo iicawa zifika. Kwi-AA, nangona ingafezekanga, kwiNkolelo ye-10 iyazama kunzima nayiphi na intsebenziswano endiyibonayo ukuba ndihlale nomyalezo njengokuba ibhaliwe.
Kungenzeka ukuba i-cracks, kodwa andisayi kubona ikwahlukana njengoko ndibonayo iicawa ezininzi kangaka, ngokusekelwe kwingxabano yoluntu kunye neengcamango, kwaye ndiyakholwa kuba siyaxabisa iNkcubeko yethu yeshumi, senze konke okusemandleni ethu ukukhusela ubudlelwane bethu, ngenxa yokuba wethu ozayo ngoku - kungekhona xa sifa ngenxa yemiphumo ebuhlungu yesifo sethu. Thina sonke siyazi ukuba sinembopheleleko yokugcina i-AA ngokwethu njengokuba kunjalo okanye sihlaselwa ngaphambi kokuba sikwazi ukucinga ngendawo efana nezulu, ngoko siya kuqhubeka nokuxhasa isithethe sethu seshumi.
Alethea
Gcina kulula
Utywala a ngaziwayo akakwazi ukwenza nto ngaphandle kokufa ukuba kwakungekho kwesi siko. Ukuba i-AA "ngokusemthethweni" ibambe imibono kwimibandela eyahlukeneyo ngaphandle kweprogram engayi kunceda amalungu angavumelaniyo. Ndivile abantu abaninzi abangacatshulwanga bhekisela ku-AA njengenkolo, ukuba kungengokwesiko 10 kunokuthi ikhule ibe ngumgaqo-nkqubo waseNew York kunye nathi sonke esilindele ukuba silandele ngengqondo.
Siya kuba njengeqela lezopolitiko.
Ndiyakholwa ukuba le nkcubeko ibalulekile kumalungu ngamnye AA. Ngamanye amaxesha "iingcamango" okanye isikhungo sonyango sifanele siphululwe njenge-AA, izinto ezifana 'nabani na otshaya ugwayi azinakucacisa ngokwenene' okanye xa sizama ukungaqeqeshelwa oogqirha bezonyango baphathelene namanye amalungu empilo kunye neengxaki zonyango. Ndade ndafunda kwiBhokisi ye-459 yakutshanje malunga nelungu elixhaswe ngumxhasi wakhe ukuba kufuneka athathe usuku olusisiseko sokuba asebenze kwaye wayefanele abe neyeza zentlungu.
Ezi ntlobo zeengcamango zingadluliselwa kubantu abatsha njengengxenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo xa eqinisweni bengaphandle kwemiba.
Ndivakalelwa kukuba kubalulekile ukuba ndigcine isithethe 10 engqondweni xa ndihlanganyela ezintlanganisweni, indoda okanye ibhinqa elinolwazi oluncinane yintoni le nkqubo ephathelele ngayo emva kokuba bonke abantu babaluleke kakhulu kwigumbi.
Maryann
Inkcubeko 10: I-Oxymoron?
Ngokwemfundiso, kuyisithethe esihle kakhulu. Enyanisweni, kukho imiba emininzi kunye neengcamango ezithi i-Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc. (AAWS) ibandakanyeka kuyo.
Njengoko ilizwi elidala lihamba, ngokungenzi isigqibo wenze isigqibo. Kuyafana nokuba ungenalo uluvo.
Ngokungazibandakanyi, kwiingcamango, i-AA ayikwazi ukuzibeka kwisimo esingekho ngaphandle kokungathathi hlangothi. Xa kungathathi hlangothi, akukho nto okanye ayiphuthayo kwaye akukho nethuba leengxaki zokuphambukisa i-AA kwiinjongo zayo eziphambili zokuncedisa utywala ukuba bafumane ukuba (abanxilisayo) banqwenela ukwenza njalo.
Le nkcubeko nayo ihlobo lwe-oxymoron. Thatha abatywala ezili-10 uze ubuze izimvo zabo. Uyakufumana ubuncinane imibono engu-12. Bonke abanxilisayo banemibono, baninzi babo banamandla. Ingxabano yinto eyenza i-AA ikhule kwaye iphumelele ngokomoya. Kuye ngaloo ndlela ukususela ngo-AA yaqala. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuqala intlanganiso ngumsindo kunye nebhoyi yekhofi.
I-AAWS ngokwayo iya kwiinkundla zikawonkewonke ezijongene nokukhusela impahla. Ngokwenza njalo, i-AAWS iphula ubuyimfihlo kunye nokungaziwa ngamalungu e-AA ngamnye kwaye ngaloo ndlela imema ukungqubuzana komphakathi.
I-AA yoBambiswano kunye ne-AAWS-ishishini kunye nokushicilela umbuso-zizinto ezihlukeneyo. Njengobuhlobo bokomoya, amalungu e-AA, iintlanganiso kunye namaqela anokunceda ukuqhuba le nkcubeko njengokuba kuhloswe ngamalungu ethu asekelayo . Njengeshishini, i-AAWS ihlala iphula le Nkohlakalo kwaye ibeka iAA engozini. Yona nje imbono.
Mitchell