Imiba kunye neentshukumo
Akuqhelekanga ukuva abantu bebhenela okanye abanye ngokuthi 'i-OCD'. Kwiimeko ezininzi, aba bantu babhekisela kwiipatheni ezithile zokuziphatha ezinokuthi zidibaniswe ne- OCD , ezifana nesidingo sokwenza izinto ngendlela ethile, ngendlela ethile, njl njl. Ezi ziphatha zivame ukubhekwa kwiilwimi zesizwe ngokuthi ' isalathisi 'okanye' ukulandelelana kokudala 'okanye ukulawula kuphela.
Inkathazo yoBuntu obumnyama
Kulabo bathatha ezi ziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo, ziqhutywa ngokuphelelisa okanye ukwesaba kokungafanelekanga, ingxaki inokuthi i-OCPD - Inkathazo yoBuntu . Ngokungafani ne- OCD , ingxaki yokuxhalabisa, abantu abane-OCPD abahlali bahlala bekhohlakeleyo, bengenakudinga, abangafunekiyo rhoqo; ukuziphatha kwabo okunyanzeliswayo ngokuqhelekileyo ukulawula indawo yabo okanye umphumo oyifunayo, kungekhona ukunciphisa uxhalabo olunxulumene neengcinga ezithile okanye ukunyanzelisa.
Abantu abaninzi abane-OCPD banamaxhala, ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kwindawo yokuxhala, xa benza iphutha, abanakukwazi ukulawula isiphumo semeko okanye ukulawula ingcinga okanye ukuziphatha komnye umntu. Olu xhaphalo luhlobene noloyiko lokuba lubonwa njengengaphelelekanga, eyahluke kwiinkxalabo ezinxulumene ne-OCD apho uxhalaba lubophelelwe kwiingcamango eziphosakeleyo kunye neemfuno zokuqhuba isithethe esithile sengqondo okanye yokuziphatha.
Uhlobo oluphambili phakathi kwe- OCD kunye ne-OCPD ngu-OCD lubonwa ngxaki yokukhathazeka eneengcambu ze-biological; I-OCPD yimbangela yempawu zobuntu (ukuziphatha okufundwayo) okudala ukukhubazeka ekusebenzeni, nangona i-OCPD ingahamba kunye neengxaki ezihlukeneyo zokuxhalabisa .
USandy: Umfazi onamandla kwaye onamandla
Kwiminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, ndabona ibhinqa elinobuchopho elalizinzileyo kwaye lathandeka kakhulu emsebenzini walo - siza kumthiya nguSandy.
Wayengumgadi wesigqeba kwaye kuthiwa yindoda ehambayo yangempela kwinkampani encinci yokushicilela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, indawo ayikwazanga ukuqhubeka isebenza ngaphandle kwayo. Nangona bekungekho izikhalazo malunga nomsebenzi wakhe okanye ubudlelwane bomsebenzi kwiofisi yabo encinci, wayesele akhathala. Waziphoqa nzima ukwenza 'yonke into', kwaye ukwenza konke ngokugqibeleleyo . Isiphumo kukuba wayesebenza ixesha elide kwaye waqala ukuxhalaba nokuxhalabisa.
USandy wayetshatile indoda efanayo iminyaka engama-30. Wayenabantwana abadala kunye nabazukulu. Ubomi bakhe babonakala buhamba kakuhle ngaphandle kwonyana ondala kunabo bonke abasandul 'ukubuyela ekhaya. Wayenomngcipheko kotywala kwaye wayesekulahlekelwa ngumfazi kunye nosapho. Isizathu sokuba uSandy weza kunyango "ukulungisa". Wayengakwazi ukuqonda isizathu sokuba wayehluke kakhulu kwabanye abantwana kunye nabazali bakhe. Nangona wayefuna ukuba aphucule, akazange afune ukuzisa intsapho yonyango. Wayefuna ukuba ndimncede amqonde (ngaphandle kokumhlangabeza) kwaye umxelele ukuba yenzeni ukulungisa ingxaki.
Ndamqinisekisa uSandy ukuba ukusebenzisana kwethu kwakudinga ukugxila kuye, kubandakanye impendulo yakhe kwonyana wakhe. Sasebenza kwiindlela zokuphumla , ezenziwa nguSandy ngokunyanisekileyo ukukunceda ukulawula uxhalabo emsebenzini.
Emva kokudibana ngeveki malunga neenyanga ezimbini, waphoswa i-aphoyintimenti kwaye akazange abize ukuba abuyele kwiiveki ezimbalwa. Emva kokubuya kwakhe, waxela ukuba wayitshise kakubi ngelixa wayevutha udoti kwaye wayebhedlele esibhedlele kwiiveki ezimbalwa. Wathi umyeni wakhe wayefuna ukuza kwiseshoni elandelayo.
Umyeni kaSandy wayenomdla kodwa wayekhathazekile kakhulu ngoSandy. Wayexhalabele ukuba wayengabali ngxelo epheleleyo kwonyango. Kubikwa ukuba, wayezimisele ukufumana udoti watshisa ukuba akayi kulinda umyeni wakhe ukuba enze ngosuku lwakhe. Esikhundleni salokho, wazama ukwenza oko ngokwalo xa iimeko zemozulu zendawo zacebisa malunga nalo (wahlola phambi kokuba athethe ukutshisa izitho).
Umlilo waphuma ngokukhawuleza ngenxa yokuphelelwa umoya, obangela ukulimala kwakhe. USandy waziva 'lihlazo' lokwenza lo khetho olungamlimaza umzukulwana wakhe.
Kwakhona wathetha ngokunamathela kwakhe ngokungqongqo 'ukwenza izinto ngendlela yakhe' eyabangela ukuba enze yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, ukupheka nokucoca. Ininzi eyayityhila, indoda yakhe yathi ayiyi kuvuya. Kwaye nangona wayengazange 'athethe' malunga naloo nto, wonke umntu wayesazi ukuba akayi kuphila kwimilinganiselo yakhe ekhangela ekhaya, echaphazela kakhulu ubudlelwane bakhe. Intsapho yafunda ukuba uSandy wayekholelwa ukuba kufuneka enze yonke into ukuba yenziwe ngokufanelekileyo. Bayeka ukuzama ukumkholisa, benza amahlaya malunga nokunyaniseka kwakhe ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, babesazi ukuba uSandy wawagweba ngokukhawuleza waza wabacaphukisa ngenxa yokungakwazi. USandy wavuma ngokuvakalayo ukuba ezi ngxelo zinyani, kwaye wavuma ukuba abantu basebenze basenokumhlonela.
Unyango lwe-OCPD
Emva kokuba zonke iinyani zikhona, uSandy wavuma ukumbona osebenza ngengqondo. Waqala ukuphucula ngokudibanisa kwamachiza , iindlela zokuphucula, kunye nokunyanga kwengqondo yokuziphatha . USandy waqaphela ukuba iinkolelo zakhe ngaye kunye nabanye zazidala izinto ezingalindelekanga. Waqala ukusebenza ngexeshana kwaye wafumanisa ukuba abanye abantu eofisini yakhe banokwenza umsebenzi omningi awayewenzile ngaphambili, nangona befuna i-space ukwenza loo ndlela, nje kuphela ukuba iziphumo 'zanele ngokwaneleyo'.
Njengoko uSandy waqala ukwenza utshintsho kuye, wakwazi ukumkela unyana wakhe ngenxa yokuba wayengubani njengomntu. Babhekiselele ingxaki yotywala njengentsapho kwaye uSandy wafunda ngakumbi ngokuvumela ukuhamba kwezilindele kwabanye abantu. Umyeni wakhe wehla kwiiseshoni zonyango, enika umbono oxabisekileyo kuSandy kunye nonyango lwakhe. Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu, wagqiba unyango kodwa waqhubeka ethatha amanyathelo aphantsi amachiza kwaye asebenzise iindlela zokuphumla imihla ngemihla.
Into esinokuyifunda malunga ne-OCPD esuka kuSandy
1. Ukubandakanya intsapho kubaluleke kakhulu kunyango olusebenzayo.
2. Ukuqhelanisa iingcinga kunye neenkolelo ezingenangqiqo zibalulekileyo ekuphuculeni kwexesha elide le-OCPD.
3. Ulwalamano emsebenzini nasemakhaya luhlala lonakaliswe kwaye kufuneka lulungiswe kwiimeko ze-OCPD.
4. Iindlela zokuphucula kunye nengqiqo zinceda kakhulu kwi-OCPD.
5. Abantu abane-OCPD bavame ukuba ngathi banakho konke okulawulwayo - kodwa iindleko kubo kunye nobuhlobo babo bukhulu.
6. Abantu abane-OCPD badla ngokugqithisa, bagxeke abanye abantu okanye iimeko xa bengakwazi ukulawula izinto.
7. Iimpawu ezinokuba ziyimfuneko kulabo abangakwazi ukulawula uxhalaba lwabo kunye neyonyango loncedo.
8. Akuqhelekanga ukubona ukusetyenziswa kakubi kwezidakamizwa kunye nokuxhalabisa kwintsapho efanayo-uxhalaba luhlala lugxininiswa nokulutha.
9. Iintsapho zihlala zijamelana nokuxhatshazwa ngokuphepha okanye ukungcola okanye ukuhleka.
10. I-OCD kunye ne-OCPD ineempawu kunye neempawu ezigqithisileyo, kodwa izizathu ezi zinto zihluke kakhulu.