Ukwahlukana Phakathi Kwamadoda NamaTyhini ekuzibulala kunye neZenzo zokuzibulala
Kukho ulwahlulo oluninzi lwesini malunga nokuzibulala, okubandakanya ukungalingani kokuzibulala ngokuzimeleyo nokuziphatha okuzibulala kubayeni nabasetyhini.
Nangona kunzima ukuxoxa ngale ngongoma, kufuneka kugxininiswe ukuba olu lwazi lubalulekile ukuba sinciphise inani lokuzibulala eziphumelelayo ezenzeka eMelika nasehlabathini lonke ngonyaka.
Ukwahlukana kobulili Ukuzama ukuzibulala kunye noMngcipheko Wokufa ekuzibulala
Ekuhloliseni izibalo zokuzibulala ziye zafunyanwa ukuba abafazi banokuphindwa kathathu ukuzama ukuzibulala, nangona amadoda aphindwe kathathu ngokufa ngokuzibulala. Kule nkcazelo kucacile ukuba kukho ezinye iintlukwano ezibalulekileyo phakathi kwezesondo malunga nokuzibulala esiza kuzilungisa.
Kukho ukwahlukana kwengozi yokuzibulala phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini ngokusekelwe kumzamo wangaphambili. Phantse ama-62 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini abaphumelele ukuzibulala baye benza umzamo wangaphambili, kodwa xa kuziwa kumadoda, amaphesenti angama-62 abo bafa ngokuzibulala ayengenayo inzame yangaphambili.
Kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngento ekhohlakeleyo xa kuziza ukuzibulala kumadoda nakwabasetyhini phambili. Ukwahlukana kwemizamo kunye nokuzibulala ngokuzimeleyo kwabasetyhini kuye kwakhokelela abantu abaninzi ukuba bakholelwe ukuba ukuzama ukuzibulala kwabasetyhini kuyindlela yokuqwalasela.
Oku akude kunyanisekile. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba phakathi kwabasetyhini bazama (kodwa bahluleka) ukuzama ukuzibulala kuyingozi enkulu yokuzibulala esikhathini esizayo, kwaye yonke imizamo yokuzibulala, nokuba yindoda okanye yabasetyhini, imele ithathwe ngokungathí sina.
Ukwahlukana kwiindlela zokuzibulala eziphakathi kwamadoda nabafazi
Esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo zokubahluko phakathi kokuzama ukuzibulala nokuzibulala ngokuzimeleyo phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane kuyindlela yokuzibulala esetyenziswayo.
Amadoda athile ukhetha iindlela zokuzibulala (ezinobungozi kakhulu) zokuzibulala, ezifana nezibhamu, ukuxhoma, kunye nokuphefumula, kanti abafazi banokudlulela kwiimichiza okanye iziyobisi.
Izindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuzibulala kwamadoda ziquka:
- Izibhamu
- Ukulinda
- Ukuphefumula , okanye ukuxilwa
- Ukuhlahlela
- Izinto ezihambayo
- Izinto ezibukhali
- IGesi yoKhutshwa kweGesi
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi basebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzibulala kunamadoda. Izindlela eziqhelekileyo zokuzibulala kwabasetyhini ziquka:
- Ukuzondla (abesetyhini ngamathuba amane njengamadoda okufa ngenxa yetyhefu)
- I-Exsanguination (ukuphuma kwinqwelo efana nesinqununu "njengesihlunu")
- Ukugcoba
- Ukulinda (olunye uphando luthi amadoda namabhinqa bobabini banokufa ngokuxhoma)
- Izibhamu (abesetyhini babengama-73 ekhulwini abangaphantsi kokusebenzisa izibhamu njengamadoda)
Ezinye iintlukwano kwiindlela zokuzibulala
Kukho ukungafani kwindlela yokuzibulala ngaphandle kwalabo besini. Amadoda atshatileyo ayenokusebenzisa imipu, kanti amadoda angatshatanga abekho amathuba okufa ngokuxhoma. Kukho iintlukwano ezixhomekeke ekubeni ukuzibulala kuqhutyelwa ekhaya okanye kude nekhaya. Ulutsha, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokufikelela kweendlela, linomlinganiselo ophezulu wokufa ngokuxhoma. Ukongeza, iindlela ziyahlukahluka kuxhomekeke kwiimeko. Iindlela ezifana nokugqithisa kakhulu ziqhelekileyo kulabo abaye bacinezeleka ixesha elithile.
Izibhamu, ngokuchaseneyo, zibonakala ziqhelekileyo xa abantu bephendula kwiimeko ezibukhali. Oku kuya kuxhasa iingcebiso ezikhoyo ngokususa izibhamu ezisuka kwikhaya kwisimo seengxaki zempilo yengqondo.
Ukwahlukana kobuNzima bokuzama ukuzibulala eMadodeni nakwaBasetyhini
Nangona indlela efanayo yokuzibulala isetyenziswe ngamadoda nabasetyhini, iinzame zamadoda zivame ukuba zinzulu kakhulu kwaye zinzima (iipesenti ezingama-60 ezona zinzima, ubuncinci bezithethe). Amadoda azama ukuzibulala aze aphile asenokuba ngamabhinqa azama ukuzibulala azifuna unyango olunzulu lwezibhedlele. Ngokubhekiselele ekuzibulaleni ngemibhobho, amadoda angakwazi ukudubula entloko (okungenzeka ukuba yingozi) kunabesifazane.
Isizathu sale nto sixoxwe, kodwa sinxulumene nesinjongo esingaphantsi sokufa kwabasetyhini. Kungenjalo, nokuba kunjalo, ukuba ukwesaba okwenkqonkqo kwabasetyhini, xa umzamo ungaphumeleli, udlala indima kwindawo yokuqhuma.
Imizamo Yokuzibulala Ngaphambi Kokuzibulala KuMadoda Nabasetyhini
Njengoko kuphawuliwe ngasentla, amadoda namabhinqa abanembali yokuzama ukuzibulala bazinikele engozini yokuzibulala. Ingaphezu kwesigamu sabasetyhini abaphumelele ekuzileni banomzamo wangaphambili, kanti ngaphantsi kwesigamu samadoda abazibulala banomzamo ongaphambili.
Ulwahlulo ekuziphatheni kokuzilimaza phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi
Ngelixa abantu banokufa ngenxa yomzamo wokuzibulala, abafazi banako ukubandakanya into eyaziwa ngokuba yingozi ngokuzibophezela (DSH) okanye ukuziqhayisa . I-DSH ibandakanya nayiphi na indlela yokuziphatha okuzilimazayo, nokuba ingaba injongo kukuzibulala.
Uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abazisebenzisayo ngokwabo bazama ukuzibulala, nangona ngamanye amaxesha benza. Ngelixa abantu abaninzi banxulumana nokuzilimaza ngesifiso sokuqwalasela, akunjalo, kwaye idlalwa ngasese. Imizekelo ye-DSH ibandakanya izidakamizwa ezingekho phantsi kokubulala nokuzilimaza ezifana nokusika. Nangona ukuzibulala kungeke kube yinto ekhuthaza, abantu abaninzi abazenzayo ukuzilimaza banokuba neengcinga zokuzibulala, kwaye banokuthi baqhubele phambili ekuziphatheni kwabo okuzilimazayo ngenxa yokuzibulala ngokungenakuzenzela.
Imiba yokuzibulala kulabo ababandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okubi kunokuquka:
- Iziganeko zangaphambili zokuzilimaza
- Injongo yokuzibulala
- Iingxaki zempilo
- Ngokwesini
Ukwahlukana kobulili kwixinzelelo kunye nokuzibulala
Kucinga ukuba ukuxinezeleka okukhulu kwenzeka malunga nesiqingatha sabantu abazibulala, bobabini besilisa nabasetyhini, kwaye kukho ukungafani nakule nto ngokunjalo. Abasetyhini banokuphindwa kabili njengamadoda ukuba baphathe ukuxilongwa kokudakumba okukhulu, nangona kunjalo, njengoko kuphawulwe, ukuzibulala ngokuphumelelayo kubakho ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwindoda kunabesifazana. Kwakhona kwaziwa ukuba abafazi banako ukufumana unyango lokudakumba kunamadoda.
Kutheni kukho ukungafani kwesini kunye nokuzibulala?
Ukwahlukahlukana kwimiba yesini kunye nokulindela kungabangela ezinye zeentlukwano ekuziphatheni ukuzibulala. Ukutshatyalaliswa kobulili besilisa "obunzima" kwaye "oqinileyo" akuvumeli ukuhluleka, mhlawumbi kubangele amadoda ukuba akhethe indlela yokuzibulala enobudlova kunye nokubulala; ngelixa abafazi, abavunyelwe (kwimimiselo yokwamkelwa koluntu) ukhetho lokubonisa ubuthathaka nokucela uncedo, unokusebenzisa imizamo yokuzibulala njengendlela yokubonisa umnqweno wokunceda.
Abanye abaphandi baye bachaza ukuba abafazi banokuthi bathathe abanye ingqalelo, kwaye ukujonga ukuzibulala kwimiba yobudlelwane kunokunika abafazi ithuba lokunciphisa ukufa. Abanye baye bazibuza ukuba ngaba mhlawumbi abafazi banokuziva bekhululekile ukutshintsha iingqondo zabo emva kwesigqibo sokuzama ukuzibulala.
Iingcali zibonisa ukuba isini sinokuchaphazela naziphi iindlela umntu aziwayo okanye ulungele ukufikelela. Ngokomzekelo, ngamadoda ngokuqhelekileyo amathuba amaninzi kunabesifazane ukuba baqhelane nemibhobho kwaye bawasebenzise kwimpilo yabo yemihla ngemihla, kwaye ngoko banokukhetha le ndlela rhoqo.
Ngelixa ezinye iinkqubo zokuzibulala zingenziwa malunga nokuziphatha kwabantu besilisa nokuzibulala, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukuthambekela ngokuqhelekileyo akunakuthathwa njengezikhokelo zokuzibulala zokuzibulala. Imizamo yokuzibulala kufuneka imele ithathwe ngokungathí sina kwaye ingathatyathwa njengento yokufuna ingqwalasela, kwaye akufanele kucatshangelwe ukuba abantu kuphela besini esithile baya kusebenzisa nayiphi na indlela enikwe.
Imiqondiso Yokuzibulala
Kungakhathaliseki ukungafani kwesini ekuzibulaleni, wonke umntu kufuneka aqonde izinto ezinobungozi kunye nezibonakaliso zokuzibulala . Ukuba wena okanye othandekayo unembali yokudakumba, unokufisa ukudala isicwangciso sokukhusela nokuzibulala .
Ukuba ungumzali
Ukuba ungumzali, mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ukulala ukuva malunga nomngcipheko wokuzibulala kubantu abaselula. Ngombulelo oku kuthethwa ngawo, kugcwaliswe kunye neefowers ezixelela ulutsha ukuba luphule ukuthula xa befunda omnye umfundi unokuzibulala. Amanqaku ngoku aninzi athetha ngokutsha kwentombazana kunye nokuziphatha kakubi . Sekunjalo uqikelele ukuba umntwana okhulayo unokuzibulala kunokuba nzima kakhulu phakathi kwexesha eliqhelekileyo lokukhula. Ukongeza kokufunda malunga neempawu zokuxwayisa abantu abadala, zithatha isikhashana ukuba ufunde ngeempawu eziqhelekileyo zokuzibulala eziselula , kwaye uqhelane nale ngqungquthela malunga nokuzibulala kwentsha .
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