Ukukhohlisa kuyingxenye yomlutha
Izilingo zilahla ukufihla ukuziphatha kwabo umlutha ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ngoko musa ukuzithatha. Nazi ezinye zezizathu zokuba izilwanyana zilele kunye nendlela onokuzama ngayo ukujongana nokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukulumkisa Amanga Ukugwema Ukungqubana
Izilingo zisoloko zifuna ukuphepha ukuxabana ngenxa yokuba zisetyenziselwe ukuziphatha kwabo umlutha njengesicwangciso esilubileyo ixesha elide, kaninzi abanakho ezinye iindlela eziphuculweyo zokujongana neengcinezelo zobomi.
Xa ujongana nesihloko esinzima, zama ukuhlala umcimbi-nge-nyaniso. Sebenzisa ulwimi ukubonisa imbono yakho, kunokugxeka umlutha.
Abantu abanezidakamizwa Abathandi Ukuguqulwa kwe-Forced
Iilutha zivame ukuba ne-stuak enenkani. Bayazi ukuba indlela yabo yokuziphatha ayikho into enomdla, ngakumbi eyabo, kodwa baye bagqiba ekubeni kusebenza kubo, kwaye bayabambelela kuyo.
Ekugqibeleni, izilutha ziyakwazi kwaye zitshintshe xa ziqonda iziphumo zokuziphatha kwazo ziya kuqhubeka ziba nzima ngakumbi ngaphandle kokuba zenze into eyahlukileyo. Izilingo zihlala zixoki malunga nokuziphatha kwazo, ngenxa yokuba zifuna ukuphepha ukuba uzichukumise ukuba zitshintshe.
Zama ukunikezela ngolwazi olunokuchaphazela umlutha ebomini bakho ukuba wenze ingqondo yabo ukutshintsha, endaweni yokuzama ukubakhohlisa ukuba batshintshe.
Iilutha zifuna ukuphepha
Izilwanyana zivame ukubona indlela yokuziphatha njengendlela yokugcina iphethini, enethemba lokuba izinto ziza kusebenza kunye kwaye umlutha uya kulahleka.
Abafuni ukuba ukhumbuze ngezinto ezimbi zokuziphatha kwabo, ingakumbi ukuba kusemthethweni. Xa umlwelwe uziva ehlala egxekwa ngabantu abathandekayo balala ngokufihla ukuziphatha kwabo.
Zama ukugxila kwizinto eziza kuba ngcono xa izinto ziguquka, kungekhona oko kuza kuba kubi xa bengenalo.
Abathandekayo Bakwazi Ukukhohlisa
Uyazi ukuba umthandi wakho umanga nje ngokuba uyazi oko kwenzeka ngokwenene. Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile, ubavumela ukuba balale ngaphandle kokubazisa ukuba uyazi.
Oku kuthumela enye yemiyalezo emibini:
- "Uxelele ubuxoki kwaye andizange ndiqaphele - ngoko ukuba ulala kwakhona, andinakukubona ngokulandelayo."
- "Uxelele ubuxoki kwaye ndaqaphela, kodwa ndizama ukukholelwa wena-ngoko ukuba uthe walala kwakhona, ndizenze ngathi ndikukholelwe nawe xesha."
Kule meko, mhlawumbi ugweme ukuxoxa ngento ngokupheleleyo okanye ukuthetha nje oko uyaziyo kwenzeka, kunokuba uhambe kunye nobuxoki.
Ubomi Bungekho Umlutha Ungabonakala NjengeNqabile
Ubomi bomlingo bubandakanya ukuziphatha kwabo . Nangona baceba ukuyeka "olunye usuku," namhlanje, ubomi obungenalo umlutha wabo bubonakala bukhwankqisayo. Ukuba awuyiqondi indlela le nto yokungahambi ngayo ibangela ukuba abantu babuyele emzimbeni wabo wokulutha, baya kudibana naloo nto, baze baxoke ukuze bavale.
Thetha ngendlela enomusa nangendlela enokuthi ufuna ukuyenza ntoni endaweni yokuziphatha umlutha, mhlawumbi ngaphambi kokuziphatha komlutha kuyinxalenye yenkqubo yakho.
Ukutshintsha Ukuziva Unamahloni
Izilwangiso zisoloko zibenza abantu bajikeleze ngeendlela ezenza babe neentloni nokuzisola.
Xa ukhankanya oku, baqamba ukuxoka.
Ukuhamba kunye nobuxoki bomdaka luhlobo lokuvumela ukuba oko kunokuphepha ukuhlazeka ngaphandle kodwa akuyi kwenza nto ukukhupha intlungu yakho yomntu oyintlungu.
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