Uninzi lwabantu abane- disorder personality personality (BPD) luneziphumo ezithile: iziganeko ezithile okanye iinkumbulo eziye zandisa okanye ziqinisa iimpawu zabo. Kwabanye abantu, into efana neyobugcisa bomculo okanye ingoma edabukisayo inokwanela ukuvelisa ezi zimbangela . Oku kunokukhokelela ukwesaba okukhulu, umsindo, ukunyamekela, ukuzilimaza nokuziphatha ngokuzibulala . Nangona kunokuba nzima ukulawula iimpawu zakho, kunokwenzeka ngezi ndlela ezine zokukunceda ukuhlangabezana nazo:
I-1 - Gwema iishukumisi
Enye yeendlela ezilula ukujamelana neziphumo kukuziphepha ekuqaleni. Kukhona ezinye izinto ezibangela ukuba kulula ukuziphepha. Ngokomzekelo, mhlawumbi unomdlalo owakuthandayo owawubonayo kunye nomlingane wakho owayekade naye. Cima iDVD uze uyiqhekeke xa ithelevishini kwaye awunakuze uhlangabezane nalezo zinkumbulo ezimbi.
Ngelishwa, kukho izinto ezininzi ezibangelwayo okanye ezingayi kugwenywa. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba unobangela umntu osebenza emsebenzini, awukwazi ukuwaphepha ngenxa yokuba uyinxalenye yomsebenzi wakho kwaye ukuwaphepha kuya kuphazamisa umsebenzi wakho.
Uphephe isicwangciso esimele usebenzise ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba uqala ukukhusela bonke abantu, indawo okanye iimeko ezikubangela, unokuphelisa ubomi obuncinane, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akuyiyo injongo. Endaweni yoko, thintela ukuphazamisa ngelixa uqhuba indlela yokulawula iimpawu zakho de uze uzive ulungele ukujamelana nazo.
2 - Indlela yokuHlola iCandelo eliCwangcisiweyo
Enye inketho kukuthatha indlela eyinkqubo ngakumbi kwaye ngokukhawuleza ubhekane neziphumo zakho. Oku kunokuba yinto efanelekileyo kakhulu ejongwa ngoncedo lomgqirha.
Ukwenza oku, okokuqala, kufuneka wazi oko kukubangela inkathazo. Khetha into encinci, yenza icebo malunga nendlela oya kujamelana ngayo ne-trigger oko kwenzekayo kwaye emva koko ujongane nomnqweno ngendlela ephantsi kwaye elawulwayo.
Ngokomzekelo, mhlawumbi ingcamango yokuba uyiphumelele kwinto yinto enokuyenza. Khetha i-yoga apho uyazi ukuba awukwazi ukwenza, uzame kwaye xa ungaphumeleli, qaphela zonke iimvakalelo kunye nezimpendulo ezikhuphayo.
Esikhundleni sokuba uzive ulahlekile okanye udidekile, jongana nale mivakalelo ngendlela enempilo enjengokucamngca okanye ukuhleka ngendlela i-yoga nje engekho ngayo! Qaphela ukuba unokujamelana nokungaphumeleli ngaphandle kokwenza into ewonakalisayo.
3 - Ukuphuhlisa iSicwangciso seNkqubo soThutho
Ukuba uyazi ukuba ziphi izinto ezibangela ukuba zikuthumelele nge-loop , unokwenza isicwangciso sokulawula ezo zinto zakhayo. Emva kokuba ufumene iiphambili zakho ezimbini okanye ezintathu, bhala phantsi ezintlanu izinto onokuzenza ukuze ulawulwe uxinzelelo lwakho ngexesha elizayo xa kukho enye yezinto ezibangela ukuba kwenzeke. Gcina uluhlu ephaketheni lakho.
Xa i-trigger ifika, khupha uluhlu, kwaye uqale ngobuchule bokuqala bokubhala obhala phantsi. Ukuba oko akunakunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho, zama okulandelayo kunye nakulandelayo. Dlulela kulo lonke uluhlu ukuba lufuneka ukuba ude uxinzelelo lwakho luxazulule.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uyazi ukuba umalume wakho ongeyena uyisisombululo kuwe ezintlanganisweni zentsapho, enye indlela yokulawula uxinzelelo lwakho kukuthatha ikhefu ngokunyuka ngaphandle ukuhamba. Ukuba nesicwangciso esicacileyo ngaphambi kwexesha kuya kukunceda ukuphatha kakuhle iimvakalelo zakho xa ubhekene ne-trigger.
4 - Xoxa noMthetheli
Akuqhelekanga ukuba abantu abane-BPD benze izinto eziyingozi xa bebangela. Ezi ntlobo zendlela yokuziphatha zihlala zivela kwi-sex ekhuselekile ukuzilimaza okanye ukuzama ukuzibulala. Ukuba ezi ntlobo zengqondo zenzeke xa usushukunyiswa, kufuneka ube noluncedo lobuchwepheshe. Kuyakwazi ukufumana ezi ziphatho phantsi kolawulo, kodwa ungadinga uncedo lomgqirha ukuba usebenze ekujonganeni nale mvakalelo kunye neempawu ngendlela ekhuselekileyo.