Iindaba eziBali ezivela kubantwana abachaphazelekayo ngabazali boTywala
Abantwana abaninzi abafumana ubomi bokuqala kwindlu kunye neengxelo ezilunxilisayo kunye nobunzima bokudala ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ngenxa yemicimbi yokwethemba kunye nokungabi nantlonelo, kunzima ukuba bavumele umntu ukuba asondele ngokukhawuleza ukuba abe nethemba lokuthandana.
Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo - makube yintando, intlononic, ukomoya okanye olunye ulwalamano olusondeleyo - kunokubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka kubantwana abadala basezidakamizwa.
Bakufumana kunzima ukuvumela ukuba bajonge kwabanye ukuxhasana, ukuxhamla ngokomzwelo okanye ukuzaliseka kweemfuno zabo.
Abavakatye kwi-site yethu yoTywala xa bephendula umbuzo othi, " Uziva njani Ukhula Ngomzali onxilisayo? " Xubusha ubunzima ababenabo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, enye yezinto eziqhelekileyo ezinokuba abantwana bezobisi banokuphuhliswa. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba la mava, nangona aqhelekileyo kubantwana abadala abadakwa, angabonakalisa isiphumo semicimbi eyahlukeneyo yophuhliso.
Ndifuna abantu abanobugwenxa kunye nobunzima
Ndifuna ubudlelwane nabantu abenza ndiziva ndinganelisekanga, okushiya ndonwabileyo, ezikhohlakeleyo kwaye zibandayo. Okwangoku ndishiya indoda endineminyaka engaphezulu kwonyaka onayo i-OCD kwaye ndichitha unyaka odlulileyo undixelele ukuba uya kuba yedwa, ukuba ndiyathetha kakhulu, wandiqhatha ngexesha leeholide, wenqaba ukungenisa ngabahlobo okanye intsapho, akazange amthande, wayelawula yonke into esayenzayo. - Jenna
Ndifuna ukuyeka ukusebenza
Ingxaki yam enkulu, intlungu, ukwazi ukuba ndiza kulahlekelwa ngamahlakani kunye nabahlobo endithandayo. Ndiza kubaleka ekugqibeleni. Ndiyazi, kodwa andinakukuyeka. Ilahleko ibuhlungu kakhulu xa bebethekele kwicala lesitalato, kwaye ubudlelwane bungafani. Ndifuna kakhulu ukuyeka ukusebenza kwaye ndiyesaba - andifuni nto ngaphandle kwesiganeko, esisigxina intsapho. - McKluver
Umoyiko Wokusondela
Igalelo elininzi kwiingxaki endizifumanayo kunye nolwalamano lwam, kunye nabahlobo kunye noyiko lwam lokuba ndibe nomnye nabani na. Ndingu-22 kwaye andisayi kuba nolwalamano olunzulu nabani na. Ndicinga ukuba ndiyesaba kakhulu ukuba ndiseduze nomntu ngenxa yokwesaba ukuba nolwalamano olufana nolwabazali bam. - Cam
Akazange abe nolwalamano oluqhelekileyo
Ndiyithiya ndedwa kwaye ndifuna nje ukufumana indoda enhle ndikwazi ukuziva ndikhuselekile kwaye ndiyathemba, ndinobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kwaye mhlawumbi nendlu (into engakaze ndibe nayo). Ndiyamangaliswa ngamanye amandla okuphuma kunye nokubamba oko bafuna, okanye nokuba bazi kwindawo yokuqala kwaye bakwazi ukuthetha oko bafuna. Oku kungaphezu kwam kwaye kwenza ukuba ndizive ndingenamsebenzi kwaye ndingenanto, ndiziva ngathi andizange ndiphumelele nantoni naxa abahlobo beqhubeka bephila. - JoJo
Ufuna Nje Ukuba Ngokwemvelo
Ndandifuna nje ukuba siqheleke. Andikwazanga ukuba nentsapho kwaye ndiziva ndingonwabi kumaqela okanye kwisistim esondeleyo kunye nosapho olusondeleyo okanye ngabahlobo (ngaphandle kokuba ndibazi kwaye ndithemba). Ndivukela kakhulu igunya. - Mad
Ndifuna Ubudlelwane obungenakwenzeka
Namhlanje ndifuna ubudlelwane obungenakwenzeka kunye namadoda abanobudlova, abanomlinganiselo ogqithiseleyo wengqumbo okanye umsindo ophefumlelweyo kunye neengqungquthela kunye nabasetyhini abangafuniyo nabandayo. Ndihlala ndiziva ndedwa ndithandwa, njengento ephosakeleyo kum. - Ukuzama
Ukufumana Abo Bafuna 'Ukulondoloza'
Bonke ubudlelwane obusondeleyo endibenalo namadoda bebenomntu onomlutha okanye ufuna "ukugcina." Ndiyakholwa ukuba ndiyibukele njengento yam yokuxabisa kwimilamano kwaye ukuba ukuba ndiphumelele "ekusindiseni" umntu ngoko ndiza kuqinisekiswa kwaye ndizibonakalise ukuba ndiyamthanda emva koko. - Kalo
Inkolelo yam ayikho
Ndihlala ndijamelana noyiko kunye nokushiya. Konke oku kubangela ukuba ndibe nolwalamano nabantu abandishiyile kwaye ukuthembela kwam akukho. Andiyi kuva ukuba ndibe nobudlelwane obungapheliyo ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa kunye nokuthembela kwemiba yomnye umntu. - Donna
Ngaba Uthintekile?
Ingaba kukho nayiphi na le nkcazo isandi eyaziwayo? Ngaba ufumene nzima ukwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo? Unokufuna ukuthatha le mibuzo ukuze ubone ukuba uthintekile ukuba nomzali onxilisayo .
Ukuba ungumntu onxilisayo kwaye unabantwana abancinci ekhaya, nceda ufune uncedo ukuyeka okanye ukunciphisa ukusela kwakho ngaphambi kokuba abantwana bakho bathathwe ngendlela eya kutshintsha ubomi babo bonke.
Buyela kwi: Iimiphumo zoKhula kunye noTywala
Imithombo:
UJanet G. Woititz, "Iziganeko ezi-13 zabantwana abadala," Isiko soLwazi. Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.
Abantwana abadala beNkcazo yeNkonzo yeSizwe yeNkonzo yoTywala, "Uluhlu lweMpahla yoLondolozo - Iziganeko ezili-14 zoMntwana omdala onxilisayo," (Kubanjwe kuTony A., 1978). Fi kelele ngoNovemba 2010.