Lawula iimvakalelo zakho kunokuzivumela ukuba zilawulwe
Abantu abaninzi abaneengxaki zomntu ongekho emngceleni (BPD) balwa nemigangatho yolawulo lomzwelo. Enyanisweni, uMarsha Linehan, omnye wabaphandi abaphambili kwi-BPD, ucebise ukuba ukulahlekelwa kwemimiselo yeemeko kusemgangathweni wesifo. Kodwa yintoni ummiselo womzwelo, kwaye unokuphucula njani izakhono zolawulo lomzwelo?
Ukuba unayo i-BPD okanye i-disorder personality, sebenzisa le nkcazo ukuze ufunde kabanzi malunga nohlobo loqeqesho kunye neenzuzo zalo.
Uthini Umgaqo Wemfundo Uqeqesho?
Okwangoku akukho namnye ovunyelweneyo-kwingcaciso yegama elithi "ummiselo womzwelo." Abaphengululi abaninzi bachaza umgaqo wokumangalisa njengokuba unako ukuphucula okanye ukunciphisa iimvakalelo njengoko kufuneka. Umzekelo, ukuba uziva udibene phakathi kwintlanganiso emsebenzini, unokuzama ukuphazamisa into enokukukhathaza ngokucinga ngenye into. Ezinye iingcali zibiza lo mzekelo "umgaqo wokumangalisa."
Abanye abaphandi basebenzisa ingcaciso ebanzi yomgaqo-myalelo. Aba baphandi babona umgaqo-myalelo wokumangalisa njengesethi esibanzi sezakhono kunye nezakhono ezikunceda ukugcina inkqubo yesimo sempilo kunye nokusebenza. Umgaqo-myalelo wobubele uquka ukukwazi ukuba unempendulo yempembelelo kunye nokuqonda oko impendulo. Ummiselo uquka ukwamkela iimpendulo zakho zemoya kunokuba uzigatye okanye uziphendulele.
Oku kunokuba nzima nakubantu abangenayo i-BPD, njengoko iimvakalelo ezinjengomsindo okanye ukudabuka zihlala ziphazamiseka uluntu.
Ummiselo womzwelo ubhekisela kumandla okufikelela kwizicwangciso ezikuvumela ukunciphisa ubunzima beemvakalelo xa kufuneka. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntu uye wakucaphukisa, awuvumeli umnqweno wokuzikhupha okanye ukuphosa umgca omde wezandla zabo.
Enyanisweni, xa uphelelwe ngumsindo, kufuneka ukwazi ukubandakanya ukuziphatha okujoliswe kuko kugxininisekile kumgaqo-myalelo. Ekugqibeleni, le nqubo ibhekisela kumandla okulawula ukuziphatha okuphazamisayo xa uphazamisekile. Ukuba uvakalelwa ukutshintsha ikhaya lakho ngenxa yokuba ufumene iindaba eziphazamisayo, unqanda ukuthambekela ukuphonsa yonke into phantsi okanye ukuphosa umgodi eludongeni.
Ngenxa yokuba abantu abane-BPD banokulwa nomnye okanye zonke izakhono kuloluhlu, le nkcazo ebanzi yemimiselo yemoya iyona inceda kakhulu ekuchazeni ukulahleka komthetho okukhoyo kwi-BPD. Ngethamsanqa, kunokwenzeka ukuphuhlisa ezinye izakhono zomgaqo-mpawu ongekhoyo.
Indlela yokuphucula i-Skills Regulation Skills
Ukuba kufuneka usebenze kwizakhono zomgaqo wokumangalisa, unokuzama iinzame ezinokuthi uncede. Uqeqesho lwezakhono zolawulo lwezakhono luyenziwa ngokufanelekileyo ngoncedo lomphengululi we- BPD (umzekelo, ukuqeqeshwa kwezakhono zomgaqo- mpawu kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo yeCandelo loLwazi lweZenzo zoBomi kwi-BPD), kodwa unokuzama ukusetyenziswa okungaphantsi kwonyango olunjenge:
Ingqiqo yinkqubo yokuba khona okwangoku.
Abantu abanengqiqo bafunda ukuqaphela ukuphefumula abayithathayo, ukuxhatshazwa kwiimisipha zabo kunye nemilinganiselo yabo yentsholongwane. Bakha ukudla kwabo ngokukhawuleza nangenjongo, kwaye baphulaphule umzimba wabo ngenxa yezinto ezizalisekile. Bangakwazi ukuzijonga ngokukhawuleza ngexesha elinzima, beqinisekile ukuba ezi zihlandlo ziya kudlula.
Imithombo:
I-Gratz KL, uRoemer L. "Uvavanyo oluNinzi lweMimiselo yoMzwelo kunye noDysregulation: Ukuphuhliswa, ukuSungulwa koBuchule, nokuQinisekiswa koBunzima kwiMimiselo yoMoya." I- Journal of Psychopathology kunye noVavanyo lwendlela yokuziphatha , 26 (1): 41-54, 2004.
Linehan MM. IsiCwangciso soQeqesho soLwazi lweZakhono zokuPhatha iNgxaki yoLuntu lweMida . INew York: I-Press Guilford; 1993.