Iindaba eziBali ezivela kwi-Adult Children of Alcoholics
Enye into ebonakala iyinto eqhelekileyo kubantwana abaninzi abakhulu banxilisayo, kufuneka ukuba bahlale befuna imvume kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwabanye. Ngenxa yokuba bafumana udumo oluninzi okanye ukuvunywa kumzali wabo ongeyomnxila, abajonga abanye ukuba bavumiwe kwaye babe ngabantu abanomdla.
Ukufunwa kwemvume ngenye yeziganeko eziqhelekileyo zabantwana abadala abadakwa, kodwa nabantwana abakhulela emakhaya kunye nezinye iintlobo zemingeni yomzwelo.
Oku kungabandakanya ukuziphatha okunyanzelekileyo njengokungcakaza, ukunyusa ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi, kwaye kungenjalo na kubantwana abasemzimbeni okanye abaxhatshazwa ngokwesondo.
Ekuphenduleni umbuzo othi, " Uziva njani ukhula kunye nomzali onxilisayo? " Iindwendwe kwi-.com Alcoholism site ichaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukufumana imvume kwabanye:
Ixhamle Abantu Abathandekayo
Ndihlala ndifuna ukulungisa iingxaki zalabo bangqongeyo. Ndiyidla ngokukholisa abantu abandijikelezile kwaye ndixinezelekile xa ndivakalelwa kukuba umntu andithandiyo okanye andivuyi nam. - Alli
Phuma Kwindlela Yam Ukuze Ukholise
Ndiyifumene umkhwa wokungafuni ukuphoxeka abantu. Ndiyakuzonda ukungalunganga okanye ndiyayithiya xa ndivumela abantu ukuba bahle. Ndifuna uthando kwaye ndiza kuphuma kum indlela yokukholisa nabani na. - Arin
Kudinga ukukhonza abanye
Ndiziva ndifuna ukukhonza abanye, ngoko kufuneka ndibe nabantu abambalwa abandifuna ukuba ndipheke, bahlambuluke, bahambe ngeendlela okanye ngandlela-thile ndiba luncedo. Andikhathali ngam, kakhulu ukuba ndinceda njani kwabanye. - Intlanzi
Ndifuna ukuvunyelwa rhoqo, ukuqinisekiswa
Ndingumlondolozi ongapheliyo, abantu abanomdla, badinga ukuvunyelwa rhoqo kunye nokuqinisekiswa. Ndinexabiso eliphantsi, elibanjwe phakathi kokunyamekela abazali bam kunye nabantwana ngoku kuba ndingumntwana kuphela. Ndimalunga nama-50 kwaye ndivakalelwa njengomntwana ngenxa yokuba abazali bam besandiphatha njengomnye. - Lala
Kudinga imvume yoKwenza konke
Ndiya kulwalamano ngalunye ndicinga ukuba ndingenza lo mntu ube ngumntu ongcono. Ndilahlekelwa yedwa, ndinika konke kulo mntu kwaye ndibuhlungu kakhulu ixesha. Ndifuna imvume yabo ukuba ndiphile. - uJan
Ukufuna rhoqo Ukwamkeleka
Ndaziva ndilahliwe kakhulu, ngelixa ndicinga rhoqo uthando kunye nokwamkelwa nabantu abandikhoyo. Ndifumanisa nokusetyenziswa kakubi kwimiba ebudeni kuloo minyaka, ngokomoya, ngokwenyama nangokwengqondo ukubiza ezimbalwa, ezandichaphazela endleleni endingayisebenzisana ngayo nam nabalingani bam ndibakhetha. - Giro
Ukukhangela Ububele, Udumiso
Ndiyakhumbula ukuba ndinxungule ukuba ndibuyele ekhaya esikolweni kwaye ndifunde ukukhawuleza ukuba ndifunde ubuso bakhe ukuze ndibone oko ubusuku obuza kuzisa khona. Ndandisoloko ndiphosakele, ndinobuqili, ndisiphukuphuku njalo njalo kwaye ndiyazibuza ukuba ndihlobo luni lomdala endingaba nalo xa ndifumene ububele kunye nokudumisa. - Ghost
Ngaba Ufuna Ukuvunyelwa Kweminye?
Abaninzi abantwana abadala abanxilisayo baye bafumana kwiAln Anon Family Groups okanye iqela lokuxhaswa kwabantwana abaPhuzekileyo bezoNxila abaya kufunda ukuba banokuvuyela njani kwaye banelisekile ngokwabo ngaphandle kokuba bafune ukufumana imvume kwabanye.
Uthini ngawe? Ingaba ubomi bakho buchaphazelekile ngokukhula kwindalo yotywala okanye ngenye indlela engasebenzi?
Unokufuna ukuthatha le mibuzo ukuze ubone ukuba uthintekile ngeendlela ongeke wazibona.
Imithombo:
Abantwana abadala beNkcazo yeNkonzo yeSizwe yeNkonzo yoTywala, "Uluhlu lweMpahla yoLondolozo - Iziganeko ezili-14 zoMntwana omdala onxilisayo," (Kubanjwe kuTony A., 1978).
UJanet G. Woititz, "Iziganeko ezi-13 zabantwana abadala," Isiko soLwazi.
Ukusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo zezeMpilo yengqondo. " Ukunceda Uphulukise: Isikhokelo Sowesifazane Sokubuyisana Neengxaki Zokuxhatshazwa Kwabantwana " Ukuhlaziywa ngo-2008.