Ngaba Ingxaki Yakho YokuziThetha Ingadala Ukunyamezela? Ewe!
Kuyaziwa kakhulu kuluntu lwezonyango ukuba iingxelo ezimbi zabanye zingonakalisa ingqiqo yethu yokuzixabisa . Abantwana bathambekele ekukholweni ukuvavanya kakubi kwabo ootitshala nabazali, kwaye bahlakulele ingcamango yokuzimela xa begxeka rhoqo. Abaphengululi bacinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba umlinganiselo weengxelo ezilungileyo-kuya-negative zibe zintlanu ukuya kwelinye ukuze ubudlelwane bube nempilo kwaye buphile ixesha elide.
Ngenxa yezi zizathu, sifundiswa ukuba singavumeli abanye ukuba basicacise, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umntu ophazamisa umqondo wethu wokuzixabisa kunye nokunciphisa amandla ethu ! Oko kuthetha, ukuthetha kwethu, okanye amagama ethu entetho esetyenziswayo xa sicinga, inokunyusa amanqanaba ethu oxinzelelo, ukunciphisa amandla ethu, kunye nombala wamava ethu ngeepeni elibi. Nazi ezinye izizathu ezicacileyo zokuba kwenzeka ntoni le, kunye neziqhagamshelo kwizixhobo onokuzisebenzisa ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho kwaye uziphendulele ekuziphatheni kwakho:
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Nangona kungabonakali ukuba lubuphi ubungakanani obu kwenzekayo, kufunyenwe ukuba iintlobo zamagama esizisebenzisayo zinokutshintsha ukulindela kunye nemibono yethu yinyani. Umzekelo:
- Ukuba uye watshelwa ukuba umntu onzima 'uyintlungu yokusebenza kunye', mhlawumbi uya kuqonda ukuba loo mntu uyakhathazeka ngakumbi kunokuba uxelelwe ukuba 'ikhethe' okanye 'ifuna'.
- Ukuba ugqirha wakho wamazinyo uthi kuwe, 'Oku kuya kulimaza. Uninzi ! ", Mhlawumbi uya kufumana inkqubo ebenzibuhlungu kunokuba uxelelwe ukuba 'Unako ukuhlaselwa.'
- Uphando lufumene ukuba abantu abathetha iilwimi ezahlukeneyo banokubona izinto ezifanayo ngokusekelwe kumagama abo ulwimi lwabo basebenzisa ukuchaza ezi zinto. Ngokomzekelo, uphando lubonisa ukuba ulwimi lunokuchaphazela ukujonga umbala. (Abantu abathetha ulwimi oluthile oluhlula eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka nokuluhlaza njengemibala eyahlukeneyo yombala ofanayo ababenamandla kunokuba abakhulumi beeNgesi bahlule imibala eyalela umgca phakathi kohlaza okwesibhakabhaka nokuluhlaza.) Le miphumo ibangela ingqondo efanelekileyo ngaphezu kwesobunxele, kodwa impembelelo ibaluleke ngokucacileyo.
Njengoko ngokugqithiseleyo imibala enokuyibona kunye nento ohlala kuyo, ukuzithemba okungekho nto kunokuguqula amava okuxinezeleka ngeendlela ezilandelayo:
Ukuqonda okunyuka kwengxaki:
Xa ukuzithetha kwakho kukubi, unokubona izinto ezinxinzelelekileyo. Umzekelo, xa uthetha into ethi 'nzima' okanye 'ingalunganga', kuba nzima ukujongana nokuba utsho wena 'ngumngeni', okanye 'uvavanyo'. Ukusebenzisa ukuzithetha ngentetho enokuba nethemba kunokuba kungabikho kokunyaniseka kukuxhamla uxanduva lokulawula uxinzelelo, ukufumana imveliso kunye neenzuzo zezempilo eziye zabonakaliswa ngophando .
Ukuzinqanda:
Ukuba uthe "Andikwazi ukuphatha oku", akunakwenzeka ukuba. Oku kungenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho engqondweni iya kukholelwa iingcamango eziva. Unako ukulinganisela ubuchule bakho ngokuzixelela ukuba "awukwazi", ukuba "oku kunzima" okanye ukuba "akufanele uzame".
Cinga nje:
Xa uzixelela ukuba awukwazi ukuphatha into ethile (okanye enye ingcamango yokuzikhawulela), uthaka ukukhangela izisombululo. Ngokomzekelo, phawula umehluko phakathi kokuzixelela ukuba awukwazi ukuphatha into ethile kwaye uzibuze ukuba uza kuthatha njani into ethile. Ingaba ingcamango yesibini ingaba yithemba ngakumbi kwaye ivelise ubuchule obuninzi?
Ukuzithetha okuthethileyo kukuba isiprofeto esizizalisayo!
Ukuyeka iingcamango ezimbi kunye nokudala ingxoxo yencoko yangaphakathi kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye kukuxhobisa. Nazi ezinye izixhobo ezinokukunceda utshintshe ukuzithetha okungekho nto kwi-self-talk.