Ukubeka ngokulula, ukuphindaphinda kwakhona kukugqithisa imeko yonyango eyayiphuculwe ngaphambili. Ukuphinda kubuyiselwe kwisilingo xa umntu onomlutha wexesha elidlulileyo eqala ukwenza ukuziphatha kwakhe komlutha kwakhona emva kwexesha lokungawenzi, elibizwa ngokuba yi- abstinence . Umzekelo, umntu oye wagqiba ukusela ixesha elide, uthi, ezintandathu iinyanga, uya kuba nokuphindaphinda xa wayenaso isiselo esinxilisayo esisodwa, nokuba ngaba behamba ngokusela.
Kubantu abazama ukulawula ukuziphatha kwabo kunokuba bazame ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo, ukubuyela kubuya kwenzeka xa umntu ebenokulawula ukuziphatha kodwa aphinde ahlawule ixesha lokuziphatha okungalawulwayo. Ngokomzekelo, umntu ozama ukulawula ukusela kwakhe , owayeselayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokubangela iseshoni yokusela. Ku-shopaholic ozama ukulandela isicwangciso senkcitho, ukuphindaphinda kungahle kwenzeke kwi-spree shopping.
Ziyintoni eziqhelekileyo Ukubuyela kwakhona kwizinto ezithintekayo?
Ukuphindaphinda kuyimpawu yokulutha; Kuqhelekile, kwindelwe ukuba, abantu abazama ukunqoba umlutha baya kuhamba omnye okanye nokuba baphinde baphinde baphinde baphinde bayeke ngaphambi kokuba bayeke ngempumelelo. Ukuphindaphinda kukwacingwa kwisigaba kwiimodeli-zokutshintsha imodeli , eqikelela ukuba abantu baya kujikeleza inkqubo yokuphepha, becinga ukuyeka, ukuthatha amanyathelo asebenzayo ukuyeka kwaye emva koko abuyele.
Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baya kujikeleza ngezigaba eziliqela ngaphambi kokuyeka.
Ngaba Ubuyela Kuphawu Lokungaphumeleli?
Nangona into yokuba kubuyelwa kwakhona yinto ehlonziwe kakuhle yokuphulukana nokuxhatshazwa, abantu abaninzi abazama ukuyeka umlutha baya kuziva ukuba abaphumelelanga xa bephinda bahlaselwa. Basenokushiya imizamo yabo, beva ukuba ukuyeka kwabo kunzima kubo.
Kwaye ezinye iinkqubo zonyango zithatha umgca onzima kubathathi-nxaxheba abaphinda bahlaziya.
Ukwamkela ukuphindaphinda kwinto eqhelekileyo yenkqubo yokubuyiselwa yindlela ekhethekileyo yokujonga ukubuya kwakhona. Abantu kunye neenkqubo zonyango ezithatha le ngcamango ziyaphumelela, kwaye ekugqibeleni, abo bamkelayo kwaye basebenze ukuzama kwakhona emva kokubuyela kuphinda banokugqitywa ekugqibeleni umlutha wabo.
Indlela yokuphendula ngokutsha kwakhona
Oku akuthethi ukuba ukuphindaphinda akufanele kuthathwe ngokungathí sina. Iiprogram zonyango ezifanelekileyo zicwangcise phambili ngenzeka ngokubandakanya ukunqanda ukuphindaphinda njengenxalenye yenkqubo. Ukuthintela ukuthintela kunceda abantu ukuba baphinde balindele izinto ezinokubangela ukuba bazibandakanye ekuziphatheni kwabo izilonda-kwaye baceba phambili kwezi zimo.
Kubalulekile ukuhlala ugxininise ekuhlaleni ngokukhawuleza emva kokubuya kwakhona. Ukucinga ngento ekhokelela ekubuyiseleni kwakhona kuyisinyathelo esibalulekileyo ekukhuseleni ukuba singabikho kwakhona. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba kukho naziphi izinto ezibangela ukuba kwenzeke ngaphambi kokuba kubuyiselwe kwakhona, nokuba kulungile okanye kukubi?
Ngamanye amaxesha, iziganeko ezixinzelelekileyo zingabangela ukuphindaphinda, ngokukodwa ukuba isilathisi okanye ukuziphatha kakubi kwindlela yokujongana noxinzelelo .
Kodwa iziganeko ezivuyisayo zingakhokelela kwakhona, ngakumbi ukuba abanye babhiyozela ngotywala. Kubalulekile ukubeka le ngcamango kwaye uqhubele phambili ekubuyiseni ngokuzibophelela ngamandla ukuphepha ukubuyela emva kwexesha ngokugwema okanye ukulawula izinto ezibangelwa ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke.
Khumbula, ukuba uzama ukuyeka, kufuneka ucebe kwaye uzame ukuphepha. Kodwa ukuba uphinda ubuyeke, kufuneka uvume ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo yokuyeka kwaye uzimisele ukufunda kumava.
Ukubizwa:
rEE-laps
Kwaziwa njenge:
ukuwa kwinqwelo
Iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo:
reelapse
U mzekelo:
Emva kokuyeka izidakamizwa iiveki ezintathu, uJade wayesebenzela kwakhona.