Iikhowudi ezili-12 ze-AA ne-Al-Anon
Inkalo yeenkqubo ezili-12 zokubuyiswa kwamanyathelo yinkxaso yokungabonakali kwabathathi-nxaxheba, kodwa umgaqo uya kunzulu kunokuba ungabonakali amagama okugqibela. Le yiNkolelo ye-12, " Ukungabonakali sisisiseko esingokomoya sawo onke amaKhosi ethu, asikhumbuza ukuba sibeke imigaqo ngaphezu kobuqu."
Ukugcina ugxininiso kwimigqaliselo kunokuba ubuntu, ukungaziwa kwaso kufuneka kugcinwe kuwo onke amanqanaba okuthatha inxaxheba kwintsebenziswano ye-12-intlanganiso-kwiintlanganiso, kwimizuzu yeshumi elinesibini, kunye nangenkxaso.
Ukungaziwa kuyagcinwa kakhulu kunokhuseleko lomntu ngamnye njengokukhuselwa kwenkqubo. Ukuboniswa kwalabo kwiprogram ye-12 kwindlela ekubonelela ngayo umgaqo -siseko wesithethe.
Ayikho Amandla Abantu
U-Maryann udibanisa isiko le-12 kumagama athi, "Akukho mandla omntu onokusikhulula ekudakwa." Uyabhala ukuba akukho mkhulu ongakukhusela ukuba uthathe isiselo sokuqala. Abantu kwi-Alcoholics Abangamaziyo kufuneka baphephe ukubeka umxhasi wabo okanye umeluleki kwi-footestal, kuphela ukubona ukuwa okungenakukugwema. "Le nkqubo 'yinto' ngezizathu ezininzi. Ukumisela umntu kungeyona nje inobungozi kubalandeli kodwa kulandelwa."
Ukuthobeka Okunyanisekileyo
U-Chuck ubhala ukuba uhlobo olude lweNkolelo ye-12 luthi ukungaziwa kuyakhumbuza ilungu ukuba lenze ukuthobeka kwangempela. Xa uhamba entlanganisweni , ushiya "oko ukhona" emnyango uze uhambe "njengokuba ungubani." Oku kuguqulela kwimisebenzi yokungasebenzisi izidima.
Ijaji ayikho "uMhlonipheli" kwintlanganiso. Umbingeleli akayena "uBawo." Bonke bayalingana, kwaye bonke bayisiselo esisodwa ngaphandle kokusela.
"Senza esi sizathu ngezizathu zintathu: ngoko sinokuzibonakalisa ngokwenene ukuthobeka kwangempela, ngoko asizukuzibhokoxa, kwaye ukuze sikwazi ukuhlala sinombulelo engqondweni yethu," kusho uHucck.
Akukho sityebi okanye indoda ehlwempuzekileyo, bonke bayalingana. Ngaba uhambe kangakanani nemfundo yakho, okanye impumelelo yakho ebomini ayikho into enokuyifumana kuyo okanye into ongayinayo kwinkqubo. UMary uthi, "Sonke siyabahlonipha abaphumelele kwiYunivesithi ye-Hard Knocks, sihlala emagxeni."
Imigaqo yokuqala
I-Tradition 12 ithetha ukuba imigaqo yeprojekthi ye-12-nyathelo ifanele ibekwe kuqala, kungekhona noluvo lwaloo mntu. U-Althea uqaphele ukuba kuyilinga ukuphambuka kwimigaqo xa umntu enomkhathalelayo kwaye enentlonelo echaphazelayo. Kodwa ekwenzeni njalo, uvumele imigaqo yakho encinci ihambe, kwaye ke inkqubo ilahlekelwa isiseko sayo esincinane. "Yingakho sifuna ukuba nalo uthando olungenammiselo kwimigaqo-ngoko sinokuthandana ngokungenamthetho." Uthando luvela ekuthatheni ingozi yokuphumla kwimimiselo kunokuba sinikeze kwaye sidlale uThixo. ukuba sikhule kwinyaniso ye-AA yobulumko sibavumela ukuba benze ngokwabo. Kubonakala ngathi luncedo, kodwa kubonakalisa nje ukulimaza nokungazithandi umntu njengoko ku-AA yonke. "
UkuThatha uMyalezo
Ngokungasebenzisi igama lakho lokugqibela, uLyn uyaphawula ukuba le nkqubo ayikho inkqubo engaziwayo, kodwa yinto "yethu".
Kunokuba ube ngumyalezo, uphethe umyalezo . Ngaphandle koko, ukukhathazeka kwakho kusengozini, kwaye kunjalo i-AA yonke.