Yintoni enokuyilindela kumntu othandekayo ophethe umonakalo woMntu woLuntu
Umngcipheko wobuntu borderline (BPD) yisifo esiyinkimbinkimbi yengqondo esichaphazela amadoda namabhinqa. Kanye kunye neemvakalelo ezinzulu kunye neemvakalelo, abantu abane-BPD banokuva nomsindo omkhulu, owaziwa ngokuba ngumsindo. Ukuba unelungu lentsapho okanye othandekayo ophethe i-BPD, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ubudlova bunxulumene njani ne-BPD nokuthi ingalawulwa njani.
Ubuninzi bezoBundlobongela kubantu abaneBPD
Kukho uphando olubonisa ukuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abenzi izenzo zobundlobongela baye baphakamisa amaxabiso omdaka wobuntu benkinga ngokuthelekiswa noluntu jikelele. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba ukuxilongwa kuhambelana nomngcipheko ophezulu wobudlobongela. Ukuziphatha okungabonakaliyo , okubandakanya ulwaphulo oluthile, lunye lweendlela zokuxilonga ze-BPD , nangona umntu enokukwazi ukuhlangabezana neempendulo ze-disorder ngaphandle kokubonisa le mpawu.
Ucwaningo olukhulu lwe-2016 e-UK lufumene ukuba i-BPD yodwa ayizange iphakamise ukuthambekela kobundlobongela, kodwa yabonisa ukuba abo abane-BPD banakho ukuba "baninzi," iimeko ezinxulumene nokuxhalaba, ukukhathazeka komntu kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi. ukuphakamisa ingozi yobundlobongela. Uphando oluchanekileyo lwezifundo ngaloo nyaka luqinisekisile ukufumana okufanayo, ngokungabikho kobungqina bokuba i-BPD yodwa yandisa ukuziphatha kobudlova.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni abantu abaneBPD banokuthi banobundlobongela ubudlelwane babo. Okokuqala, abantu abane-BPD bahlala bexhoba lobundlobongela ngokwabo, njengokuxhaphazwa kwabantwana . Nangona kungenjalo kubo bonke abantu, abaninzi abantu abaneBPD banokufunda ukusebenzisa ulwalamano ukujongana neemvakalelo ezinamandla kuba abantu abadala bahlenga ukuziphatha kwabo xa beselula.
Ukongezelela, abantu abane-BPD bahlala befumana ingqondo engaqinisekanga kunye nobunzima ukuthembela kwabanye kubuhlobo babo. Basenokuvakalelwa kakhulu xa bekholelwa ukuba bayatshatyalaliswa okanye balahliwe; Oku kwaziwa ngokuba yintsilelo yokulahlwa okanye ukushiya ubunzulu. Iimvakalelo ezinzulu zokugatywa zidla ngamanye amaxesha zikhokelela ekuziphatheni okubi.
Ekugqibeleni, abantu abane-BPD banamaxesha amanzima ubunzima bokuziphatha. Xa bafumana iimvakalelo ezinamandla eziqhelekileyo zengxaki, bangenza izinto ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo. Ukuba ababandakanya ubudlova, ngokuqhelekileyo akucetywanga. Yenza isenzo esingathandabuzeki esenziwa ngokushisa komzuzu.
Ngaba Umthandwa Wami Uya Kucula?
Ingcaciso engentla ihlinzeka ngolwazi ngokubanzi malunga nekhonkco phakathi kwemingcipheko yobuntu kunye nobundlobongela; akunakwenzeka ukuqikelela ukuba umntu othile kunye ne-BPD uya kubundlobongela. Ukuba wakho umthandayo akabonanga naluphi na utyhaphalo okanye ugonyamelo, kunokwenzeka ukuba akayi kubundlobongela. Izigulane ezininzi zeBPD azizange zenze izenzo zobudlova ebomini babo.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba uvakalelwa usongelo, nangona kungekho bulwaphulo oluye lwaba luhlobo lwakho , kufuneka uthabathe ngokungqongqo.
Ukuba sele usuziva ungakhuselekanga, kwenzeka ukuba imeko ikwazi ukunyuka kwinqanaba lobundlobongela. Kufuneka uqikelele ukufika kwindawo ephephile kude nelo mthandayo, nokuba oko kuthetha ukufumana ihotele okanye ukuhlala kunye nabahlobo. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhuselekile ngaphambi kokuzama ukunceda umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho ukuba uncede.
Xa usukhuselekile, ukubethelwa kwakho kukugqwesa kukufumana uncedo lwezonyango ngokusebenzisa unyango onguchwepheshe weBPD. Oku kunokukunceda ukuba uhlolisise ukuba ngaba ulwalamano lunokuphuculwa kwaye lunokuthintela ulwalamlo olwenzekayo kwixesha elizayo. Unyango lunokukunceda ukuba unqume ukuba ngaba ulwalamano olufanelekileyo lufanelekile ukusebenza.Umgulana unokuphinda ukhuthaze inkqubo yokonyango ukunceda wakho umthandayo ukuba angene endleleni yokubuyisela.
Ukulungiswa Ngaphambili Xa unayo i-BPD
Ukuba ukuxilongwa kwe-BPD kungekuphela nje kunokunyusa ingozi yobundlobongela kwabanye kodwa ngokumelene nokuzimela. Iingcamango zokuzibulala kunye nokulimaza kwakho-zifana nje ezinzulu njengokuba zilimaza abanye. Abanye abaphengululi bancomela ukuba abantu bazalise icebo lokhuseleko lomngcipheko wobuntu . Isicwangciso sokhuseleko sinokukunceda nje kuphela ekulungiseleleni iingcamango ezinobundlobongela okanye ukuzibulala kodwa kunokukunceda ukuba ubone iziphumo ebomini bakho bemihla ngemihla.
Imithombo:
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