Ukuhamba ngokucokisekileyo kunye nokwakha izakhono ezingqondweni kunokuba zixhobo ezibalulekileyo kunye ne-BPD
Siyazi ukuba ingqondo ingaba sisixhobo esinamandla sokunciphisa iimpawu zomngcipheko wobuntu bomda (BPD). Enyanisweni, ingqondo iyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yonyango yokuziphatha ( dialectical treatment) (DBT), enye yeendlela zokwelapha eziphambili ze-BPD.
Indlela Yokusebenzisa Ukuhamba Ngengqondo
Ukuhamba ngokucokisekileyo yindlela enye yokukhuthaza izakhono ezingqondweni ngaphandle kokuthatha ixesha lokusebenza ngokusemthethweni okanye ukufuna izinga eliphezulu lezemidlalo okanye ukufaneleka.
Zama lo msebenzi olula ukukhuthaza ukuhamba ngokucokisekileyo, ephefumlelwe yincwadi kaThich Nhat Hahn Incwadi Yonke Isinyathelo: Indlela Yengqiqo Kwimihla Yemihla ngemihla , enika imizekelo emininzi yokufaka ingqiqo kwimisebenzi osuyenzayo yonke imihla:
- Okokuqala, faka injongo yakho ukuhamba ngengqondo. Thatha ukuphefumula okumbalwa, kwaye qaphela ukuba ngexesha lokuhamba kwakho uya kuzama ukuqaphela imeko yakho kunye noluntu lwangaphakathi, kubandakanye iingcamango zakho, iimvakalelo, kunye nemizwa. Akukho migaqo emiselweyo yokuhamba kwaye iya kwenziwa kwiphina indawo. Enoba kusepaki yendawo okanye kufuphi nommandla wakho, unokwenza ukuqikelela ukuhamba naphi na.
- Njengoko uqala ukuhamba, qala uqaphele ukuvakalelwa kweenyawo zakho ukubetha umhlaba ukukunceda ukuba ugxile kwaye ugxile. Qaphela inkqubo yokuhambisa imilenze yakho. Ziziphi izihlunu ezinomthi okanye ziphumle xa uhamba? Isaziso apho uhamba khona, umgangatho wenyathelo ngalinye, ubunzulu beemeko zakho kunye nokuziva komhlaba phantsi kweenyawo zakho okanye izicathulo.
- Ukwandisa ulwazi lwakho ukuze uqaphele ukusingqongileyo. Njengoko uhamba, ubona ntoni, ukuvumba, ukuva, ukuva kunye nokuziva? Uvakalelwa njani emoyeni kwesikhumba? Uyabona ntoni kuwe? Cinga ngezinto ozibonayo, yiva kwaye uphefe njengoko uhamba.
- Zama ukuhlala uqaphela indlela ohamba ngayo kunye neemeko zangaphandle ngeli xesha uyazi kwakhona ngamava akho angaphakathi, njengengcamango yakho, iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo.
Ziziphi iingcamango eziwela ingqondo yakho xa uhamba? Yiyiphi imvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo ezikhoyo khona ngoku? Ngaba banamandla okanye banobumnene? Ngaba la mava angaphakathi angakuchukumisa okanye ungayibona ngokuncinane? Asikho isidingo sokugweba la mava angaphakathi njengelungileyo okanye embi; ziqhelise nje ukuba ziqaphele ukuba ziphi.
- Njengoko ugqiba ukuhamba kwakho, sihalalisele ngenjongo yakho yokwenza ukuqikelela ukuhamba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kaninzi kangakanani ingqondo yakho yaxoshwa ekuhambeni okanye indlela "kakuhle" ocinga ngayo indlela oyenzayo ngayo namhlanje. Qaphela nje ukuba injongo yokukhumbula iyona nto ebalulekileyo ekusebenzeni nasekuziphatheni kumqolo.
Ukuba naluphi na ixesha ngexesha lokuhamba kwakho uqaphela ingqondo yakho ejikelezayo kwixesha elidlulileyo okanye elizayo okanye elususwe ekuhambeni, vumelani ngokucokisekileyo ukuba ingqondo yakho ilahlekile kwaye ibuyiselwe kumzuzu wamanje. Khumbula ukuba ukutsalwa kunye nokubuyela kwakhona kukubalulekileyo ekusebenzeni kwengqondo. Akukho mntu ugxininise ngokupheleleyo ngexesha lonke.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhamba ngokucokisekileyo kunokunceda uvuselele iimvakalelo zakho. Njengoko ubeka isimiso sakho, unokufumana ukuba ukuhamba kwakho kukunceda ukulawula iimpawu zakho.