Kutheni Iingxaki Zithinta Abantu Ngokuhlukileyo?

Nanku Yintoni Eyenza Iimiphumo Zengcinezelo Eyingqayizivele

Ngaba uke waphawula ukuba abanye abantu babonakala bephumelela kwiingxabano, ngelixa abanye bexakeka nangona utshintsho oluhle ebomini babo? Ukuxinezeleka kukuba ngamava kakhulu. Nangona baninzi bethu bagxininiswa ngezinto ezifanayo - imisebenzi, imali, ukuxhatshazwa, ukuxabana kobudlelwane - abantu abahlukeneyo bangasabela ngokuthe ngqo kwiimeko ezifanayo nangaphantsi kwezona zizathu:

Ulwahlulo kwiiNkonzo

Enye into eyamkelwe ngokubanzi yenkxalabo kukuba yinto eyenzekayo xa iimfuno ezifunyenweyo zeemeko zingaphezu kwezinto ezifumanekayo. Oku kubangela ukuba abantu bazibonele besongela, okubangela ukuba ukunyamezela komzimba kunye namava "okugxininiswa." Ngoko ke, izinga lezinto ezifumanekayo ezikhoyo ziyakwenza umehluko omkhulu nokuba umntu ufumana uxinzelelo kwiimeko ezithile. Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba "izibonelelo" zibhekisela kwizinto zangaphandle ezifana nokuncediswa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kwabanye, imali kunye nezinye izinto eziphathekayo, kunye nezinto zangaphakathi ezifana nolwazi, amava kunye nesibindi. Ukwahlukana kwezibonelelo ezifumanekayo kuyona nto ebalulekileyo ukuba kutheni abantu ababini banokujamelana neemeko ezifanayo kunye namava ngokwahlukileyo.

Ulwahlukileyo kwiPhysics

Abanye abantu banomdla kakhulu kwaye banokuphefumula.

Ukwahlukana kwimizimba, ukuqokelela iimpawu zobuntu ezingazalwa ezingabonakali ukususela ebusheni, kunokubangela ukuba abantu abathile bahlale bexakeke xa bejamelene nokuxinezeleka xa abanye beziva besongelwa kwaye bangakwazi ukuhlangabezana nangoko. (Funda le ngcezu kwi- self-sabotage ngolwazi oluthe ngqo kuloo nto.) Nangona singenakuguqula isimo sengqondo esizalelwe ngayo, sinokukwazi ngakumbi iziganeko zethu kwaye sizisebenze ngokuzakhela izakhono ezingahlawulela ezithile ukuvakalelwa, okanye ukuseka indlela yethu yokuphila ukuze kuncitshiswe ezinye izinto ezibangela uxinzelelo.

Ukwahlukana Kwintsimi Ehlanganisana Neemeko

Enye into echaphazela ukuba ingaba imeko ibonakala "ingcinezelo" ithetha ukuba abantu bafumana kwiimeko. Ukuba nomoya wokulawula kwimeko, umzekelo, unokukwenza uzive ungasongela kwaye uxhobisa ngakumbi. (Cinga ngabantu abanempahla encinane kakhulu ngenxa yokuba bakhetha indlela yokuphila yokuzikhethela ngokuzithandela ngokumalunga nalabo bancinane kakhulu ngenxa yokuba baye balahlekelwa ezininzi zezinto zabo kwiimeko eziphantsi koqoqosho olubi.) Ukujonga imeko efanayo "nomngeni" endaweni "usongelo" lunokukwenza ukuba amava anokubandezeleka abe namandla kunokuba athathwe. (Cinga ukwenza umsebenzi osebenzisa iitalente kunye nobuchule bakho ngokubhekiselele kumsebenzi ongeyithandabuzo okanye unzima kakhulu - akunakuzihlula?) Ukuhlakulela isimo sengqondo sokubonga kunokukunceda ubone ukufumana inzuzo kwimeko ngaphandle kweengxaki kuphela. (Abantu abaninzi bathetha 'ngokukhangela isipho' kwintlekele.)

Kuthetha ukuthini oku kuwe, ngakumbi ukuba ungumntu ogxininiswa ngokulula? Enye into, unokufikelela ekulawuleni uxinzelelo kuzo zonke iindile ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo:

• Yakha I zixhobo Zakho
  1. Yakha ubuhlobo obuqinileyo , ngoko uya kuba nenkxaso enkulu yoluntu ngexesha loxinzelelo.
  2. Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ngokwexesha kunye nemali , ngoko ke uya kuba neendawo ezithile zokulondolozwa kwimeko yengxamiseko.
  3. Zama ukuba "nesicwangciso B" xa kwenzeka izinto zingalunganga. Oku akuthethi ukuba uhlala ucinga ukuba imeko enzima kakhulu yenzeke okanye ukuba "isicwangciso A" sakho senzelwe ukusilela, kodwa kunokuba ulungele nantoni na.

• Yakha Ukuzinza Kwakho
  1. Thetha kumhlobo othembekileyo ngexesha leengxaki, ukufumana inkxaso nenkxaso.
  2. Zinike ixesha lokucwangcisa okwenzekayo ebomini bakho (nge- journaling , umzekelo) ngaphambi kokukhawuleza ukuphendula. Kunceda (kodwa kungabalulekanga ngokupheleleyo) ukuba ujolise ngokomoya okusebenza kuwe.
  3. Iindlela ezithile zokulawula uxinzelelo (njengokucamngca kunye nokuzilolonga , umzekelo) kunokwakha ukuqina kwakho ebusweni bexinzelelo ezizayo. Zama.
• Sitshintsha indlela Ujonga ngayo Ubomi
  1. Sebenzela ukuhlakulela ukuhlaziywa ngezinto.
  2. Ziqhelanisa ukubona ihlabathi njengethemba.
  3. Zama ezinye iindlela zokurhoxisa .