Iikhowudi ezili-12 zezoNxila ezingabonakaliyo kunye no-Al-Anon
Xa usebenzisana namajelo eendaba, izithethe zeeprogram ezili-12 zicela ukuba amalungu alondoloze ukungaziwa , kungekhona kakhulu ukukhusela kwabo, kodwa ngenxa yokubambisana ngokupheleleyo.
I-Tradition 11 yoTywala engaziwayo (AA) ithi, "Umgaqo-nkqubo wethu wobudlelwane baseburhulumenteni usekelwe ekuthandweni kunokuba kukhuthazwe; kufuneka sihlale sisigxina kwi-press, kwi-rediyo nakwiifilimu." U-Anon ubandakanya ukudibanisa, "Sifuna ukulondolozwa ngononophelo olukhethekileyo ukungabonakali kwamalungu onke AA."
Ukungasebenzisi Amagama Apheleleyo okanye Amagama Egama
Xa bexubusha ngokubuyiselwa kwabo ngamajelo, amalungu athatyathwa ngamagama abo apheleleyo-njengolu hlobo lwaba sele beyaziwayo kumajelo-asenokuthi afune ukuchonga igama elithile leqela labo elilambileyo eli-12. Ukuba amalungu anqwenela ukuxubusha inzuzo yobulungu kwiqela elithile le-12, njenge-Al-Anon okanye i-Alcoholics engaziwa, ke akufanele bazibonele ngaphandle kwegama elilodwa kuphela.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uJohn Doe usebenzisa igama lakhe elipheleleyo kwingxoxo-ngxoxo, akafanele athi igama lakhe lokubuyisela. Mhlawumbi unokuthi uthi "useqeleni lokubuyisela." Ukuba ufuna ukuxubusha uAl-Anon okanye i-AA ngamagama, kufuneka azive yena njengoJohn D.
Oku kungabonakali kukuhle kobudlelwane kunokukhusela ukuba ngubani ilungu. Umzekelo unikezwa ngumdlali owaziwayo okanye umabonwakude-umzekelo owenzela ulutsha-oya kubuyiselwa aze amemezele kwihlabathi lonke ukuba i-AA igcine ubomi bakhe.
Yintoni eyenzekayo xa loo mntu ebuyela kwakhona? Iintsana zicinga ukuba i-AA ayinasiphelo kwaye ingaba lula ukuba ifune xa ifuna ukufuna ingqiqo.
Kodwa iNkolelo ye-11 nayo yaveliswa ngabacebisi beeprogram ezili-12 ukuze kuphephe ezinye iimeko ezinokulimaza.
Ukukhuthazwa okungafunwa
I-AA ilungu le-Alethea liyabonisa ukuba ukukhuthazwa kuvumela abantu bangaphandle ukuba batshintshe umyalezo, kangangokuthi i-insiders ngoku iva umyalezo ohlukile.
Umyalezo wokuqala wokuba "siphucule" sele "izinto ziba ngcono." Amaziko angaphandle athi akukhathazeki ukuba yiyiphi inqanaba le-12 eliya kuzo zonke ezifanayo. Sekunjalo inkxaso yokusetyenziswa kwezidakamizwa iya kufikelela kwiintlanganiso ze-AA ezixakisayo azifani noko uza kufumana kwiNkathazo engaziwayo kunye nezinye izilonda.
Umtsalane, Akukhuthazi
Injongo yamaqela angama-12 amanyathelo ilungu elinye ukuncedisa omnye kunye nokuba noxanduva lokukhangwa kwiprogram. Ilungu alinakuliphelisa lo xanduva kumkhankaso okanye kwiprogram yokukhuthaza.
U-Althea uthi, "Ngokutshintsha indlela esibukeka ngayo, indlela esinxibelelana ngayo, ukugqoka kunye nokuziphatha kwethu ngaphakathi namagumbi ase-AA-leyo inxenye yokuphatha umyalezo kwakhona, ukuvumela abantu babone umehluko wokuthi lo mhlaba uphila ngayo Usebenze ebomini bethu Xa abantu bebona iinguqu ezine kwizinto-zethu zengqondo-ngokwengqondo, ngokwenyama, nangokomoya-ziyakhangwa, azidinga ukukhuthazwa, le nkqubo yabantu abayifunayo. oko bacinga ukuba silapha. Masibe silulungele xa uxinzelelo olunxilisayo lukulungele ukuvula umnyango kwaye simbonise into esiyiyo. "
Ukukhusela Ukungaziwa kwaMalungu AA
Ilungu le-Al-Anon Lin libonisa ukuba ukungaziwa kubangela ukuba abantu bazive bekhuselekile ukuba bathethe izinto ezisentliziyweni yabo nasezingqondweni zabo.
"Inyaniso yokuba isekelwe ekukhangekeni kum abantu bathanda ukutshintsha kwangaphandle kwakho ngenxa yenguqu yangaphakathi kuwe." Uxabisa inxalenye eyongeziweyo kwisiko se -Al-Anon sokukhusela ukungaziwa kwelungu le-AA. "Ukuba uyayazi umntu othile ukusela ngenxa yokuba isihlobo sakhe sisentlanganisweni awudingi ukuyixelela. Yingakho ukungaziwa kuyasebenza."