Iziganeko ezili-12 ze-AA kunye ne-Al-Anon
Ukugqibela kweeNtshukumo ezili- 12 kukuthwala umyalezo kwabanye kwaye ubeke imigaqo yenkqubo kusebenza kuyo yonke indawo yobomi bakho. Kwala mankqubo aphuculayo, isenzo seSigaba 12 sisona nje "indlela esisebenza ngayo," njengokuba abasunguli bobudlelwane bazitholela zona ngaloo ntsuku zokuqala.
Isinyathelo 12
Xa sasivuswa ngokomoya njengesiphumo saloo Minyathelo, sazama ukuhambisa esi sigidimi kwiinxila, kwaye senze le migaqo kwimicimbi yethu yonke.
Njengoko imbali yezoNxila ezingabonakaliyo ibonakalisa ngokucacileyo, yayisebenza nabanye ababesengxakeke bagcina uBill W. noDkt Bob sober. Imigaqo efanayo yinyaniso kuwo wonke amalungu amacandelo angama-12: "ukuyigcina kufuneka ubenike."
Ku- Al-Anon , isinyathelo sifunda siyazama ukuthwala umyalezo "kwabanye" kunye naseNxilweni engabonakaliyo ithi "kwizidakwa." Umgaqo ufana. Ukuze usebenze onke amanyathelo angama-12, kufuneka uzame ukunceda abanye.
Ukuthwala umyalezo kwabanye, ngokukwabelana ngamava, amandla kunye nethemba kuyomeleza umgaqo-komoya wezinyathelo ezilishumi elinesibini kumntu obengu-12-ohamba phambili kunye nalowo owenza ukwabelana. Ukuba akukho mntu wenzayo nawuphi na umsebenzi we-12 wesinyathelo, le nkqubo iya kuphelisa ukuba ikhona. Ngaphandle komsebenzi wenkonzo walabo bafika ngaphambili, akukho namalungu aya kuba apha ngoku.
Kodwa isinyathelo se-12 sinxusa amalungu ukuba afake ukukhula kokomoya abaye bafumana ukuba basebenze kuphela kwimibutho kodwa zonke iinkalo zobomi babo-ukwenza le migaqo kuyo yonke imicimbi yakho.
Le nto yenza isinyathelo esine-12 "umsebenzi" kwaye yenza inkqubo isebenze enye yokukhanga kwaye ayiyikunyuswa. Kwabaninzi kumanyathelo abambini-12, ukusebenza isinyathelo se-12 kusebenza nje.
Ukuphila Ukuze Ukuncede
Yeka uqaphele ukuba xa wenza umnxeba ku-AA, babesemnyango ngemini eyi-15. Njengomtsha, uza kuba kwi-club ye-AA xa ifowuni ibhala kwaye amalungu aya kukhwela ukuphendula kwaye asebenze ukuze ahambe kwi-call-step-call.
Emva kokuba esichengile ngokukhawuleza, umxhasi wakhe wayeza kumthabatha ngee-12.
Xa waqala ukwenza i-12th-step-step calls on himself, wafumana ukuba wayebandakanyeka kakhulu kwaye akukho mntu wayekhonzayo wayengenangqondo. Umxhasi wakhe wayenomxholo omde kunye naye ukuba achaze ukuba wayezama ukugcina ihlabathi kwaye kufuneka akhumbule ukuthwala umyalezo, kungekhona umzimba. Wafunda ukuba wayengenakuyikhathaza ihlabathi lonke kwaye konke akwazi ukukwenza kwakuwukuba kuthwale umyalezo, abanye bafikelele kunxilisayo.
Wafumanisa ukuba ukulandelelwa yingxenye ebalulekileyo yefowuni ye-12. Ukubiza umntu ngemihla embalwa ukubona ukuba bafuna ukuya kwintlanganiso kunye nawe kubonisa ukuba ungokoqobo.
Ukubeka Umzekelo
U-Sox wafumanisa ukuba umsebenzi we-12 wesinyathelo wawungekho nje ukuphuma ukukunceda umntu osoloko ehlupheka. Kwakhona kwakuquka nje ukuya kwiintlanganiso kwaye kubonwa khona; ukwenza ikhofi; uthetha ngeengxelo; esithi "ewe" xa kucelwa ukuba wenze umsebenzi wenkonzo okanye uthethe kwintlanganiso; umrhumo wokunikezela ukukhwela abo bangenakuya kwintlanganiso; Ngomfutshane, umsebenzi we-12 wesinyathelo unomzekelo wokubeka umzekelo.
Ukuphepha Ukuxhobisa
Umngeni omnye weNyathelo le-12 uphephe impazamo yokuphatha utywala kunokuba uthwale umyalezo.
Ngamafutshane, ungasindisi utywala njengokuba umonakalisa ngexesha elide.
Ikhasi 96 leNcwadi eNkulu ithi. "Unokuthi unqabile kwaye ungenamakhaya." Ukuba kunjalo, unokuzama ukumnceda malunga nokufumana umsebenzi okanye ukumnika uncedo oluncinane lwemali. Kodwa akufanele unqande intsapho yakho okanye ababolekisi bemali abafanele babe nayo. Mhlawumbi uya kufuna ukuba uthathe loo mntu endlwini yakho iintsuku ezimbalwa. Kodwa qiniseka ukuba usebenzisa ingqiqo. Qiniseka ukuba uya kwamkelwa yintsapho yakho, kwaye akazami ukunyanzelisa imali, uxhumano okanye indawo yokuhlala. Uyamlimaza nje kuphela. Uza kwenza ukuba akwazi ukunyaniseka.
Unokuba uncedo ekutshatyalaliswa kwakhe kunokuba abuyele. "