Ezi zinto zinokunyusa ukuziphatha kokunceda
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zakuba nomdla ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni naxa sinceda abanye abantu. Kuye kwaba nenani elikhulu elinomdla kwizizathu zokuba ngezinye izihlandlo singabancedi abanye. Isiphumo sokumelana nento yentlalo eyenzekayo xa abantu behluleka ukunceda abo baneemfuno ngenxa yobungqina babantu. Kwiimeko ezininzi, abantu banomuvo wokuthi ekubeni kukho nabanye abantu, ngokuqinisekileyo omnye umntu uya kukhwela kwisenzo.
Izinto ezinokunceda ukunqoba umPhumela wokuLungisa
Nangona umphumo wokumelana nawo unokuba nempembelelo engalunganga ekuziphatheni komntu, ukunyaniseka kunye nobuqhawe , abaphandi baye bafumanisa izinto ezininzi eza kunceda abantu banqobe lo mkhuba kwaye bandise amathuba okuba bahlanganyele ekuncedeni ukuziphatha. Ezinye zezi ziquka:
1. Ukunikela ubungqina bokuziphatha
Ngamanye amaxesha ukubona abanye abantu besenza into enomusa okanye kunceda kusenza sikulungele ukunceda abanye. Khawucinge ukuba uhamba kwivenkile enkulu yesebe. Emnyango kungumngceli wentsimbi ecela iminikelo kwinkampani encedo. Uyabona ukuba abaninzi abantu abahambahambayo bayeka ukuyeka utshintsho lwabo kwibhakethi lomnikelo. Ngenxa yoko, unokuba uzive uphefumlelweyo ukuyeka kwaye unikezele utshintsho lwakho. Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba xa sibona abanye abantu abaziphatha ngokuziphatha, njengokunikela ngegazi, sinako ukwenza okufanayo.
2. Ukuqwalasela
Esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo abantu abahlala behluleka ukuthatha inyathelo xa kunceda uncedo ukuba abaqapheli okwenzekayo kude kube sekwephuzile. Iimeko ezinobungozi zingenza kube nzima ukunquma ukuba uncedo luyimfuneko ngokwenene. Kwesinye uvavanyo oludumile, abathathi-nxaxheba babengenakukwazi ukuphendula xa umsi uqala ukuzalisa igumbi xa abanye abantu begumbi behlulekile ukuphendula.
Ekubeni kungekho mntu uthatha inyathelo, abantu babecinga ukuba akufuneki kubekho ingxamiseko. Kunokuba uthembele kuphela kwiimpendulo zabakujikelezile, ukuhlala uqaphele kwaye uhambelane nale meko kunokukunceda ukuba wenze isigqibo sokuba usabele njani.
3. Ukuba noLwazi kunye nolwazi
Xa ubhekene nesimo sengxamisekileyo, ukwazi ukuba wenze ntoni kakhulu kwandisa amathuba okuba umntu athathe isenzo. Ungayisebenzisa njani loo nto ebomini bakho? Nangona ngokuqinisekileyo awukwazi ukulungelelanisa zonke iziganeko ezinokuthi zenzeke, ukuthatha iiklasi zokuqala kunye nokufumana uqeqesho lweCPR kunokukunceda uzive ufanelekile kwaye uzilungiselele ukujongana neendlela ezinokukhawuleza.
4. Ukuthotywa
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba iimvakalelo zetyala zihlala zikhupha ekuncedeni ukuziphatha. Obizwa ngokuthi " usindiswa yecala " ngumzekelo omnye. Ukulandela ukuhlaselwa kwabangqongqangi be-9/11, abanye abantu abaye basinda kulo mcimbi baziva beqhutywe ukuba bancede abanye emva koko.
5. Ukuba nobuhlobo bomntu
Abaphandi baye bazi ixesha elide lokuba sinokubanceda abantu esibaziyo ngabanye. Kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo, abantu abanenkathazo banokunceda ukuhlakulela iimpendulo ezenziwe ngabanye nakwamanye amazwe ngokuthatha amanyathelo ambalwa abalulekileyo.
Ukuziphatha okulula njengokuba udibanisa amehlo kunye nokuthetha ezincinci kunokunyusa amathuba okuba umntu uza kukunceda.
Ngoko ukuba unenkathazo, unokube ulungele ukukhupha umntu ngaphandle kwesihlwele, ubenxibelelana kwamehlo, kwaye ucela ngokukhawuleza uncedo kunokuba ucelele ngokubanzi kwiqela.
6. Ukubona abanye befanelwe Uncedo
Abantu banokuthi bancede abanye xa bacinga ukuba umntu ufanelekile. Kwisifundo esithile seklasini, abathathi-nxaxheba babekho amathuba okuba banike imali kumntu ongaqhelekanga ukuba bakholelwa ukuba i-wallet yomntu yayibiwe kunokuba loo mntu wayesebenzisa yonke imali yakhe.
Oku kunokuba uchaze ukuba kutheni abanye abantu bekulungele ukunika imali abantu abangenamakhaya xa abanye bengekho.
Abo bakholelwa ukuba abantu abangenamakhaya basesimweni sabo ngenxa yobuvila okanye ukungathandi ukwenza umsebenzi abanako ukunika imali ngelixa abo bakholelwa ukuba abo bantu banelungelo lokwenene uncedo banokukunceda.
7. Ukuziva Ulungile
Abaphandi baye bafumanisa ukuba ukuziva kakuhle ngathi sinokubangela inxaxheba ekuziphatheni komzimba. Abantu abonwabileyo okanye abaphumelelayo banako ukuboleka uncedo, kwaye kunye neziganeko ezincinci zingabangela iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Ukuva ingoma yakho oyithandayo kwi-radiyo, ukuzonwabisa ngexesha elifudumeleyo lehlobo, okanye ukugqiba ngempumelelo umsebenzi obalulekileyo emsebenzini, kunokushiya uzive uvuyayo kwaye unakho ukukwazi ukunceda omnye umntu osweleyo. Oku kudla ngokuba kuthiwa "uzive kakuhle, yenza okulungileyo".
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