Indlela yokwabelana ngesifo sakho kunye nabahlobo kunye nosapho
Kungaba nzima kubantu abaneengxaki zengcinezelo yokuhamba kwengxaki (post-traumatic disorder disorder) (i-PTSD) ukwabelana ngeendaba zokuxilongwa kwabo kwabanye, kodwa akufuneki ukuba. Nangona abantu abane-PTSD abayidingi ukuchaza ukuxilongwa kwabo kunoma ubani kunye nomntu wonke, kubalulekile ukuba ungagcini imeko kubathandekayo. Emva kwakho konke, abathandekayo bakho banokubona iimpawu zesifo kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo.
Ngaphezu koko, abathandekayo banokuba ngumthombo ogqwesileyo wokuxhaswa kwezenhlalakahle, oye wafunyanwa waba luncedo olukhulu kakhulu kubantu abanePTSD . Inkxaso yoluntu inokukhawulezisa ukubuyisela kwi-PTSD kwaye uncede umntu anqobe iziphumo zesiganeko esibuhlungu .
Sekunjalo, ukuxelela abanye malunga nokuxilongwa kwe-PTSD kunokubangela uxinzelelo. Funda indlela engcono yokuphula iindaba ngeengcebiso ezilandelayo.
Funda malunga nokuxilongwa kwe-PTSD
Ngaphambi kokuba utshele nabani malunga nokuxilongwa kwe-PTSD, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ukuxilongwa ngokwakho. Funda ngokubanzi njengoko unako malunga ne-PTSD, edlalwa ngokungaqondakaliyo. Kunokwenzeka ukuba abathandekayo bakho banemibuzo emininzi malunga nePTSD. Qinisekisa ukuba unokukwazi ukujongana nale mibuzo okanye, ubuncinci, ubakhokele kwizixhobo ukuze uphendule imibuzo yabo.
Abanye abantu bakufumana kukunceda ukuphrinta ulwazi oluchaza iimpawu ze-PTSD kunye nolwazi olubalulekileyo ngaphambi kwexesha.
Ngale ndlela abanako ukwabelana kuphela ngezinto abazivelayo, kodwa banike abathandekayo babo into ekhonkco yokuqhubeka nokufunda nokucinga emva kwengxoxo.
Ukuchonga Abantu Abathembayo Nawabanika Uncedo
Awudingi ukuxelela wonke umntu ngePTSD yakho. Yabelana ngolwazi nalabo bantu abaya kuba nokuqonda, abathembekileyo, abangenakugwetywa, kunye nokuxhasa.
Ngamanye amazwi, musa ukwabelana ngeendaba kunye neentsapho zokuhleba okanye umntu obathandayo unokugxekisa malunga neengxaki. Nabani na onomlando weendlela ezinjalo ezinobungozi kufuneka apheliswe kwiluhlu lwabantu abayimfihlo.
(Unokuba ufuna ukuphonononga ezinye zeentlobo zezihlobo ezinobuthi kwaye ufunde ezinye iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuphepha abantu abanobuthi ebomini bakho. Abantu abanetyhefu abayikuhlawula kuphela intlonipho ehloniphekileyo yokuba nenxaxheba kwiimvakalelo zakho ezinzulu, kodwa ixesha kude nobuhlobo obuhle obunokukunceda uphilise.)
Beka ixesha elide lokuxelela abanye
Emva kokuba uqaphele abantu oya kubaxelela malunga nokuxilongwa kwe-PTSD, qiniseka ukuba ubeke eceleni ixesha elifanelekileyo lokwenza njalo. Zivumele ixesha elifunekayo ukukwabelana ngokuxilongwa, iingxaki kunye nazo zonke. Cinga ukuba umntu othethayo unokusabela ngeengqondo kwiindaba, ngoko qi ni sekise ukuba wenze ukudalulwa kwindawo kunye nexesha elingenakucinezela kuwe.
Mema umngane ngaphezu kweti. Thatha ilungu lentsapho ukuhlwa. Ufuna ukumisela imeko apho unengqalelo yomntu ongenanto.
Khetha okuya kutyhila
Awudingi ukuxelela abo bathandekayo yonke into. Umzekelo, akudingeki ukuba uchaze ulwazi oluthile okanye iinkcukacha ezithile malunga nesiganeko sakho esibuhlungu.
Ulawulo: into ekuchazayo iphelele kuwe. Nika ulwazi olwaneleyo ukuqonda ukuxilongwa kunye noko banokukwenza ukunceda.
Ukuba umntu ekubuza umbuzo ongenakukhathazeka awufuni ukuwuphendula, kulungile ukuba uthi, "Ndiyaxolisa, kodwa andikulungele ukuthetha ngoku." Lungiselela kwangaphambili ngokuza nezinto ezithile onokuthi xa umntu ekubuza umbuzo ongafuni ukuphendula. Unokusigxeka apha xa kuyimfuneko, usicaphune njengoko uthi akudingeki ukuba uthethe ngezo nkcukacha ngoku, okanye nanini na kwixesha elizayo. (Unokuziva unobungozi kakhulu njengoko uhlangabezana ne-PTSD, kwaye kufuneka ukuba wazi ukuba abantu banomqolo wakho.) Abahlobo bakho kunye namalungu entsapho abaya kukuxhasa baya kukhululeka ngempendulo.
Umhlobo oyinyaniso uya kufuna ukukuxhasa kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imbali emva kweempawu zakho.
Ukuphelisa Ukudideka NgePTSD
Yilungele ukunika umhlobo wakho okanye ilungu lentsapho isiseko kwi-PTSD. Batshele ukuba ziphi iimpawu eziqhelekileyo kwiPTSD kwaye kutheni. Ukuba uxelela umntu oza kukunika inkxaso ngenkxaso yoluntu, kubalulekile ukuba banesiseko esihle solwazi kwi-PTSD. Kufuneka baqonde ukuba kutheni iimpawu ezithile kunye neziphathamandla ezibonakalayo, ukuba zibukeka njani kwaye zinokuqwalaselwa njani.
Thetha nabanye ngePTSD
Ukuba uyazi abanye abantu abane-PTSD, bathethe nabo ukuze babone indlela abavakalisa ngayo ukuxilongwa kwabo bathandekayo. Yintoni eyabasebenza kakuhle kubo? Baya kuyenza ntoni ngokungafaniyo ukuba bekufuneka benze kwakhona? Unokufumana ulwazi oluthile olubalulekileyo kumava abanye nge-PTSD okanye abaya kuvela kwi-PTSD. Kukho amaqela amankxaso kunye noluntu lwenkxaso yoluntu kubantu abahlala nePTSD. Kungathatha ixesha elifutshane ukufumana iqela elungileyo, kodwa xa usenzayo, iqela lingasisiseko esihle. Chukumisa isiseko uze ubuze. Abanye abahambe ngale ndlela baya kuba neengcamango ezininzi zokukunceda njengoko ukwabelana ngesifo sakho, ukuba umntu ongahambanga loo ndlela akaze azi.
Zilungiselele Kwimeko Ayiqondi
Ekugqibeleni, zilungiselele ukuba kungenzeka ukuba umntu akanakuxhasa okanye ukuqonda oko uhambayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abanakho ukulungele ukuva oko kufuneka ubaxelele. Oku kunokuba lunzima ukuhlangabezana nalo, kwaye unako ukukwenza unentloni okanye uhlazeke.
Kungakukhusela ukuba ufune inkxaso evela kwabanye. Ngaphambi kokuba uxelele nabani malunga ne-PTSD yakho, qiniseka ukuba unamakhono okulungisa ukulungele ukujongana nokuba kungenzeka ukuba umntu angakunikeli impendulo oyifunayo.
Gcina ukhumbule ukuba abanye abantu, mhlawumbi abo basondele kuwe ukuba ufuna ukuqonda, akasoze. Oko akuthethi ukuba ngabantu ababi. Abo bangakhange bafumane i-PTSD okanye nantoni na kufuphi nePTSD abanakuze baqonde. Musa ukulibala ukuba kukho indawo enkulu yabantu apho baya kuqonda. Oko akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukushiya abo basondele kuwe. Sidla ngokudinga izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abahlukeneyo, kwaye kule ndawo, unokufuna ukufumana inkxaso yakho kwabanye abaye bajamelana nemingeni efana neyokuba bayayiqonda imfuno yakho yokwabelana kwaye ungaziva uwedwa.
Kwezinye iimeko, abathandekayo banokufumana iifom zabo zePTSD. Thatha isikhashana ukuqwalasela oku njengokuba kwenzeka. Akuqhelekanga ukuba isibini sibini sinezixhobo ze-PTSD, kwaye zombini bazama ukufika kwindawo apho amandla abo akwanele ukuxhasa omnye. Yilapho amaqela enkxaso kunye nabanye beza kudlala kakuhle. Nonke nifuna ukuxhaswa ukuze ukwazi ukujamelana nale disorder ndawonye.
Kwabathandwa
Ukuba uthando lwakho olutsha lusandula uhambo lwakhe kunye ne-PTSD unokuba neengxaki ezininzi. Akukho namnye kuthi othanda ukubona umntu ephazamisayo, kwaye ukubona umntu obathandayo bebuhlungu kunokuzilimaza. Hlola ezi ngcamango ngendlela iPTSD kumntu omthandayo inokukuchaphazela ngayo , ukuze uzinakekele njengoko ufikelela kumntu othandayo.
Khumbula, Ulawula
Ekugqibeleni, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuba awunayo ukutyhila i-PTSD yakho kunoma ubani ngaphambi kokuba ulungele. Ulawulo. Unquma ukuba ubani oza kuxela ukuxilongwa kwakho kwixesha nangakanani.
I-PTSD ayizange ibe ngumqondiso wobuthathaka, kwaye akusoze iphoso lomntu onokuxilongwa. Ukuzibandakanya nabantu abaqondayo, banakekele kwaye bancedise kakhulu unokunciphisa kakhulu i-stigma malunga nokuxilongwa kwe-PTSD kunye nokunceda ekubuyiseni. I-PTSD ingaba luxilongo olunzima ukuhlangabezana nayo; nangona kunjalo, ukubuyiswa kuya kwenzeka.
Imithombo:
Diehle, J., Brooks, S., noN. Greeberg. . I-Psychiatry ne-Psychiatric Epidemiology 2017. 52 (1): 35-44.