Uninzi lwabantu luyazi okanye lusebenza kunye (okanye luye lwadibana) nomntu obonakala ngathi usasaza ukungabi nantoni yonke indawo. Imizekelo ibandakanya umlingane osebenza naye ohlala ekhononda malunga nendlela engekho kakuhle ngayo inkampani okanye umngane ongenakuze abonakale ebona into entle (kwaye engazange afune ukukuxelela konke ngako). Lawa ngabantu abanetyhefu ebomini bakho.
Emva kwengxoxo nomntu onobuthi, iimeko zakho ziza kuba ziphantsi. Enyanisweni, unokuba luhlaza okwexesha elide, ucinga ngezinto zonke ezimbi kwindawo yakho yokusebenzela okanye isondo sakho sesentlalo.
Umntu ongalungileyo, nangona kunjalo, ngoku angabonakala elonwabileyo - ulayishe zonke iingcamango zakhe ezingenamandla namandla phezu kwakho, kwaye xa wenza oko, uya kuba novuyo. Le nto ibonakaliswa ngumntu onobungozi - ebenokukukhathaza kakhulu, uyavuya kakhulu, ubuncinci ixesha elithile.
Isihluthulelo sokujongana nabantu abetyhefu ebomini bakho kukunciphisa umnxibelelwano wakho kunye nokuqonda ukuba kwenzekani xa beqala ukuchasana nokungahambi kakuhle. Emva kokuba ufunde ukuba ungayitholi loo mfuneko, kufuneka ukwazi ukujamelana nabo ngokulula.
Ngoobani Abantu Abangcolileyo Ebomini Bakho?
Abantu abanetyhefu yilabo abakhalazayo ngaso sonke ixesha. Baye bahlala bebetyala. Basenokuhlala bejikeleza izinto izinto ocinga ukuba zenzile kakubi ngokukhawuleza.
Banyamezela kwiziganeko ezimbi.
Abantu abanetyhefu banokukhipha amandla akho. Unokuqala ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla anemvakalelo ezama ukuyivuselela. Bangakuhlambalaza ngokungahambi kakuhle kwabo ukuze usebenzise amandla okuzama ukuwukhupha. Mhlawumbi ukungaqiniseki kwabo kukuphazamisa, okanye bahlala bethukuthele.
Bangaba yimilenze abazondla ngokwabo bakhuthaza ukuba banike ithemba lakho okanye amandla.
Abantu abanezifo zengqondo ezifana nengxaki yokuguquguquka kwengqondo , ukudandatheka okukhulu okanye ukunyamezela okubangelwa ukunyamezela kungabakhokelela kubantu abanetyhefu kuba sele bevalelekile kwiimvakalelo ezimbi . Ngokomzekelo, umntu onentsholongwane ye-bipolar ophakathi kwesiganeko esixubekileyo okanye ecinezelekileyo unokunokubamba ubuthathaka kunokwamanye abantu, kwaye oko kungenza loo mntu ibe lula ukujongana nabantu abetyhefu. Nangona kunjalo, abantu abanetyhefu banokuchaphazela nabani na.
Ukutshatyalalisa abantu abetyhefu (kunye nokuwavala phantsi)
Ngaba uyazi umntu ohlala evakalelwa ecindezelekileyo, enomsindo okanye ekhathele nje? Cinga ngalo mntu. Ingaba ungummangali? Umntu ohlala ekulindele ukuba izinto zihambe kakuhle? Umntu ohlala ephosakela nawe? Ngaba uhlala ebonakala evuyayo emva kokuba ephikisana nawe?
Ukuba kukho enye okanye ngaphezulu kwale yinyaniso, mhlawumbi unomntu onobuthi ezandleni zakho.
Ukuba unendlela elula yokufumana lo mntu ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakho, uya kuba ngcono ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, ngokuqhelekileyo akulula kakhulu - xa umntu onobuthi uyintsebenziswano okanye ilungu lentsapho okanye nokuba ngumhlobo omdala, unokuthi unamathele.
Ukuba ngumntu osebenza kunye kunye neengxaki kusondele, kukho i-excuse efanelekileyo (into ecaleni kwimizila ethi "Ndilungile phantsi kwomoya ondikhathazayo" okanye "Ndingafumana umsebenzi omningi xa ndingenakulungile ngumshicileli ") ukuba ideskiti yakho ihambe? Ukuba umntu ufuna ukukhalaza, unokuzama ukumthumela kumphathi wesigxina, uze uphinde ubuye usebenze umsebenzi wakho. Unokuphinda uphinda la maxesha amaninzi ngaphambi kokufumana isicatshulwa.
Ngamalungu entsapho kunye nabahlobo, kunokwenzeka ukuba kunzima, kuba akukho ndlela elula yokususa umntu onobungozi ebomini bakho.
Ukuba unomhlobo onobungozi obunzima, ungadinga ukunciphisa ixesha ochitha naye.
Ukuba unenkxalabo ngokumcaphukisa, nqunqa ukutyelela kwakho kwiinyanga ezininzi ngoko kungabi nakubonakalayo (unokuthi uqaphele nangona kunjalo, nangona kunjalo).
Xa umntu onobungozi ilungu lentsapho, kunokwenzeka ukuba akhuthaze loo mntu ukuba athathe unyango, oluye ludinga ukuxazulula umba ongaphantsi kwimeko yokungabi nantoni. Ukuba akunjalo, kufuneka uqeqeshwe ukukhawuleza xa ukukhalaza kwakhe, ukufunyanwa kwephulo nokuziphatha kwamanzi kuqala.
Ngaphantsi
Ukuphuma kubantu abanesifo esinobuthi kunokunceda, kodwa kukho amaxesha (kokubili emsebenzini nasemndenini nakwintlalo yoluntu) xa ukuphepha kungenakwenzeka. Ngelo xesha ufanele uqaphele ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha indlela yomnye umntu ... kodwa ungatshintsha yakho.
Ukuba umntu owaziyo usoloko edala uxinzelelo, umsindo, okanye ukhathala kuwe, hlola indlela osabela ngayo xa uqala ukungabi nantoni, uze ubone ukuba ukutshintsha indlela oziphendulela ngayo kunceda. Ukuba impendulo yakho ayifaki ingxaki kwingxaki, okanye ukuba awukwazi ukwenza utshintsho olunjalo, fumana indlela yokunciphisa ubukho balobu bomi bakho. Kuya kuba kuhle kwimpilo yakho.