Ukufunda ukuphatha kakuhle abantu abaxinzelelekileyo akusona lula. Abantu abaninzi banenkxwaleko yabasebenzi abasebenzisana nabo abenza imisebenzi yabo nzima okanye iintsapho kunye nabahlobo abanokuthi bangakwazi ukuba nefuthe elibi, okanye bafumana uneliseko oluthile kulo. Kwiimvakalelo ezininzi ezinokuthi zivela ekujonganeni nabantu abanzima, ininzi iya kugqiba ukuxinezeleka kwengqondo , eyona mbulali.
Ukuxinezeleka kuye kwaba yinkalo yezifundo ezininzi zophando oluzinikezele kwimpilo kunye nempilo (okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, izifo) kwaye kuboniswe ukuba nefuthe eliqhubekayo kwimeko yengqondo yakho kunye nempilo yenyama.
Ukulawula uxinzelelo kunye nabantu abayibangela
Wonke umntu uhlangabezana neengcinezelo zansuku zonke . Ezinye zilindeleke okanye ziqheleke. Abanye basimangalisa. Ngandlela-thile, kufuneka siphethe umgangatho wentsingiselo yonke imihla, kunye nexesha elininzi, senza ngaphandle kokucinga ngako.
Kodwa kusekho amaxesha amaninzi xa kufuneka senze umgudu wokuzama ukujongana noxinzelelo, kwaye ukujongana nabantu abaxinezelekileyo okanye "abanobuthi" bodwa nje. Enoba izenzo zabo ziphazamisekile, zikhohlakele, okanye ziphikisa, indlela efanelekileyo yokusebenza nabantu abanexinzelelo kukuba iqhube kakuhle kwaye ifunde indlela yokuyilawula nokucinezeleka kwakho.
Indlela yokuLawula abantu abaneengcinezelo
Nazi izicwangciso ezinhlanu zokufunda indlela yokuphatha abantu abaxinzelelekileyo:
1. Qhubeka
Ngenxa yokuba uye wambambisana nalo mntu ngaphambili, mhlawumbi ungadlala le meko entloko yakho. Unokwazi ngokucacileyo oko bahambayo. Sebenzisa olo lwazi ukugqiba oko uza kukwenza. Qinisekisa kwaye unqume kwangaphambili ukuba ufuna ukujongana njani nesimo kwaye unamathela kwisicwangciso.
Ungasifumana eso sigqibo lula kunokuba uhlale ukwesaba okanye ukungabi nantoni phambi kokuhlangana, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kungcono kunokungena ngaphandle kwesicwangciso.
2. Lawula impendulo yakho
Umntu ongenanto unamandla amakhulu. Ukuba umntu uyakucasula ngenxa yokuba benza ntoni, bathetha ntoni, okanye oko bakukholelwayo, zibuze: "Kutheni ndikhathalele?" Awukwazi ukuguqula okanye ukulawula abantu, kodwa unokulawula indlela owasabela ngayo kubo. Ngokuthatha amandla impendulo yakho nokuphendulela ezandleni zakho awukunikezeli kuphela umqobo wokukhusela, kodwa unokuthatha nje amandla kuwo.
3. Musa ukufumana ibhasi labo
Abantu abaxinezelekileyo baya kuzama ukukuthabatha xa behamba nabo. Bathukuthele, uyacaphuka, kwaye ukukrazula kwenzeka. Baya buhlungu, uhlala uhlunguzekile, kwaye wonke umntu uyazisola. Musa ukuhamba ngebhasi yabo yebhasi. Mamela, uthethe, kwaye uthethe, kodwa ungawavumeli ukuba alawule ngokubangela iimvakalelo ezingekho mfuneko.
4. Yazi into oyifunayo
Xa udibana nomntu oxinezelekileyo, qaphela kwangaphambili into oyifunayo kwiintlanganiso. Ziziphi iinjongo zakho? Gcina ezo njongo ngqondweni njengoko incoko ibbs and flows. Yenza intetho kwakhona kwiinjongo zakho. Ukuba unokufumana iinjongo zakho, ufunde indlela yokujongana nalo mntu.
5. Musa ukuhlala
Emva kokuhlangana kwakho nomntu ogxininisa kakhulu, musa ukuhlala kuyo. Ukuba izinto zihamba kakubi, yenza okusemandleni akho ukulungisa okanye uqhubeke. Unokuqiniseka ukuba umntu ocinezelayo akacingi ngawe kwaye uya kwixhoba elilandelayo. Ungavumeli ukusebenzisana okuxinzelelekileyo kubonakalise yonke imihla yakho. Oko kuthetha, unokuzama ukufunda kumava akho kwaye wenze isicwangciso ngexesha elizayo xa unjalo kuloo meko uze uvumeleke.